I’ve noticed that the guy I’m talking to has been talking to another female coworker offly a lot?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy work together and we started talking to each other a few months ago. However I’ve been seeing him talk to this other coworker a lot and notice that they’re almost always around each other. And I can tell that she likes him. And even when I was over at his place I asked if the two of them are close and he said that they’re just cool with each other and just friends. I don’t even know if I believe that. I know we’re not together but I just feel kind of neglected in a way. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Ask him gently what it is all about.ﾠ

[Oliverlogan263]

It's understandable that you would feel neglected or concerned seeing this guy you're talking to spending a lot of time with another coworker, especially if you suspect she likes him. However, there are a few things to keep in mind:

1. You and this guy are not officially together, so he is free to talk to and spend time with other people. You can't expect exclusivity at this point.

2. His behavior would only be a cause for concern if he was being deceptive, hiding his interactions with this coworker, or deliberately neglecting you. But from what you've said, he has been open about their friendship and hasn't done anything "wrong."

3. You'll have to decide if you trust him when he says they are just friends. His actions going forward will show you whether that's true or not. For now, give him the benefit of the doubt.

4. Focus on building your own connection with this guy. Spending time together, having honest conversations, and clarifying what you both want can strengthen your bond and help avoid potential misunderstandings down the road.

5. Avoid coming across as jealous, possessive or accusatory. This could push him away and create tension at work. Keep interactions light and positive for now.

6. If his interactions with the coworker do start negatively impacting your budding relationship, that's the time to have an open, non-judgmental chat with him about how it makes you feel. See if a compromise can be reached.

For now, try not to overanalyze or obsess over their friendship. Keep pursuing your own connection with this guy and see where things lead. His genuine interest in spending time with you will become clear as your relationship develops. But stay mindful of any behavior that crosses boundaries or hurts you - that's when a discussion may be needed. I hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Anonymous]

jealousy is a mental disease. First start with acknowledging that. Then from there you'll probably know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Not much you can do honestly. If she’s hotter, cutter, better personality. Maybe he was never really into you to begin w. Don’t get why women can’t see that sometimes men just talk to women to talk, especially in a work setting where it helps to know a lot of people in different departments. Doesn’t mean he was flirting w you. I talk to the phlebotomist all the time, not cause I’m interested in dating her or even want to fuck her. I talk to her because I’d an issue arises w lab draws I can call her. It’s really hard to say if he is interested in her. There are certain girls at work that I talk to more cause they’re funny, easy to get along w.

[Lionman95]

Any guy you meet will talk also to other women unless he entered an exclusive, monogamous relationship with you. Just because they get along well doesn´t mean that much so now it´s up to you whether you´re still interested or you go for a guy that gets no attention and has no contact with other women.