A guy ghosted me about a month ago, but every time I’ve seen him since he stopped, stared at me and held eye contact until I look away and walk on. Does he miss me or something?
He ghosted me so why does he still keep on staring?
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He misses the relationship and/or the sex. Just move on... he is the one who ghosted you. Were you sexually involved with him?
No, we hadn’t got to that point, very flirty and lots of that sort of chat, but we hadn’t hooked up.
Is this the guy that used to compliment you and then suddenly stopped talking to you because you thought it had something to do with this new girl?
Nope! I guess you think I’m someone re asking a question?
Huh?
Sounded like you thought I was someone else?
Unfortunately he never complimented me that much and I have no idea about another girl. Probably is someone else but I’ve not seen him with anyone else.
Oh ok, I guess you’re not her.
For an answer to your question, i do t think he’s staring at you because he misses you. He just wanted to see how you were taking the rejection. Maybe he somewhat feels bad, but he had to do it, because he doesn’t feel attraction for you like that or doesn’t see it working out in the long run, and it wouldn’t be fair to you.
That would make sense, it’s fair enough but sad as I would’ve been happy to just be friends. I wish he’d just been honest and told me, we’d been pretty honest with each other up until that point.
Then play it cool and maybe he’ll come around and you two can start being friends again. He probably thinks it easier for you if he distances himself so he doesn’t give the wrong impression
And one sided love is not something you want to pursue so slow is good in my book
You're not ghosted. You wouldn't see him at all if you were ghosted.
Fair comment, but how would you describe it?
He’s cut off communication, ignoring the last two texts I sent him. And before I get grief for sending a second message, I didn’t want to assume he was ignoring me, incase he was just busy. So I sent another one a week after the first and he didn’t respond to that either. That was over a month ago and despite seeing and staring at me he’s made no attempt to speak to me.
Great question. I guess the first thing I'd ask before hazarding a guess would be
1. What was the last activity you did together before he stopped communication?
2. What did your two texts say?
3. Where and how are you both seeing each other? Dog park? Grocery store? Work together?
1. We were just chatting by text, talking about getting together for drinks.
3. I know him from work, we work in the same building but totally different areas.
2. And as for my message I’d passed him one day when he was on a personal call on his own phone. He looked worried so rather than bother him then (obviously busy) I sent a message the next day to see if he was ok and I was a good listener if he wanted to chat.
The second message said, I could take the hint he was no longer interested, but it would be nice if he could let me know rather just leave me hanging. I didn’t rant, or go crazy or nasty, I just tried to be straightforward.
He’d not replied to my messages before and I’d waited for a few days before sending a jokey message then and he’d been quick to answer saying not to worry he just had a lot on.
I try to be chill about that and I don’t send loads of pointless messages.
Appreciate the extra information.
Two things come to mind. But first, I think that he is trying to ghost you so my apologies for my snarky first comment.
The two things I'm thinking are:
1. He's married or in a relationship and his flirting got out of hand and you're actually interested in meeting and he got cold feet.
2. Because of the work thing he realized that some talking and flirting was getting out of hand.
I guess a bizarre third possibility is that he's a jerk and found someone else and is now trying to put the brakes on talking to you.
All that said, sorry. Shitty when people aren't mature enough to break of a conversation like an adult.
Yup and thanks! The marriage thing was mentioned by my mate, but honestly I think he’s too immature to be married, a long term girlfriend maybe?
Honestly, I wasn’t that into him, but a thanks, but no thanks would’ve been nice! The staring just threw me a bit. When I’d been ghosted before I’d been blocked and properly cut off so it was a bit confusing!
Thanks for the advise.
You're welcome.
Yeah, the immaturity of not saying anything is absurd.