Why did he ghosted me when firstly seems so interested?

[Lyhra4]

Can't get over a guy who ghosted me out of the blue after been talking with me one week. He wanted to have sex the day we met at the club, but then I texted him and he talked about a week. I went on vacations and told him when I came back we would schedule something and he said I'll be waiting. so I texted him when I came back and he never replied anymore. driving insane with this 😭. Should I text him. again?

[coldmarch]

Well, first of all the premise speaks by itself: he wasn't interested to know you more, he was currently looking for sex for the most. Then he kept talking to "keep you there", I guess, but if he is looking for sex, most likely he is now chatting with another girl or had sex with her, or something. He got what he wanted so he doesn't need to keep you there anymore.
Ghosting drives anyone insane and I consider it a psychological -torture-, not just an abuse, and I think the other person should always have the minimum guts to tell a clear refuse with motivations, but that's not a widespreaded practice.
I suggest to not spend more energy behind this guy and do something to move on, such as meeting other guys or blocking his contact in order to not find yourself waiting for a message, anymore.
Afterall, what's the loss? He wasn't interested in "you", apparently, so there is a loss only if you were also looking for sexual hookups, and missed the chance to get his body. But if it's just for a body, plenty of bodies... Just like he probably went to another female body too. If you want a relationship I think you should look for someone who also looks for a relationship, not sexual hookups, or anyway to stay away when you detect intentions that are too different than yours, because it's a loss of time and energy.

[Lyhra4]

I just would like to stop blaming myself. Cause all I'm constantly thinking is that I'm not good/pretty enough and that's why he left me. 😔

[Lyhra4]

@coldmarch could you please message me? I would like to talk to you, you seem to be a very wise person and I would like to really hear more advices.

[Guy13]

It’s just a dick…why are you crying 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Lyhra4]

Because I really had a crush on him and thought he had different intentions. 😔