Would a guy talk to a female colleague outside of work hours a ton if he wasn’t interested in her?

[Anonymous]

[Gent207]

Nope he's definitely interested OR he's looking for a cover story because he's in the closet 🏳️‍🌈.

No hate, no shame just saying I've seen it before.

[Asker]

I’m not sure why he messages me to talk like an entire day with some lapses in between texts. Doesn’t he have a roster of women outside of work he could talk to instead of me? He’s an attractive guy.

[Gent207]

So then why not ask him out?

Honestly life is too short to waste in fear. If he says no, that sucks and things may be awkward for a week at least, though eventually it will be forgotten.
But if he says Yes
Well congrats!
As for gender-dating rules who gives a shit? Nobody is going to Shane you for asking.

[MrCommodore]

If its not work related conversation, then I suspect yes he is definitely interested... unless he has friend-zoned her.

[Asker]

He initiates most of the conversations and they’re on weekends usually. He remembers little details I tell him, also some compliments here and there. He tells me I’m really funny. But I’m not saying anything extremely hilarious, but he seems to think I am. Also told me I should do IG modeling. Asks me many personal questions about hobbies, things I like to do, etc. Noticed me change my pic many times on WhatsApp. And mentioned he wanted to talk on the phone because I’m funny and it’ll make his day. Thoughts?

[MrCommodore]

Oh okay, thanks for clarification and more details. Yeah he is 100% into you, no doubt about it, he definitely is romantically interested.
He is repeatedly showering you with compliments about your humour or your appearance, he likely has a crush on you.

[Asker]

I’m stupid and will still think I’m being friend zoned. I can never tell tbh

[MrCommodore]

I know how you feel, I think most people have doubts, but in your case he seems to really like you.

[Asker]

It’s just that he’s an attractive guy. Wouldn’t he have a roster of women outside of work to choose from?

[MrCommodore]

Not all attractive guys know they are attractive or care about that. He is talking to you outside of work, so you must be quite nice too.

[Asker]

I’m not implying I’m not a catch or anything tho

[Asker]

@mrcommodore Also, I think I did overthink the whole thing and he thinks of me as just a friend. The other guy we work with thinks of me as just a friend, also this guy, if you remember, was all like “oh ok, thanks for letting me know.” When I asked him if it could just be me and him because the other guy makes me uncomfortable.
Hasn’t mentioned any like meeting up and told me he hasn’t even booked his flight to my city yet.
I think I blew the whole thing out of proportion. I’ll start looking for new guys now.

[Pinay_ako]

Depends on the reason of the text. But if it’s not work related, they’re interested

[Asker]

@pinay_ako it’s never work related at all. Lots of personal questions, videos to help me fall asleep, telling me I’m funny, etc

[Pinay_ako]

Yea he’s interested.. idc about my co workers after hours 🤣

[Asker]

@pinay_ako also, I think I did overthink the whole thing and he thinks of me as just a friend. The other guy we work with thinks of me as just a friend, also this guy, if you remember, was all like “oh ok, thanks for letting me know.” When I asked him if it could just be me and him because the other guy makes me uncomfortable.
Hasn’t mentioned any like meeting up and told me he hasn’t even booked his flight to my city yet.
I think I blew the whole thing out of proportion. I’ll start looking for new guys now.

[Pinay_ako]

Don’t look. Just go out there and have fun. But when you meet someone who makes you smile and not overthink and confused and stuff, then just ask them out.

[spartan55]

Not necessarily.

[Anonymous]

No, not in my opinion.