Is he gaslighting me?

[postempestas]

So I was talking to this guy, texting, and suddenly he stops replying, he was already taking long to reply. So later on I told him if I was bothering him or smth and he goes "no not at all, I'm not ignoring you or anything but I can't stay chained to this device". Bruh. Chained? I just wanted a full conversation damn without pause. I just don't know. Why not say "hey I'm busy, ttyl". Why is it so hard? If this is gaslight, he has done it lot of times lmao He's a bitch.

[glassdunes]

No, best, he is just busy doing things and you are more introverted and maybe a little bit more free these times. at worst he is not as into you and you can probably leave in a cute way that will have him forever wondering why he didn't choose you. Careful with the phrase gas lighting. Save it for when someone is cheating and lying to you about how you are cheating. THAT is gas lighting. When he tells you lies in order to fake an argument so you won't figure out what they are doing... yea Guess I am the sensitive guy here. Well, it does me no good, seeing as women are kind of into assholes, people who don't think to sweetly of them, misogynistic pigs and dudes with lots of success or money.

enough being dark, I guess it is slightly not true, no one is truly attracted to those traits. They just are not deal breakers so long as they don't push over the line.

[postempestas]

I'll just chill out and not talk to him at all. Only when asked to. I'll do all my best to get cold and neutral just like him. It's complicated to let go rn. I'm in a shitty situation.

[Sonorous]

Nah. I think it would only be gaslighting if he doubted your sanity/perception of reality without giving solid grounds for doing so. And even more so if he gave faulty/innacurate grounds.

Like if he said, "Why would something be wrong? You're the one making all the fuss. Ever think you're the cause?"

[postempestas]

He told me that a few times lmao the "if you say so. Thats all in your head, nothing is wrong" 😂

[Sonorous]

Ahh yeah that's definitely gaslighting if their intent isn't to be reasonable

[idkwhatsreal]

How old is he? I’m guessing he doesn’t think people want to have full conversations over text. Phones can make phone calls. Texts in my opinion are for making plans to meet and updates to said plans. I understand that it’s different if you are younger, that’s why I asked the age. I feel guys are annoyed by texting and they don’t want to look crazy using talk to text. If they are around people or busy doing something else.

[melanieeeB]

It's not gaslighting, it's no interest and keeping you warm

[postempestas]

Then what. If he texts me next time I should ignore him? 😂

[melanieeeB]

Obviously

[DaveJord]

Why don't just call and talk to him instead of texting all the time?

Bruh, is that soooooooo hard?

Some people hate texting, its not gas lighting... make a date with this guy meet in person and actually interact with him in real life or pick phone and call him. But stop all the flipping texting all the time.

[boggboss]

No he has just shown you that u are not a priority to talk to

[MrHopper]

Meh people are shit, just move on i guess he can't be bothered

[RingusUrDingus]

If you want an uninterrupted conversation, call him. If you dont mind waiting, text him.

I swear, the younger they are, the less they know how phones work.

[fonduegirl]

I think I know this guy

[postempestas]

🤣🤣

[fonduegirl]

I've just accepted he's a sexy workaholic. I usually hang out on Pinterest for that reason.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

This isn't gaslighting he's being very disrespectful, know your worth and let go of this creature

[skeetskeetskeet]

Well he can't exactly sit there talking to you when his girl is there

[Tstrbrainer]

I don't know, but that's not very polite way to reply

[garykingg]

He's got a point, probably you should get a life?

[Anonymous]

You sound a little over sensitive.

[postempestas]

I am. Also an overthinker and slightly anxious too.

[Opinion Owner]

If it were me? I would match him at his own game. And be friggin brutal. And if he ever gets offended say, "what's the matter raisin sack? Can't you take a joke? God, you're too sensitive". But I'm kind of an a**hole like that.

[postempestas]

Nah im not like that. I just hated that he said that chained shit lmao Like wtf, i wasn't asking him to be with me all day. I got shit to do too damn. Nah im not texting him again. But ik he will eventually.

[Opinion Owner]

This is probably the biggest reason I stay single. I don't like games. If I think she's playing me I have zero problem ending it. My advice to you is stick with what you know and can prove. Not what you think.

[postempestas]

Thats true. Is true many times i said and asked things and he answered with "thats not true, thats only in your head". I never believed him. See? I'm an overthinker who can't find joy in the simplest things.

[Opinion Owner]

Well just cause your feelings get away from you at times doesn't make your feelings not valid. You feel what you feel. And if you're communicating that well he should be making an effort to alleviate those fears. But yes, it's your job to try to keep those fears in check as well. Communication and trust are paramount in a relationship.

[postempestas]

We are not dating but we had a past. We just fuck from time to time now. I reconnected with him after a month. Never ending in bad terms doe, I just leave when I feel im kinda falling for him again and when what he says breaks my heart, take a break lol I don't know what is he on really, he doesn't like me like I do. But he loves having sex with me. When we are at his place he's very nice, caring and attentive with me ngl. Like a normal couple. But ik im not important to him after that. I do care about him and i always liked him.

[PatriceONeal]

You don't know what gaslighting is stop using it