I went on a date last night with a guy. We were texting for a few weeks before the date. We seemed to get on really well over text and his replies were quite frequent. He seemed really keen on the date and was complimenting me, seemed really into me, was holding my hand and we shared a kiss at the end of the night. Everything seemed to go really well and then today I’ve barely heard from him at all, it’s like he’s ghosting me and phasing me out.
I noticed that he shared a lot with me on the date and told me that he had bought a house with his ex girlfriend of four years but then decided suddenly to cut off the relationship and break up with her after they bought the house together. He also seems to be ‘busy’ a lot of the time when he’s not replying to me
This would definitely explain why he was very flaky with me the day after the date. Do you think he has avoidant attachment style and can’t commit?
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Dang that's rough. I feel like if he was being all into you during the date and now all the sudden isn't responding seems kinda weird. Maybe he's just got a lot going on with the ex stuff and buying a house is a lot of responsibility. Could be he's afraid of commitment since it didn't work out with his ex and they had a whole house together. That's awkward. I'd give him some space but also let him know you wanna see him again if he's interested still. If he keeps being flakey tho then maybe he's just not ready to date someone new yet. Don't wanna waste your time if he's not over the ex. Hope it works out but don't wait around too long if he doesn't come around.