It's called lusting and it's not normal. Just unfaithful men in the making, or guys who lack self discipline and control. Women do the same thing, but I stay away from it. Before you become influenced by it. It's has nothing to do wigh what is normal. But chosen behavior. Let women do that in a relationship she would be seen as a whore and unfaithful.
are you crazy? It's 100% normal behavior and ALMOST ALL guys AND girls will do this. To me, it's only bad if you stare. You notice it, and then you keep looking. That's not cool. But to look briefly is human nature, and in no way does it imply a person will cheat.
It's not our fault we have eyes and we can be interested at something. So how about if my girlfriend is shopping and checking on those stuff she find interesting, anyone can interpret it as she is choosing the stuff over her boyfriend. You may think it's going to be a terrible comparison because i'm talking about an object not another human but anyone can still be interested at another human being. And just because you're interested at something that doesn't automatically mean you are going to do it. You just have the attention that's all and it's only a problem to anyone if they're making it a big deal. And of course it is going to be a big deal if they actually act on it.
I know if a girl is in love with a guy she won’t find any other males attractive, but I think it’s pretty common within males to still find other females sexually attractive, even if he has a girlfriend, it’s jus in our nature and dna, we were made to be highly sexual and visual creatures, and the female anatomy is one of the most beautiful, sexy, and attractive, we can’t help but still find other girls sexy even if we have a girlfriend,
what seperates is and makes a guy a cheater or not is will power, self control, and commitment to his girlfriend.
Also morality, he will always find others hot, But he has the choice to cheat or not, If he’s wreckless and a rebel and doesn’t care about morality and society’s little social rules, he will be like fuck the cheating rule and do it anyway,
If he’s square and highly moral nerd who is scared of getting caught, he won’t cheat
we are all humans and all humans who are able to see notices who is attractive and who isn't. Yeah, of course we will think our boyfriend is the hottest, but shouldn't we all view our special ones like that? Men and Women aren't all that diffrent really. Almost all of us desire sex and we keep seeking for the best partner. Im lucky i found mine
i can't speak on behalf of every girl on this planet just like you can't speak on behalf of every boy. There is a fine line between finding somebody good loking and wanting to have sex with them. My boyfriend is enough for me but i have friends who desire almost every guy they see even tho they are in relationship. Some even go as far as cheating.
@Miley19new they’re jus tryna be nice people by not cheating I think, but deep down I think everyone has the desire to now n then, If not they must jus not have a very big sex drive
well i believe if somebody is completely pleased with their partner and compatible, they won't really have desires for others because your partner will be the best option for you
It’s jus you disagreed that you find other guys hot whilst having boyfriend so that make me think u too would wanna cheat on him n fuck other guys, I don’t understand how you can find someone hot n not wanna fuck them I think being sexually attracted to someone purely means your attracted (like magnet) making you want to have sex with them, that’s what Hot means
So if you say someone is hot but you don’t wanna have sex with them... that means you don’t find them hot but just “like” how they look
It's not cheating. If you think it's cheating, you need to reevaluate your self-worth. People that think this is cheating are the same people that think porn is cheating. There is nothing wrong with checking someone else out. Women are funny sometimes. Lol. Let me lay down some scenarios.
Scenario 1: If you are at the mall with your man and you are walking together and a cute girl walks by and he does a head turn to check her out... that isn't cheating... BUTTTTT it's disrespectful.
Scenario 2: Let's say your man is in the mall alone and a cute girl walks by and he does a head turn to check her out. There is nothing wrong with that.
I just think it's highly disrespectful to ogle someone when you are with your partner. People admire nice bodies, so people are going to look when they see one.
It's like an involuntary reflex with us. It doesn't mean that he wants to cheat! We see other attractive women every day. The opportunity is there; if he wanted to cheat, he probably would have already done so.
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Apparently I'm the only one that doesn't find this normal. If you're in a relationship and head over heels in love with your girlfriend, and she's the most beautiful person for you in the world, then why do you need to check out other girls? It shows me you don't love her enough, or that you compromise. I've never trusted guys and never will. They're always in look of flashy, shiny new car. And no, I don't accept compromise, because I have dignity
It's normal. Men will always do a full examination of any and all potential mates regardless. It is a genetic condition. They will do it, often, at random times, for no apparent reason and even get a hard-on when they don't want to.
