Why don't guys ever approach me?

[Anonymous]

I have never been approached... Even though I take care of my look, I'm nice with everyone and get complements everyday... I just keep watching my friends being approached everyday by more than one guy and my self-esteem started to fade away because I feel like guys always avoid me... I tried to approach two guys before but it didn't work... So any tips on how to get guys to approach me

[FunkyMonkee]

Have you tried shaving your cleavage?
But, seriously, folks. I have never seen or met you so, I have no way of knowing what could be putting them of. Maybe you've got GGS:gorgeous girl syndrome. It happens all the time!! Guys see a FANTASTICALLY gorgeous girl but never bother to approach her because, as she's so incredibly pretty, he thinks she MUST already HAVE several boyfriends and more waiting for their turn to date her, which means, there's no point in him even trying because she'll NEVER go out with him so, he just doesn't bother. Consequently, most guys think that way and she ends up alone and wondering why or if she's really ugly!

[jamiexoxo]

is it not a thing that good looking people get approached less because most guy's might consider a girl to be out of his league or already taken?

I'd consider myself to be a fairly good looking bloke & i definitely see this happening with guy's, i rarely get approached by a girl and i'm the better looking guy in my group of friends, my last girlfriend told me that girls would look at me, but i never seem catch them,
aren't girls better at using peripheral vision or something?
and maybe you can tell me what percentage is given to a guys looks when looking to date?

[Asker]

Yeah.. I'd go at any percentage as long as he got a nice personality

[MCheetah]

Give a man some signals. Let him know SOMETHING that you want him to approach!

Four days ago, a GAG user posted this video. I'm going to steal it and use it again here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9ONWHXCsrk

[caring__1]

Taking a passive approach won't raise your odds of being noticed. Guys get tired of rejection, so they tend to approach those who appear approachable and show some interest. Comment on things they say or do, though avoid complimenting them on their looks (girls are much more likely to like that than guys).

[Wubs3000]

3 options
Not very good looking
Way too good looking so unreproachable
You wear way too much fake things or use way too much makeup. Which at least for me is a turnoff. Or you dress or generally give the appearance of being crazy or more trouble then you are worth.

[Hairylegs222]

Give obvious hints you're interested. Tap the guy on his shoulder to initiate a conversation. If the conversation goes well then afterwards ask for his number. Go from there 👍. Waiting and hoping forever for guys to approach you will only be a coincidence to work. If you want him, show it.

[FinneasWilson]

Maybe you don't look approachable?



Maybe you intimidate them?


Or maybe they find you boring?


Could be a number of reasons without knowing you it's hard to say really.

[MrCommodore]

Flirt with them in a subtle way, boost their ego with compliments etc, you will find guys approaching you more then.

[driven159]

you sound young so time is on your side try to wear something that makes you look sexy and see if that changes things

[Zolly99999]

Maybe you are so hot you intimate them? I have seem this before..

[FictionalCharacter]

It’s okay, guys don’t approach me either

[Asker]

Anyways you look beautiful

[FictionalCharacter]

Thanks it’s filtered 😅

[Asker]

You're welcome 😃

[jhl_x]

Keep doing the approaching yourself. It's 2022.

[Asker]

One of the guys I approach said that it would be better if the guy approached the girl not the opposite... and all the girls I see get approached by guys 🤷🏻

[jhl_x]

Why would it be better? It'd mean that you'd have to keep waiting for someone to approach you, while you see other people approaching each other and feel bad because it doesn't happen to you, and hoping that whoever actually approaches you fits the list of criteria that you probably have in mind and is not someone you'll just say "no, thank you". Not only it's something that's not effective but it's also quite "conservative", something I'd expect this modern generation to have moved on from already, no matter how convenient it is.

[Asker]

I guess, you're right I would try to approach some though thanks

[Anonymous]

You're emotionally unavailable. You need to give e guys a reason to approach you.

[boobliker]

because your Anonymous to us!!!

[RuthlessAggression]

Didn't work, why?

What happened?

[Asker]

One played too hard to get so obviously he wasn't interested and the other was weird because he said he wanted to, then he said no and rejected me then he was possessive and didn't want to date somebody else so I left them both

[Asker]

*didn't want me

[RuthlessAggression]

So one was interested but was trying to see how loyal you were and the other was becoming obsessive

It sounds like you're turning men off. Something about what you're doing, is turning them off.

Are you not a loyal person?

[Asker]

It's not that I turned them they weren't interested from the beginning... The first one wasn't interested at all and he was chasing another girl at that time which I knew later... The second one was indecisive, he told me he liked my personality and saw that I was pretty but he couldn't love me and he didn't know why... I'm loyal but I also have dignity

[RuthlessAggression]

Maybe he couldn't love you at that moment

[Asker]

Yeah maybe

[HeyCoco]

Maybe you don't do eye contact?

[In_Trance]

Must be something you're saying or doing (or not)