What do guys think of women who cheat?

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What are guys opinions of women who have cheated in past relationships

StraightButBent · Accepted Answer

Depends. If it was for revenge it's just the ugly side of human nature. It for tat. But if you cheated on a happy relationship or even one that you shouldn't have been you're an awful, childish and most importantly selfish person. Grow the fuck up and leave. Don't waste someone's time and effort cuz we only have so much. Also someone like that can never be trusted. I've dropped girls over shit like cheating just because. Now we can be friends all day. I might not agree with your actions but as a friend it's not my place to judge. We all do things that make us shitty. But as far as relationship material goes you're better off alone. I've wanted to cheat my share of times and had the opportunity to more than I can count but even in the worst relationships if I had made the choice to work it out and try to be happy again I'm not about to just lie to her and myself. Being up front and honest with everyone you meet that you don't have an obligation to play nice you should always just be the asshole. No one like to be told something upsetting that's true.

BadTiming · Accepted Answer

A lot of hate being thrown around here. I've never cheated nor have I been cheated on - I'm sure either could drastically change my stance on the matter. From where I stand now, though, I feel that there are A LOT of reasons why someone might cheat, and the reason chosen plays heavily into the severity of the act. In some situations, I'm sure I could be convinced that it was more "justified" than others.

That said, I find it hard, personally, to imagine justification so great that it overshadows having that difficult conversation with your partner and either fixing or ending your current relationship prior to cheating.

I try not to judge a woman who has cheated in the past - I don't know what conditions led her to do so. I would not consider her for a relationship, though, unless she was able to provide that rare, reasonable justification for the act. Such is true of any known dishonesty.

GhettoGirl · Accepted Answer

Look, the guys I cheated on both of them, both I told "you really dont want to be in a relationship with me", and they took it like I had an esteem problem. No I got a cheating problem especially when I'm with someone that pulled me into a relationship I didn't want with a whole bunch of "baby give me a chance please". What am I supposed to say? Dude you just to dopey to be by me long?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Disgusting. Literally never an excuse. Control yourself, or woman up and break up. Anything else is cruel and amoral— don’t play with other people’s feelings. It’s wrong and really fucks them up. Though it asked for male opinions, I speak this as a girl who has watched many male friends get cheated on. Fuck that and fuck you.

coachTanthony · Answer

I think they didn't know what they wanted, didn't care about the guy they were with, or just plain selfish.  I would probably not date them if I found this to be true!

Clarke510 · Answer

So all the guys answering this so far have all put down that basically she's a bad person.

So let me be the different one
It depends on why she cheated, if she just wanted sex then yeah probably a shitty person. If she is stuck in a lousy or abusive relationship with a guy that doesn't care then it's a bit more understandable.
I'm not condoning cheating but reasons matter for everything.

I've been the guy that a girl cheated with, yes I know I'm a terrible person, but she was stuck in a house away from all her family with a physically and emotionally abusive guy, and that's not what she told me, I saw it myself.

The same is true for men as well of course but that's a whole other argument.

BCA6010 · Answer

I think anyone who cheats is a scumbag. Gender doesn't matter in this regard.

If your relationship has degraded to the point that you're ready to cheat, then you're well past the point where you should be ending your relationship anyway. It also salvages integrity.

Want to know a really good way to ensure pretty much no decent man or woman ever wants anything to do with you? Let them know you have a history of cheating. That alone will outweigh almost anything else under the sun in terms of baggage

ScareBear · Answer

It depends on the reason she cheated. For example, one girl of mine in a LDR "cheated" because I saw her two weekends a month...
Another cheated because she was a very fine, very anatomically educated stripper while I ran the night shift of an ihop
Another cheated because she said I made her feel less of herself with lack of affection (she was just clingy and needy, fatherless etc)
Another cheated because she was a gorgeous 19 year old redhead and I was 26 with two jobs.
I can understand these days, women and men are magnets, I just lower the relationship sincerity gauge

Aethereal · Answer

I think that such a woman is untrustworthy, as well as an inconsiderate and heartless person with low morals. I would want nothing to do with her. Someone made the argument that it might have been justifiable if she was in an abusive relationship. But I don't agree with the excuse. If you don't want to be with someone, end the relationship before jumping into another person's bed. Self-control is what separates us from most other animals.