Women also do the same too and probably in groups. They will always examine any man they see as a potential mate. Sometimes consciously and sometimes unconsciously.
Noticing someone else because of their attractive features is normal, we have eyes to see. That being said, if he drools over them and doesn’t listen to you while he’s doing it, that’s disrespectful and someone who doesn’t understand that shouldn’t be in a relationship.(:
I don't believe that you would never think of another man sexually that wasn't your boyfriend. I've never met a woman that didn't check out other guys or watch porn or whatever. Then again, I'm older than you. And 19 yr olds often don't even know what good sex is.
It's normal. Girls do it to weather they admit it or not.. weather or not your with someone dissent change if another person is visually pleasing... It's your actions that count... Though... There also something to be said about respecting your partners wishes... So even if he sees an attractive woman... He dosent need to "check her out" infront of you...
Omg this is hilarious... This is the most hate over every got on a post and it's over the me saying girls check out other men? XD it's not even a contraversal statement. Everyone can tell on some level of they find a person visually attractive or not. It's not a male exclusive trait
Absolutely normal. A healthy mind is also slightly horny from time to time. Looking is normal and in fact necessary. Now making a pass at a woman while dating, even a small one, that's cheating. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, humans have enough self control these things don't slip on their own
When he is single, yeah, checking out the others is NORMAL!! In a relationship, the others don't even catch my eye, unless she is wearing something that the lady I am with would look AMAZING in!! Those times, I look, and she looks too, and sometimes she likes it, other times not so much!
It happens all the time specially when guys are out with friends specially single friends you can't avoid it because they are checking women out and get you to look so you can't win even if you actively try and avoid looking because you are happy in a relationship and not looking for anything
Bruh... unless you are claiming to be psychic, you have no idea what that guy is thinking about, when looking at anybody.
Also, for all you know, he could be secretly gay, and just putting on an act "checking out" girls to lead you on. Maybe for a bet he has with his friends.
You have eyes to look at people, just because you are insecure about yourself, does not mean you restrain and demand exclusive validation from others.
My dad did it all my life. And my parents have been happily married for 36 years and my father has never cheated. Just is up to the women if she lets it bother her or not. It’s unrealistic to think just cause your married they all of a sudden ONLY find their wife physically appealing to look at. That isn’t fair to you or him to think that.
Sorry, but most straight men are going to notice girls they find attractive. Just remember that admiring beauty is not the same as wanting to purchase it.
@pink_and_inlove you can even jokingly go along with it, like "ooo-eerr, check out the hottie, she's got a great ass right?" He'll probably laugh and downplay her looks like "well she doesn't move her hips like you do" (i don't know his personality so I'm projecting a little bit here lol)
I'd say it depends, to a certain degree it's natural, in order for that not to happen at all they would have to go blind cause other women are everywhere. The issue starts when he does it blatantly on purpose and in front of you.
I think it is natural to be attracted to hotter girls. That is something you cannot change. It would be weird and clingy if you did not look at other girls. But looking at other girls is definitely a sign of a cheater. Its a matter about evaluating the limits.
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It's called lusting and it's not normal. Just unfaithful men in the making, or guys who lack self discipline and control. Women do the same thing, but I stay away from it. Before you become influenced by it. It's has nothing to do wigh what is normal. But chosen behavior. Let women do that in a relationship she would be seen as a whore and unfaithful.
Whelp. Guys don't like the truth here. Sorry guys who downvoted. You know what your doing wrong. Not sorry for what I said.
are you crazy? It's 100% normal behavior and ALMOST ALL guys AND girls will do this. To me, it's only bad if you stare. You notice it, and then you keep looking. That's not cool. But to look briefly is human nature, and in no way does it imply a person will cheat.
