Is this typical guy behavior?

[Aphrodite_Love]

... This guy has a girlfriend a couple of years ago he and I did actually sleep together once while he's been in the relationship. And he would have done it again had I allowed it. five months ago when I asked if I could massage him. (I wasn't implying anything sexual I've actually gone to school for Massage Therapy) He told me he would love to but that he doesn't think it's a good idea. And that he's trying to be a good boy. I guess saying he doesn't want to cheat. So I started talking to another guy and when he saw me talking to the other guy. He was trying to get my attention. When he saw me talking to the other guy the first time. He walked by us saying he liked my scarf. The second time he saw us talking he walked over to where we were and started talking.

I don't get why he was trying to be in my business when he has a girlfriend...

[dynamicyandere]

It sounds like he cheated on his girlfriend once with you but he doesn’t want to keep doing it, probably because of guilt.


At the same time, the attention you’re giving to other guys is making him feel jealous. He wants you to stay attracted to him.


He’s being selfish, wanting to have his cake and eat it too. He doesn’t want his girlfriend to leave and neither does he want you to leave. He wants you both.


He’s being sleazy. You shouldn’t enable him. Heck, his girlfriend should be told what happened so you can both leave him.


He wants more and more female attention to boost his ego and make him feel validated but he’s going about it in a very dishonorable way. He’s being deceitful, selfish, and insecure.


As for you, well. I hope you don’t do this in the future. Cheating isn’t good for anyone that’s involved. Swinging, open-relationships, and polyamory is one thing. But, cheating is never okay.

[Aphrodite_Love]

Yes, but why would he be jealous of me talking to other men when he has a girlfriend?

[dynamicyandere]

He wants both of you. If he could have it his way, I’m sure he’d like a polygamous arrangement.

[dynamicyandere]

And the reason why he wants to keep you too is likely because he’s not completely satisfied with his girlfriend.

[Guy13]

Men, when they are not sure where they stand/feel in current relationship, will reach out into the single world. He is trying to test the waters without getting deep enough to know. He knows one side is good…doesn’t like seeing other guys receiving the emotional or “connected” side. He’s likely disconnected from girlfriend and connected at some level with you. Can this one “you” be the whole he’s been wanting….

[PatriceONeal]

You asked to massage him becuase you like him. Girls don't give out massages to ugly guys or guys they don't like lol. He wants to keep your attention maybe he doesn't know your intentions so won't risk his relationship just in case it really is just a massage. You being coy has left him with mixed signals. You like him but won't be vulnerable.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's a bit difficult to say what I think about his behaviour without condemning yours too. See what I wanna say is, he has no morals by cheating on her in the first place.. now what's your excuse for it?

[Avicenna]

Nah, not typical

[Aphrodite_Love]

Can you elaborate?

[In_Trance]

Stop...