billyboy37 · Answer

Most women are forced to cheat because they are tamken for granted, obbsessed over by an insecure man who uses fear to control her so leaving is diff for women. And they dont wish to burden a good man with this risk. but when a real man wants her, she can relax because, we dont fuck around with boys, we got fucked up for it now we fucking u up for it. And one day for the few who learned will hav their fun too

Roxi- · Answer

Girl I wouldn’t worry too much about what a man thinks when most of them can’t actually meet the standards they ask for.
Remember a common male mentality is cheat on woman their not serious about until they actually find the woman their supposedly serious about and than cheat on them too and call it male nature.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's someone new I'm dating, it's certainly a concern. In my opinion there's no "justification" for it, no matter the reason (s) or circumstances. However people do make mistakes also. But it's not going to help build trust quicker. Although sharing that with me would be a step in that direction. Just being open and honest about it with me.

Dongtai · Answer

“If she cheated on him, what’s stopping her from cheating on me if she got the chance?”

Obviously context is needed about why she cheated but still, if you cheat on someone you had already has at least a tiny bit of emotionally attachment to, why wouldn’t you cheat on someone you have less history with? Especially if you’re a serial cheater.

I wouldn’t give her all of my trust off the bat.

robske · Answer

i tend to pity them, my ex cheated and it stung at first.

But then i realized that she had lost someone who would do anything and everything for her, who would kill for her.
All i lost was a girl who couldn't pass the first hurdle, who couldnt even stay truthfull to me.

Now it is in her past, we all made our mistakes, payed our dues, just hoping she learned from it

89kid · Answer

Once a cheater. there's always going to be suspension. Pick her phone up. Who's that. Gone to long she's prob with.. not acting usual she must have dick on the mind. Been cheated on. Shit sucks and trust is gone. Hard to over see feelings time u put in.

Anonymous · Answer

Either unhappy with their relationship, doesn't like the guy they're with, fell in love with someone else or is polygamous.

I feel a mix of at least two of those options is needed to cause someone to cheat.

I don't blame them for it... But it is best to open up the relationship/ break up before.
Morally at least. Though I see why this is hard for some.

winterfox10 · Answer

Eh, I figure that if she's telling me about it, then she has probably changed as a person, or had an extenuating circumstance that caused the cheating to happen. Now if I find out some way other than her telling me, then I gotta wonder if she's still up to her old tricks.

donnny2367764 · Answer

It's not fair. it's actually a form of treason.. even if it made you feel like shit afterwards... the fact that your trust was disrespected cannot be easy if ever rebuilt... I am not one to judge, but there's a reason why I prefer to call ladies friends instead of girlfriends.. I'd never play with anyone feelings no matter what

KacchanExplosion · Answer

My own personal opinion:
If she's cheated in the past she'll do it again so I dont want to date a cheater even if they cheated to get me. I'll only think of a Cheater as fun or friend/ friend with benefits, but never a romantic relationship. A cheater is someone I can't trust either. So women that cheat are just for fun never for romance

Smith_22 · Answer

Past is past, everyone have skeletons in there cupboards. That's why they say don't dig others past too much. Just be careful.

Nexovous · Answer

Extremely worried. If I enter a relationship and she said she's cheated before then I think that she's likely to do it again. Not a good thing to say the least and halts the trust factor tremendously.

Ripper_E · Answer

Depends on their reason for cheating, details, etc.
All I'd know for sure is that it has happened and it's a red flag. Honesty does count though and I wouldn't reject a woman because she had cheated in the past.

Paul5966 · Answer

My personal experience my girlfriend cheated with my friend just because he was richer and she was confused and she let him slide him. Trust loyalty is a rare thing not between guys but girls these days. It tore me apart and I still al finding pieces of myself and I think women of that sort should be... upfront and break up rather put another dick. Karma fucks us all

Lady_Frost · Answer

Duh. What do women think of men, who have cheated in past relationships 🙄

CocoBat · Answer

Burn em at the stake, no that's not a commentary on the fact that people overreact about cheaters, I think cheaters need to be publically burned at the stake

God_of_Thunder · Answer

She's trash, and I wouldn't want anything to do with her. I think guys that cheat are pieces of shit, too.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I usually call a cheater a "cheating whore." Enough said?

