Is this odd behavior coming from a guy?

[theresyourgravy]

I genuinely can’t tell if this guy hates me or what. The first time i met him, i was walking with my friend and he gave a look like🤨. And was “hello?” so we said hello back and he kinda just looked at us like there was something wrong with us. The second time was in the mini lounge area on my dorms floor. We’re all on the same floor. The lounge area is for you to do homework, study, call family, and etc. So i went in there because i wanted to call my grandma. but he was already in there, so he was like “sorry” because he knew i probably wanted to be the only one there. so i was like “oh no it’s fine” so i just walked towards to the seat near him. then he was like “oh well i’m on the phone with someone” basically letting me know like he didn’t want me in there i guess? so i left. then later that day, i saw him and gave him a small smile which he returned. then the next day i saw him and waved. he didn’t wave back or smile, he just walked away. now if we see each other, we just look at each other for a few seconds and that’s it. i don’t understand. what does this mean?

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i saw him again in the dining hall so i waved and he didn’t do anything. but he sat in the booth beside me. he was with his friend, eric. the second i left, i saw the guy mock my wave to him, he didn’t see that i saw though because his back was towards him. but his friend eric saw that i saw and he was smiling. but in conclusion, this guy is rude

[Anonymous]

Some people don’t want to form relationships with others. It sets a precedent. A pattern. Expectations. “Oh there’s so-and-so again, smile and wave and ask them about their day. Don’t wanna come off as rude...” 🤷‍♂️

When really you just want to go to class, go to your dorm room, or go meet someone to hang out or whatever.

I mean I’m kind of that guy. Like if I see someone I know out in public I’ll make sure they don’t see me. I’ll turn around and check my phone or change how fast I’m walking or whatever. It sounds like a lot of work, but I’m an introvert. Talking with people can be draining, even more so when it is unexpected. It doesn’t mean I don’t like the person or I’d freak out if we did bump into one another, it’s just that I’d rather not. 🤷‍♂️

[Aelleden]

As an answer to your edit:
Glad you figured out

[Aelleden]

I don't know how you feel about him but I'm afraid he's playing with you.

This is a very toxic behaviour that some men do, and you need to get out of it asap.
Basically to explain the process, he's trying to show you he doesn't like you, so you're gonna be concerned about it and if you like him a bit you will try to be liked by him, subconcsiously.

At some point, he's gonna be nice with you and make you see that he likes you, briefly, you're gonna like that and you will start craving this moment where he likes you more and more.
Then he will resume showing he dislikes you and you're gonna be stuck in a very toxic loop like that.

This are some psychological tricks that some guys do, just avoid them like the plague, they will just use you and destroy you from the inside.

[Nye221]

I wouldn't say he hates you. If he did he probably wouldn't pay you much attention to begin with. Not sure how he thinks of you because there's not enough background but if you want to know for sure just ask him.

[theresyourgravy]

i would ask him like “do you have a problem with me” but it might make him defensive or upset

[Nye221]

You know what, he could be socially awkward or unsure of how to be around you. If he's like this around other girls then it's obviously the former.

[Guy13]

He is smitten and you are attractive. He's a little intimidated given the Frown/Hello. Unless you give him very clear he will not get rejected signs THEN he will never close the Deal... Make sense?

[theresyourgravy]

i don’t know how to let him know that he won’t get rejected. i honestly feel like he doesn’t want me around him but you could be right

[Guy13]

"There's no way a girl like this can like me" At one time in my life I was around lots of beautiful and dynamic women.-They could attract a man but not get one... or keep one. You might be one of those as PERCEIVED by guys.

[OlderAndWiser]

Instead of trying to interpret minor clues in his behavior, why not just go for it and ask him if he'd like to get a pizza together Friday night?

[bowenw]

I get the impression he currently doesn't have feelings for you one way or the other.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Offer him to go for coffee or pop and even lunch see what he says

[BJP21]

Sounds like you're both having an awkward meeting moment. It might be an omen that he likes you.

[Summeroflove]

I have no idea. Some people are unfriendly

[spartan55]

It means you both suck at basic communication.

[BLP11520]

Write him off, move on