I ain’t normal then lol
nobody ever accused you of being normal. :P
It's not our fault we have eyes and we can be interested at something. So how about if my girlfriend is shopping and checking on those stuff she find interesting, anyone can interpret it as she is choosing the stuff over her boyfriend. You may think it's going to be a terrible comparison because i'm talking about an object not another human but anyone can still be interested at another human being. And just because you're interested at something that doesn't automatically mean you are going to do it. You just have the attention that's all and it's only a problem to anyone if they're making it a big deal. And of course it is going to be a big deal if they actually act on it.
I see those women down voting. It's double standards. Women check on other guys as often but guys often dont see it a big deal.
I know if a girl is in love with a guy she won’t find any other males attractive,
but I think it’s pretty common within males to still find other females sexually attractive, even if he has a girlfriend,
it’s jus in our nature and dna, we were made to be highly sexual and visual creatures, and the female anatomy is one of the most beautiful, sexy, and attractive, we can’t help but still find other girls sexy even if we have a girlfriend,
what seperates is and makes a guy a cheater or not is will power, self control, and commitment to his girlfriend.
Also morality, he will always find others hot,
But he has the choice to cheat or not,
If he’s wreckless and a rebel and doesn’t care about morality and society’s little social rules, he will be like fuck the cheating rule and do it anyway,
If he’s square and highly moral nerd who is scared of getting caught, he won’t cheat
:D how many girls do you know in your life fr?
We also have sexual desires, you know that right?
@Miley19new I jus been told that if s girl is in love she doesn’t find anyone else attractive jus him
That’s what she told me
@Miley19new maybe it was a lie
we are all humans and all humans who are able to see notices who is attractive and who isn't.
Yeah, of course we will think our boyfriend is the hottest, but shouldn't we all view our special ones like that?
Men and Women aren't all that diffrent really. Almost all of us desire sex and we keep seeking for the best partner.
Im lucky i found mine
@Miley19new so what your saying that a girl who has a boyfriend currently... can find other boys hot and want to have sex with other boys?
i can't speak on behalf of every girl on this planet just like you can't speak on behalf of every boy.
There is a fine line between finding somebody good loking and wanting to have sex with them.
My boyfriend is enough for me but i have friends who desire almost every guy they see even tho they are in relationship. Some even go as far as cheating.
@Miley19new I think the only thing that holds someone back from having sex with someone they find hot Is hurting their partners feelings,
I think if their partner didn’t care and didn’t get upset by it then everyone would cheat and all relationships would be open
@Miley19new they’re jus tryna be nice people by not cheating I think, but deep down I think everyone has the desire to now n then,
If not they must jus not have a very big sex drive
well i believe if somebody is completely pleased with their partner and compatible, they won't really have desires for others because your partner will be the best option for you
@Miley19new that’s true
It’s jus you disagreed that you find other guys hot whilst having boyfriend so that make me think u too would wanna cheat on him n fuck other guys,
I don’t understand how you can find someone hot n not wanna fuck them
I think being sexually attracted to someone purely means your attracted (like magnet) making you want to have sex with them, that’s what Hot means
So if you say someone is hot but you don’t wanna have sex with them... that means you don’t find them hot but just “like” how they look
nah, i dont apply such deep meaning to words like "hot". Hot simply means good looking to me and no, i would never wanna cheat on my boyfriend
It's not cheating. If you think it's cheating, you need to reevaluate your self-worth. People that think this is cheating are the same people that think porn is cheating. There is nothing wrong with checking someone else out. Women are funny sometimes. Lol. Let me lay down some scenarios.
Scenario 1:
If you are at the mall with your man and you are walking together and a cute girl walks by and he does a head turn to check her out... that isn't cheating... BUTTTTT it's disrespectful.
Scenario 2:
Let's say your man is in the mall alone and a cute girl walks by and he does a head turn to check her out. There is nothing wrong with that.
I just think it's highly disrespectful to ogle someone when you are with your partner. People admire nice bodies, so people are going to look when they see one.
Another down vote
It's like an involuntary reflex with us. It doesn't mean that he wants to cheat! We see other attractive women every day. The opportunity is there; if he wanted to cheat, he probably would have already done so.
