Is this a red flag or normal guy behavior?

[Anonymous]

Would you consider it a red flag if, after going on a date with a guy earlier in the week (the moment I got home, I had already received a text from him saying it was nice meeting me and that he had a great night), we've been texting back and forth, sometimes exchanging messages within minutes, but other times it takes hours or even until the next day for him to respond?

He keeps asking questions, so I'd say he's keen. Am I overthinking it, or is this just a guy thing?

He hasn't shown as having read my latest message, which I sent around 4pm yesterday, but I imagine he's seen it, and it's almost been 24 hours.

I've checked occasionally throughout the day today, and one time it did show him online, but only for a minute or so.

He did say yesterday in one of his messages that he had some errands to run and had work and house stuff to catch up on, but I can't imagine that he couldn't spare a minute to reply.

[SueShe]

That is the problem of people that are just infatuated and that have the feeling that texting back and forth will go on ad vitam aeternam.

Texting nonstop and/or expecting instant replies may be fun for a few hours or days but after a while, it becomes a chore because it implies that one has to be permanently near the phone.

I believe you overthink the entire situation but also, after a while, people have nothing new to say and it will take a while to come up with new topics to talk about. Also, men are known not to be in a hurry to answer. However, a progressively delay in answer may also indicate that the novelty of texting with a person has faded and that it has become a chore rather than a pleasure.

There is no need to text back and forth like a ping pong ball. I would say that 5 or 6 texts a day would be the norm.

[JHNS98]

I actually had this constant texting thing with my previous girlfriend, and it was really exhausting. She basically wanted to be with me all the time, which I guess could be expected. But she totally disregarded my routines (martial arts training etc.), I had to tell her several times that she couldn't see me that night, which was also exhausting.

[SueShe]

@JHNS98 this texting business is like a gangrene. You cannot get rid of it and if you don't have pre-established guidelines, then the relationship is doomed because of the kind of expectancy the one or the other has and imposes.

[Sukaaa]

Okay okay I think you need to calm down and take a break from all of this I know it's hard it's not easy and it's a big deal but just don't overthink it you don't you barely know the guy and there's no guarantee for any future things just try to calm yourself down have no expectation because there's no guarantee or a chance that he's a good or a bad guy you have no idea just try to do something you would normally do try to find something that you like maybe go to the gym maybe go outside for the family friends shopping anything really Good luck

[Avicenna]

Sounds pretty normal to me.

[stratford]

You're overthinking it.

[In_Trance]

Normal