Is checking out other women normal guy behavior or the behavior of a cheater?
I didn't vote because I think it is neither 'normal' or 'cheating'.
I have been out with my boyfriend and have seen him check out other women, but hardly ever fortunately. This mainly happened at the beach, with women walking by half-naked or topless. I can forgive that because they were in a state of undress and its an unusual thing to see - I mean it was in his face so I can't exactly blame him for looking, but when he kept looking back that was too much for me. It still hurt when I was in a bikini next to him and he did it so blatantly. I discussed it with him and he understood that it was hurtful for me, especially when he made it so clear. However, I knew he wasn't going to go cheat on me. He's been cheated on and knows the pain. Just looking at others doesn't mean you're willing to betray your partner.
However, I hate when people say this is 'normal guy' behaviour. I get that there is likely some biological element to it that they can't control which may cause them to have a look, but surely you can tell if you are gawking etc. Especially in front of your girlfriend I think that's disrespectful.
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Personally, I think a guy noticing a beautiful woman or "appreciating" a beautiful woman is natural.
I think men AND women are kind of prone to look at someone attractive. I've been single for ages... I admit I look. I try not to be too obvious about it, though.
But being a JERK about it - being obvious, making comments to your girlfriend; that sort of thing, is NOT natural - and it's not cool. "Wow, I wish your tits were as great as hers..." is an ass comment, and that dude should be gone. It's not only "clueless," it's mean spirited. Yelling "AWOOOOOOOGA!" and "BOYOYOYOYOYOYOING!" and making vulgar moves is an ass move, single or not.
Now, WHEN in a relationship, I try to change the channel or not blatantly look for that sort of thing if it pops up on screen, or I try to ignore ads. We'd be watching TV, or walking by a large VS display - I'd look away. A Victoria's Secret commercial comes on, or a fitness commercial comes on, I'd quickly change the channel; I don't want that extra temptation. I'd try to make it easier to NOT look. Accidentally noticing a low cut gown and looking, as an accidental habit, from time to time, it happens. If that's an issue... then it will make a lot of problems...
I dated a girl who had a bit of a respect problem when it came to noticing guys when we'd be walking or sitting at a restaurant... Full on STARING... grunting. Crap like that. She could have looked for half a second, and not made it obvious, and it would have been way different than her panting and making little grunts and staring, or following with her head when a guy walked past (not just the eyes, but looking back). Not once in a while, but a lot. It didn't last long for many reasons, but that was something that was getting to be a problem.
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I voted normal guy but that's situational, I Chek out people all the time, maybe I notice something about them or something about they way they present their selves appeals to me, I tend to do it in a manner that's not completely obvious. It's not an indication that I'm cheating on my significant other or that I'm a cheater in general. I do not take offence if my lady ends up checking out some guy she would often bring it to my attention and tell me that I like his watch or how tall/well built he is or something in that regard, I know she's not a cheater as well. Im fully aware of my own short comings and so my lady doesn't feel awakrd when discussing such things with me and if it's something she would like me to adopt she just says it out loud. She loves my full bead but once in a while she would say see that guy he's fully shaved would you like to try that, and if I'm OK with it why not, it does feel great when you shave clean after carrying around all that facial hair.
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People look at things that attract our attention. Be it someone looks strange or someone that is attractive. Just as how if you hear a barking dog, you're going to look. Just as how if you hear running feet, you're going to look. Just as how if you hear a siren, you're going to look. See flashy lights, you're going to look. See a nice expensive car, you're going to look. They all attract attention & people look. It's instinctual. It's what kept our ancestors from being gobbled up by predators. Humans are a prey species (we don't have canines we are omnivores, we don't have claws, etc.) so we are more conscious of our surroundings. People that aren't are typically mug/assault victims, run over by traffic, etc., etc., etc.
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So it's natural for a guy (or gal) to look. If it becomes habitual. If the man (or woman) makes a blatant point of looking - a passing glance is normal. If the man (or woman) later comments did you see what that person was wearing, etc. Then you've a problem.