Apparently I'm the only one that doesn't find this normal. If you're in a relationship and head over heels in love with your girlfriend, and she's the most beautiful person for you in the world, then why do you need to check out other girls?
It shows me you don't love her enough, or that you compromise.
I've never trusted guys and never will. They're always in look of flashy, shiny new car.
And no, I don't accept compromise, because I have dignity
It's normal. Men will always do a full examination of any and all potential mates regardless. It is a genetic condition. They will do it, often, at random times, for no apparent reason and even get a hard-on when they don't want to.
Women also do the same too and probably in groups. They will always examine any man they see as a potential mate. Sometimes consciously and sometimes unconsciously.
Noticing someone else because of their attractive features is normal, we have eyes to see. That being said, if he drools over them and doesn’t listen to you while he’s doing it, that’s disrespectful and someone who doesn’t understand that shouldn’t be in a relationship.(:
I don't believe that you would never think of another man sexually that wasn't your boyfriend. I've never met a woman that didn't check out other guys or watch porn or whatever. Then again, I'm older than you. And 19 yr olds often don't even know what good sex is.
It's normal. Girls do it to weather they admit it or not.. weather or not your with someone dissent change if another person is visually pleasing... It's your actions that count... Though... There also something to be said about respecting your partners wishes... So even if he sees an attractive woman... He dosent need to "check her out" infront of you...
You Sir are not a girl how would you know? I am not a Karen but you can't say all gurls do it.
I don't believe I said anywhere "all girls do it" did I? No... I said "girls do it too" cuz there are girls that do it too
And I know cuz I have been in several relationships where my girlfriend was open about it and told me if she saw anyone she found attractive...
So... Any more questions?
Omg this is hilarious... This is the most hate over every got on a post and it's over the me saying girls check out other men? XD it's not even a contraversal statement. Everyone can tell on some level of they find a person visually attractive or not. It's not a male exclusive trait
Absolutely normal. A healthy mind is also slightly horny from time to time.
Looking is normal and in fact necessary.
Now making a pass at a woman while dating, even a small one, that's cheating.
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, humans have enough self control these things don't slip on their own
When he is single, yeah, checking out the others is NORMAL!!
In a relationship, the others don't even catch my eye, unless she is wearing something that the lady I am with would look AMAZING in!! Those times, I look, and she looks too, and sometimes she likes it, other times not so much!
It happens all the time specially when guys are out with friends specially single friends you can't avoid it because they are checking women out and get you to look so you can't win even if you actively try and avoid looking because you are happy in a relationship and not looking for anything
Bruh... unless you are claiming to be psychic, you have no idea what that guy is thinking about, when looking at anybody.
Also, for all you know, he could be secretly gay, and just putting on an act "checking out" girls to lead you on. Maybe for a bet he has with his friends.
You have eyes to look at people, just because you are insecure about yourself, does not mean you restrain and demand exclusive validation from others.
My dad did it all my life. And my parents have been happily married for 36 years and my father has never cheated. Just is up to the women if she lets it bother her or not. It’s unrealistic to think just cause your married they all of a sudden ONLY find their wife physically appealing to look at. That isn’t fair to you or him to think that.
Sorry, but most straight men are going to notice girls they find attractive. Just remember that admiring beauty is not the same as wanting to purchase it.
I think I’ll be mentally prepared now if this happens lol I think I’ll just roll my eyes. So every man does this?
I find it hard to understand though because I’ve never checked out anyone before and I only find my boyfriend attractive
@pink_and_inlove you can even jokingly go along with it, like "ooo-eerr, check out the hottie, she's got a great ass right?" He'll probably laugh and downplay her looks like "well she doesn't move her hips like you do" (i don't know his personality so I'm projecting a little bit here lol)
I'd say it depends, to a certain degree it's natural, in order for that not to happen at all they would have to go blind cause other women are everywhere. The issue starts when he does it blatantly on purpose and in front of you.
I think it is natural to be attracted to hotter girls. That is something you cannot change. It would be weird and clingy if you did not look at other girls. But looking at other girls is definitely a sign of a cheater. Its a matter about evaluating the limits.