Can two desperate people make each other happy?

[Rose_84]

They say if you're desperate then you end up attracting people who will ignore you or not respect you.

But what if both are desperate for each other?

I met a cute guy online tried my shot and he's as excited to talk to me.
He's desperate too because even if I don't say something he texts something always, keep asking questions and always ready to talk.

We just met online a day ago.
He is being more friendly as compared to me. I'm getting so turned on.

I'm literally so desperate and tired of being devoid of male affection for years.

Will this casual affair be good or should I back down?

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And about that, I was the one who avoided relationships for years because I wanted to finish my education first.

[Guy__]

Yes.
But we can't predict if you'll have a lifelong monogamous reltionship or whatever you want just based on that you're both eager at the moment.

[Rose_84]

The thing is I have the ability to commit and stick to my word. That's why I only chose one guy, if I were disloyal combined with desperate then I would have been in many men's DM. I only am fixated at one person but can't say the same for him. That's why I'm not taking it to my heart unless I'm sure.

[WindAtMyBack]

Sure, it can work. I could see a tight bond forming.

Realistically just about any combination of people can work. I'm learned not to second guess why two people are together. If it works it works.

[LazerBean]

Maybe, but highly unlikely. If you can't even make yourself happy, you certainly aren't going to be able to make yourself AND someone else happy.

[Rose_84]

You're right and I was proved right. He really is more desperate than me when I checked his old self written posts and following. I'm heartbroken.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Rose_84 So, because he's "more desperate" than you, in your opinion, now you don't want him? SMH.

[Rose_84]

@Jamie05rhs no that's not the main reason but the issue is he's looking others as well but meanwhile I'm only fixated on him. So I don't want to be played with again. I'm desperate but loyal.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Rose_84 He's probably looking at others because you're not his girlfriend.

Let me give you this challenge:
Ask him to commit to you and be exclusive. See what happens. :)

[Rose_84]

@Jamie05rhs great

[Jamie05rhs]

👍😀

[Anonymous]

If you're too desperate you can get taken advantage of. Just take your time at 22 you have plenty of it.

[Rose_84]

You're right, thanks. After a nap, I suddenly felt bad that why am I doing this? I'm not the type to encourage guys who are this desperate at first meeting. But loneliness got the best of me, it will take time to resist it and I'm also someone who wants long term relationships forever, but seeing how real world is, I feel it's impossible to find someone as loyal and honest.

[Opinion Owner]

I am not saying you can't date the guy. Just don't ignore any red flags and don't rush through relationship milestones. Take the time to get to know him properly; so you don't end up surprised by who is later on.

[Rose_84]

Exactly I already am a little surprised so I'll keep my guard up. Especially after facing betrayals in the past. I didn't told him when he asked certain things. Thanks anon. Xoxo.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome

[Anonymous]

If you're truly "desperate" (which is a word I don't think should be used in most cases as a lot of the time it's not actually that), but you have to be careful you don't make the wrong choices (ie just be with the first person that comes along, and you aren't really attracted to them or like them even). But if that's not the case, great! Also (in your case right now especially), communication is a MUST. If you see this as an "affair" or fling, as long as you're honest with him about relationship intentions, then it's fine. It's only when you selfishly use them that it's wrong (ie let them believe it might be something more when you have no intentions of that from the start).

[Rose_84]

He was selfishly using me. He lied to me about his age, life, personality, friends and every thing possible just to make me his girlfriend.

[Rose_84]

Ironically I caught him following other hot girls too. But in my case I was seriously committed even if we didn't started dating.

[FilmGuy93]

In theory. Desperate people end up trying get attention wherever they can get it though. They would probably just end up using and hurting each other.

[Rose_84]

Wow so accurate.

[IJhonnyI]

To be honest there's phases if there's nothing that u see wrong then there's no reason to back down if your seeing problems/red flags then yes back down asap

[Jamie05rhs]

This is a really sweet situation. I 100% want your relationship to succeed. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help. I'm rooting for you!! 😍

[Rose_84]

I know even I felt the same and wanted it to last.

[Jamie05rhs]

It still can! Don't give up yet. You haven't even tried!

[Jamie05rhs]

Although, I'm slightly concerned by the terminology you used in your post. Why did you choose to use the words "casual affair"? Casual affairs don't work, honey.

[Mikeysoda]

Or just end up using each other, subconsciously, in different aspects. Which is never beneficial in the long run.

[DarkWinterNights]

Just be careful. Even if you’re intentions are pure, you don’t have the dating experience and someone could use that to take advantage of you.

[Whatever2929292]

This is true. If you are desperate and you find another desperate person. I also don't think being clingily is a bad thing IF you find another clingily person. But if you don't you are going to do nothing but drive the other person crazy lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope. They’ll still be two desperate people, making each other even more desperate.

[SeekingVirginWife]

Maybe he is a cannibal preparing for a food shortage.

[Rose_84]

Woahh

[Kichbazp_]

Yes May be but Most likely No !

[Rose_84]

Because one of them is a desperate cheater but the other one is a desperate life time commitment material.

[Kichbazp_]

@Rose_84 Two unsuccessful people can't make a Big Story

[Rose_84]

Hell yeah, one of them will surely screw up and get tempted elsewhere.

[Alex8736]

Not always the case. Everything has pro's and cons

[In_Trance]

Maybe

[Iron_Man]

Maybe