Why do some guys cheat , flirt with other woman, and still lie even when they get caught cheating?

[ebabaran142]

I have a boyfriend of 2 years now, I met him online through a dating site. We lived in the same country and his home is 1hour travel by train from my home. He is 9 years ahead of me. Im 43 widower. Our first few months in relationship everything goes well. I didn't doubt that he will cheat me cuz i trusted him. He is divorced and living alone. Got son but living to his mom. I always go to his house every Sunday during my off. He always asked me to buy foods and asked me to clean his house. Iron his clothes while he is sleeping. I tidy up his house and even cooled for him for his dinner. He always hides his phone behind bedroom door. And i decided to checked it and found out a chat from other woman named Mercy saying she is tired hungry and need banana. My tears flowed silently and walked away in the room and put back his phone else if he found out that i touched he will slap me and bit me. When he wakes up, i asked if he knows a woman named Mercy. He told me no. I keep quiet and just smile. I let it go. Then yesterday, Sunday i found out again a chat from Mercy saying that she is tired, pain and banana. Does it mean that they already have sex? I told him that if he didn't stop chating her, I will leave. But he told me, I buy the laptop powebank first before he will stop chating Mercy. ( Note:: he always asked me to buy him things like powebank , clark shoes but i won't ). He always called me fucking idiot, slut , stingy woman,. Then he blocked me when i confronted him. And won't chat me at all. One time he threaten me that if i touched his phone again, he will chase me out of his house. He always bite my thighs and tell me he want to put a mark so that when i cheat , the man i met will know i have boyfriend. I dont chat other man at all or even meet. Cuz i knew the feeling of being cheated. My question is, why he need to lie, cheat me and flirts with someone else even i showered him true care, love and even understand him most of the time?

[MementoMori777]

I feel like the way he treated you was so uncalled for but now you know his true colors, I can guarantee you that you'll do better without him, break up with him and put him in your past, I can assure you that you'll find someone worth your time and that would treat you like a queen, I know this situation hurts but not everyone is like this, I know it and you know it too, he's a piece of shit of a person, you aren't tho so there's no reason why you should stay with such a person, cheaters gon cheat, your eyes are open to it now and there's no reason why you should stick around.

[ebabaran142]

Yes hope this helps. I endured for two years. I keep forgiving knowing that he will change but looks he won't. He always blames me too for simple things even if its his mistakes. He wants me to be submissive most of the time. Thank u for your opinion🙏 I appreciate

[MementoMori777]

There's a difference between wanting someone to be submissive and completely abusing someone, I hope you fight through this and my best wishes on it 💯

[MackBoy]

He is taking the maximum advantage out of you

[lightbulb27]

Are you Asian?

This is bad, lacking respect and good communication combined with violence to control. bad.

Patterns repeat. if ou suspect he gonna cheat, then something is wrong already.

you need to pick better man. I'm glad you have boundaries and rules, you sound like good person but you are drawn to man where something is wrong. what is wrong and why, that is for therapist figure out. I at times write pages and noone respond not sure if read, so I won't waste my time.

it's gonna be a fight to stay with him and stabilize, if you want that then proceed.

[ebabaran142]

Yes, Im Asian. I always set boundaries and rules. He doesn't respect at all and i feel like he just need my company but not my heart and soul. Sometimes Im thinking maybe he wants me only because of the benefit he gets from me. Having a one sided intimacy is too hard. 😩 Thanks for your opinion, I appreciate 🙏

[lightbulb27]

yes that is very painful. take some work to crack through that shell of his to value you. you're call, you know what you got.

[itsalyssaagain]

That’s what a cheater is like hun. They just don’t care about anyone but themselves and getting their way.

[ebabaran142]

Yeah they dont have heart at all. But is it true that once a cheater will always be a cheater?

[MackBoy]

Cheater will cheat for more than once, they will correct themselves only when they face a unbearable situation.

[itsalyssaagain]

Yes once a cheater always a cheater.

First of all, you have to have really bad values and ways of thinking to cheat. Like you have to be a reaaaallly shitty person. And shitty people usually stay shitty lol.