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I don’t really think this matters. Humans look at other humans. You never notice anyone else when you are oit it’s impossible to not look at people. I look at people all the time and often they think
im checking them out and that’s awkward but honestly I’m just looking bc I like to see human beings I think this it’s very very normal 🧐🤷♂️ And the fact im not but they may think I am checking them out illustrates that it can look that way is just to illustrate you can’t tell what’s happening internally just by outward appearance.
hmm pay attention to how many times you notice a guy or girl when out— even for a moment. I think you will be surprised how often it is 😊 -
Depends on their attitude towards it. If you clearly see them checking out another girl and they deny it, that's a problem. If he realizes what he did and tries to stop himself from doing it again, that's not as big of an issue. It's hard when you have to train yourself to stop staring when your hormones are telling you otherwise.
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Depends how he does it. It’s human nature to notice other attractive people and want to look at them, so once in a while if an attractive woman passes him by and he takes a quick glance, then I’d say that’s normal because I don’t think he was intentionally trying to be disrespectful. He probably did it without thinking. If he turned his head all the way around to keep staring at her and followed her with his eyes that’s different. I think that’s more intentional and extremely disrespectful to do in front of a partner. However it isn’t necessarily indicative of cheating but it does show disrespect and disregard for your feelings. If he does that a lot then it’s a problem. My ex was a jerk and would not only check other women out but make comments to me about how they are so hot and this hurt my feelings and made me insecure. If your man does this then just break up with him, I wish I broke up with my ex sooner.
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I definitely check out beautiful women. I don't ogle or make it real obvious. I even admire a particularly cute bod when I'm with my wife. She understands. She will even point one out on occasion. One time we were on a ferry in San Francisco and a girl on a passing sail boat flashed her tits. My wife nudged me and told me to look. She's great.
I would never cheat. I basically think of a beautiful female in the same way I think of anything that's beautiful. I'm not ashamed of appreciating cute puppies, gorgeous landscapes, flowers or art. Why would I not appreciate the female form? -
Look, guys are going to check out women. That's reality. Women should focus more on the context involving the act vs. the act itself.
Is he literally staring at her?
Is he ignoring you or losing track of the conversation to stare at her?
Is he intentionally checking her out more than once in the same social event?
Is he taking action to better position himself to check her out?
As a woman, THESE are the things you should be concerned about, especially if he's with you at the moment they occur.
If he's doing this next to you in a social event, he's capable of doing worse behind your back.
Outside of this, trust your guy or finally admit to yourself that you have underlying trust issues. -
Listen I have been with 3 different guys who fell head over heels for me. None of them ever checked out other women in front of me. And trust me I kept a close eye on them. If your man stares at other women while you’re in a date, it means he doesn’t love you enough. If your man loved you enough , he wouldn’t even take an extra glance.
If you complain to him and he says “it’s natural”, you need to run for the hills
a man truly in love with the number 1 woman in his life would never do a thing like that on a date. - 2.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Jay I make a distinction between checking out and simply noticing. Like in the pic for this question the guy is with his girlfriend and he's doing a double take to stare at the girl passing by. I think that's very disrespectful and inconsiderate towards your significant other. But on the other hand, throughout the course of my day I might see women whom I think are attractive. It's like being outside and seeing something beautiful in nature. But I don't think to myself "I really want to bang her and be with her." That's because I love my girlfriend and only want to be with her. Does that make sense?😀🙋♂️
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Totally normal. You don't just lose your ability to find other people attractive when u date. Only time it becomes a problem is if it turns to flirting or he's being disrespectful about it.
I used to joke with my ex if I saw a really hot girl be like "Omg, she's gorgeous, look at her!" and it would give him a way to check her out and know it's okay and I won't get mad. I guess it came down to security in the relationship in a way? I felt secure so it's no problem for him to appreciate good looking girls. At the end of the day he's with me. And appreciating good looks is natural. -
All straight guys will have impulses. Women have these too but they are infinitely more subtle (most of the time).
It comes down to how he disciplines himself. He sees a hot girl, the thought hits his mind. Does he look away? Does he stare an extra moment? Does he talk to her?
