Is this just normal guy behavior?

[pink_and_inlove]

Yesterday I was very surprised because my dad told my cousin to get him and his step sister or kinda step sister some beers to get her to (have sex) like he was actually giving him tips about how to get sex with her I was shocked to hear my own dad say that he also asked my cousin if he was gay or kinda implied it my cousin says that he does not want sex with her at all. Is this just how guys talk to each other or is this just what assholes do? My dad is very sweet with us so I was surprised also I think it’s very messed up that society encourages men to get laid and if a woman does get laid she is considered a whore that makes no sense. My dad also said something like a guy would have sex with a rat if he could ( kind of implying why it’s okay to have sex with that girl). I was so disturbed like wtf my own father. I hope that this isn’t how most men think.

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+1 y

His step sister is my cousin too or kind of is and she just turned 18

[Berethor]

You asking if pervert behavior is normal for guys? well it's not uncommon, and as mentioned in the overprotective dad trope, if a father has a son, he may applaud or encourage him if he treats girls in the exact way he doesn't want other guys to treat his own daughter, there is some moral myopia at play here. As for why guys are encouraged to act in a sexual manner while girls don't, it's because men are like key, while women are like lock, and there is biological reasons for that, like the fact that girls can get pregnant, while guys don't, so girls are expected to be more selective, though to say that a guy would fuck a rat is exaggeration, unless a guy is very drunk and/or very desperate. The whole step sister thing sounds like a porn scenario, you said that she turned 18, but how old is your cousin? well at least your dad waited until she turn 18 before he start pushing your cousin to have sex with his step sister, also you can say that your dad want to bring the family closer. :)

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[Effably]

Disregarding the rat comment, I find that a little tacky, this very well could just be them poking fun. Your dad could very well be using the slightly socially unacceptable suggestion of his to break the ice and make them both complicit. Which in turn, if done right, could lower a potential taboo of admitting the guy likes guys. So on.

It also could just be your dad thinking his step sister is hot. Who knows really.

As men our haphazard simplicity can make it a little tricky to spot when we are being more considerate. As a fellow guy I feel very confident I would have been able to tell what the actual conversation was.

I'd suggest you look at the displayed comfort/discomfort of the other person. If they were at ease that says a lot. If they were progressively more or less at ease, that says a lot too.

[Jjpayne]

I think it's part of guy culture to encourage other guys to get the girl and be intimate with her and it's up to the girls dad's to prevent that from happening 😂

But overall, it's kinda of the way into manhood or adulthood

But it's the dad and son talk about sex and how and how to properly do it. But to be fair, it should be discussed in a respectable and healthy way though

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It's sad how some Men treat Women, I grew up and learned to treat Women the right way I never had my Father in my life, He was always going to his friend's house or he came home sick from drinking too much at the bar... I'm so glad I never took to drinking cause it ruins so many relationships and marriages it did my parents and I remember waking up at night hearing my parents fighting over my father wanted sex and my mother ( late) would always say she wasn't sleeping with a drunk or having sex with a drunk this was totally wrong for them to put the cousins on the spot and your father was in the wrong no offense please (( Hugs ))

[jasco]

Ok well one that's weird 2 any male that has a ounce of dignity will not just have sex with anyone. 3 anyone who tells you to have sex with your cousin is just a bad influence and no this is not how guys talk to each other

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m stilll shocked

[pink_and_inlove]

My dad is so sweet but he used to be a player back then

[jasco]

Yea of course he is sweet its how players or ex players are.

[pink_and_inlove]

He’s not sweet to my mom though he’s fat now and he used to be a bodybuilder that’s when he got a lot of chicks lol

[Jamie05rhs]

You have told us about your father's dating history before. So I'm kinda not surprised. Though it is still disappointing that his views haven't changed by now.

[pink_and_inlove]

Some things he have said have left me with my mouth open Im confused if he’s an ass or a good person sometimes also the other day I said that it wasn’t fair that men could sleep with whoever they want but women can’t and he said that it was because women were perras or bitches basically

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t think he cheated on my mom before. But he could be seeing someone now because they don’t consider themselves to be together anymore

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t know I just can’t deal with hispanic men and their toxic masculinity. That’s why I don’t date them they’re very macho and stuff they’re mind set is pretty fucked up maybe not all but I feel like a lot are

[Jamie05rhs]

Omg- he said the "P" word? Wow haha

[Jamie05rhs]

"I don’t think he cheated on my mom before. But he could be seeing someone now because they don’t consider themselves to be together anymore"
WHAT? NOOOO! WHY?

[pink_and_inlove]

They want to get a divorce but they’re together for us

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay.

[Sevenpointfive]

haha, that's how you were made. no wonder your mom is pissed

[pink_and_inlove]

That’s not how I was made they were married

[Sevenpointfive]

but i bet he got her really drunk to have sex

[pink_and_inlove]

No they loved each other my mom was a virgin until marriage

[Gooblegobble]

It’s not normal behavior. Your dad is a severe creep and you should be careful around him.

[Ripper_E]

Guys to help each other or give advice, but I disagree with the rest. Guys don't just have sex with anyone or anything.

[that1guy19]

That's creepy af. But yes good friends do give each other advice on how to get laid. It's not usually family or dads giving advice that's weird

[m2hard4sum1sbum]

Was your Dad drunk?

Most likely he is worried that your cousin is gay and he wants to help him be straight.

PM me if you want to talk more.

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[Familyfun69]

Your dad has fantasies of incest and little girls. It’s normal. Most people do. In fact, most children experience high levels of sexual activity with on family member or another. Highly common in siblings from ages 4-whenever

[Anonymous]

Well, some guys can be like that with their friends, however not with family members. That's not "normal" no.

[Makeushiver]

No, it's not. I think about sex quite a bit but a bit more discreetly an politely.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

sounds like he was teasing your cousin and goading him into sex

[Deku2009]

This is actually shocking if they are related by name.

[TallAnon]

Your dad sounds like my dad 🙃

[mrgspoter]

That's fucked up, and ye a lot are sick

[Lonelywolfxl]

Sorry but most men think that way

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s awful!!!