Marcuslrh · Answer

That they are just immature time wasters who don't know what they want pretty much the same as those guys that cheat

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

The same thing as men who have cheated, its a scummy thing to do. I would never want to associate with them let alone date one.

Vick2727 · Answer

Listen your past doesn’t determine your future. If you use to be a cheater than you have enough time to change, and be a better person.

Jackblue · Answer

In my old opinion I could not help feeling like women who cheated were worse than men. I really can't explain it, but it felt as if female infidelity was more consciously malevolent. I have come to realize that that is not true.

Bananaman177 · Answer

"No surprise there." What' totally shocking and surprising is when a woman DOESN'T cheat, that's almost fucking unheard of.

lightbulb27 · Answer

disgusting, but they have their reasons. generally not good ones...

AG900 · Answer

More propense to cheat. But it doesn't mean she will do it with me.

Haelaeix123 · Answer

I wouldn't enter into a relationship with someone who has cheated in the past, i'd never be able to trust them

habib29 · Answer

I'd never be with someone who cheated in the past, because she will dot it again. She may be trying to convince herself that she's not going to cheat again but I know that everyone has a falling point where they abandon their standards.

BestUserName100 · Answer

Red flags would start going up and question if they are right or not.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I don't have a set opinion. If they share their mindset/rational behind having done so is when I form a thought on the matter.

AynonOMouse · Answer

They are typical liberal people. They aren't compatible with good people and don't deserve a caring, loyal partner.

CoffeeWC · Answer

For those who have done it a lot, I feel like they don't know how to be loyal. Or they just don't take promises seriously. Sex is more important than loyalty.

Rasheedw1 · Answer

Honest truth, when I'm dating the woman I think very lowly of her, but it's way different when I'm the one she cheating with. I'm starting to understand why some people have open relationships.

Keletho · Answer

My wife of 8 years cheated on me with her coworker for over a year and now she is divorcing me. Her cheating is shredding my family apart.
Cheating is selfish. It does not just effect me but it also effects our children.

JKingOff · Answer

Good for a one night stand but I'm gone as soon as I wake up.

John_Doesnt · Answer

I'm sure those women needed something to Instagram so that's why they cheated.

Passinggas · Answer

Fine with me. I will go with them a while and then they will cheat again and so the cycle goes.

Badballie · Answer

A quick pump and dump are fine other than that, cheating is in the BLOOD. Get rid of her. She will break your heart.

charlie_all_night · Answer

Useless if want a forever relationship.. Lifelong partner.. So many things people don't consider cheating but stupidity is abundant in this world

Anonymous · Answer

The same as guys who cheat (and I think there are more guys who cheat, than women).

AshleyMadison00 · Answer

They think the worst that's y u can not tell them EVERYTHING

guilyang · Answer

Depends on the degree of social frivolity, if it was in spite or anything along those lines it a notable slip in the eyes of serious males.

Brett6988 · Answer

You're all right if you don't want nothing serious just for a casual encounter but as a girlfriend know you need someone who is honest and faithful as you must be yourself

jirwin7979 · Answer

byeeeee dont mess with cheats i got cheated on and it hurt worse than getting kicked in the nads

AcidT0y · Answer

I have no respect for anyone who cheats, regardless of what the reason might be.

JakeMist86 · Answer

Should be banned from dating for a year. All cheaters, single and lonely for a year...

bndtornado · Answer

If a guy find out about this stuff, immediately he start to find someone else and then dump her.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd rather women not have been with any other guys in the first place. So, cheating in past relationships is just escalating that beyond the pale.

Guanfei · Answer

Whores. Impossible to trust, and if I can avoid being around them, I will.

OddBeMe · Answer

Probably easy pickens. People who cheat will keep doing it over and over.

highjinx · Answer

that they are human also and shit happens , if its a one time thing its no big deal.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

If they are cheating on someone with me I know she's got extreamly good taste in guys...

esotericstory · Answer

I want nothing to do with these kinds of women. I stay away from them.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

It's not a topic I've ever brought up in my dating or relationship history..

ask4any · Answer

I think if she is unable to talk about her desires with their partner, she prolly a skank

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

If they're cheating with me, they're fine. If they're cheating on me, they are nasty bitches.

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