Cheating scumbags are usually pretty good on putting on a facade at the right moments. They might seem unlikely to cheat since they are often paranoid about getting caught. However most of them eventually get sloppy...
Just have a simple rule to live by:
You can look but you can’t touch.
I really don’t get why females get so hung up on this considering all things. I often see them being hypocrites about having major crushes on male celebrities. When they are out with their friends on “ladies night now” they will all openly talk about which guys is cute vs. who isn’t. Taken or not. -
Uh, 1) The term "cheating" is erroneous and stupid, and no one should use it. ,
2) normal guy behavior, and
3) there's no such thing as "catching" him looking at other females, as though you have a right to determine where his eyesight goes-- you don't. He's allowed to look wherever he pleases, whenever he pleases. If you're so emotionally insecure and ass-backwards that you can't handle that, then please allow him to break up with you so he can find someone better. -
This is why I don't date. I would never check out someone else when I have a guy and I am insecure too. And guys will be guys
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Girls check out guys just as much, but they're total hypocrites about it, just like with everything else.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/vGMfkyhe6kEhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/cVGe5ty1Ad8
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Normal! There are limits and good measure to everything of course but no man (or woman) would stop finding attractive people attractive just because they are in a relationship.
Not sure what kind of newborn snowflake wrote the "tutorial" in the image you pasted, but that is completely outside of reality.
When he is checking out other women you know he is getting horny and you should capitalise on that: Nothing wrong if he gains his appetite elsewhere as long as he will still his hunger at home! -
Completely normal. I'd probably be looking at the same girl (not bi or anything, I just like to look at people when I'm bored) and pretty people are pretty people, I'm comfortable enough to be alright with him looking, it's just a common human reaction.
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i couldn't vote because neither choice applies... what it is... is disrepectful and i wouldn't tolerate that... what if we gawked at everyman they'd have a heart attack... i expect men to look but not gawk or make it so obvious... ok a girl is in a mini skirt it would be hard for a man not to look i understand that... and there's all kinds of implications when do that... but they should contain themselves.
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Well, I know I'm probably going to get some hate for saying this, but... if you're just dating someone and not even engaged to them yet, then you really haven't reached the point of full commitment. So you really can't blame someone for still wanting to check out the other options. (And if you're not even dating yet, then he's technically free to flirt with other girls as well.)
However,... In your particular case, he has said that he wants to marry you. So if that's really the true intention in his heart, then he shouldn't be checking out other girls. -
are you crazy? It's 100% normal behavior and ALMOST ALL guys AND girls will do this. To me, it's only bad if you stare. You notice it, and then you keep looking. That's not cool. But to look briefly is human nature, and in no way does it imply a person will cheat.
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I was somewhere with my mom not too long ago and she told me how a guy was with his girlfriend and was checking me out. Then a couple of weeks ago I was out to eat with my roommate and this guy was on a date with a girl and kept glancing over at me. I don’t think it’s cheating tendencies. Men are visual creatures. i can personally control myself if I was with my boyfriend but sometimes you can’t help it. If I saw a beautiful woman, I would look too!
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It's not our fault we have eyes and we can be interested at something. So how about if my girlfriend is shopping and checking on those stuff she find interesting, anyone can interpret it as she is choosing the stuff over her boyfriend. You may think it's going to be a terrible comparison because i'm talking about an object not another human but anyone can still be interested at another human being. And just because you're interested at something that doesn't automatically mean you are going to do it. You just have the attention that's all and it's only a problem to anyone if they're making it a big deal. And of course it is going to be a big deal if they actually act on it.
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I know if a girl is in love with a guy she won’t find any other males attractive,
but I think it’s pretty common within males to still find other females sexually attractive, even if he has a girlfriend,
it’s jus in our nature and dna, we were made to be highly sexual and visual creatures, and the female anatomy is one of the most beautiful, sexy, and attractive, we can’t help but still find other girls sexy even if we have a girlfriend,
what seperates is and makes a guy a cheater or not is will power, self control, and commitment to his girlfriend.
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