Second of all, I’ve met a few cheaters in my time and they never ever stopped. I know someone whose wife divorced him because of cheating. And even though he reaaalllyyy didn’t want to get divorced, he got remarried and cheated on his new wife LOL. She found out. He begged for her back. AND he still cheats.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is this how women expect to be treated in Canada? He sounds like a neanderthal.

[ebabaran142]

Yeah right,

[Finchie40]

You need to make him your ex boyfriend period , he is clearly cheating on you , don’t tolerate shit like that from anyone. And the fact he has you doing his chores when you come to visit him while he is sleeping? What kind of shit is that? You deserve better than that girl , kick him to the curb where he belongs

[ebabaran142]

Yes he is sleeping while Im working in his house. And when he woke up he will complain that i never do this do that. Never apprecaite me too for the things i did. And noy only that he always asked me to buy and bring vegetables to his house every time i visit. He always asked me favour too, for 2 years i stayed i never asked anything at all and even if i asked he won't buy for me. I dont care about material things i just want his attention, honesty but sadly he is unfaithful man 😩

[Finchie40]

Yea he is definitely taking you for granted and my advice is to dump his ass , For a relationship to last it’s all about give and take , when it comes to constantly giving without receiving , it turns into. a one sided relationship He apparently only cares about himself and doesn’t really appreciate you or value you , he just likes the convenience of you , he is stringing you along for his own selfishness , people like that will never last in a relationship because they are selfish people , It’s their way or no way , kick them to the curb where they belong , you deserve better than that

[ebabaran142]

I agree with u! Sometimes he gave me things like face creams , ferero chocolates thats already expires and still want me to use and eat it. Also strawberries sometimes got mold he still want me to eat. When i confronted him he immediately get aggressive and told me fucking idiot next time i dont give u anymore cuz u still complain. I felt bad because of his reactions and i just keep quiet

[Finchie40]

You don’t need to feel sorry for someone that is clearly treating you like shit , if he actually respected and valued you he would put himself in your shoes and treat you the way he wants to be treated , He is treating you like you are just a convenience, You are clearly not his priority , Get away from that girl , there is so much better out there

[MackBoy]

He is pretending that nothing happened and there is no problem. that is why he is threatening you because nothing happened and there is no problem. he had got used to cheating and he don't have shame, so you have to leave him and find a honest partner for you. you will fall into more trouble if you try to correct that stubborn donkey

[ebabaran142]

Yes he doesn't have shame at all because after i caught him chating other girl , he never say sorry at all and yet he still asked me to buy his things like nothing happened. If i correct his wrong doings he will yell at me and called me stupid idiot. Its tough but hoping to get out from him. I appreciate your opinion. Thank u🙏

[glennos89]

The real question you should be asking yourself is... Why the hell are you with him? 🤯🤯🤯

If you accept that behaviour from your man then your doomed to be unhappy the rest of your life

Instead of wasting time figuring out why he did it, you should put all your effort in finding a guy who doesn't cheat on you after you dumped the other guy asap

[Jamie05rhs]

1. Because they're pieces of shit.

2. Why are you dating a divorced guy? That was your first mistake.

3. Wow.

4. He is REALLY a piece of shit!

5. Why are you still with him?

[ebabaran142]

I didn't know that he is divorced, he lied me also when we start chating at dating sites. But never mind if he is divorced because Im also a single mom. My first time to date a divorced man since my husband passaway when I was 27 years old. Now Im 43 and never remarried again. I have that fear of dating a single guy. Maybe he can't accept my son who is now 22 years old. Im with him because its only this months that i caught him cheating on me. I trusted it too much but i ended up being cheated. Thanks for your opinion. I appreciate🙏

[Jamie05rhs]

@ebabaran142 Okay; I understand.
I really think you should dump him, though. He has already proven himself unfaithful.

[mommymommymommy]

The same reason women do

TO GET AWAY WITH IT

[gag37627]

Mommy?

[FilmGuy93]

Cheaters cheat because they have an emptiness inside that they need to fill. No one wants to feel like the bad guy

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because they exude confidence to the point of being retarded.

[ebabaran142]

True

[digitalguy01]

It's high time you leave that chapter behind

[ebabaran142]

Yes i will inorder to flee from his abusive acts. Both emotionally and physically. I appreciate your opinion. Thanks🙏

[digitalguy01]

Thanks you liked

[In_Trance]

For the same reason (s) women do