Why don't guys approach me?

[Anonymous]

I obviously have some insecurities, everyone does, but I feel I'm fairly attractive. I have natural blonde hair, fair skin, light blueish-green eyes, plump lips, I'm not too tall (5' 3"), and I'm pretty skinny (101 lbs) while still having small curves. I'm very shy, but I try my best to be kind to everyone. People have had crushes on me, but no one has ever approached me in public. Am I uglier than I thought? Maybe people think I'm much younger? I am homeschooled (freshman) so I don't have that interaction, but I go out a lot. Anybody have thoughts?

[PrettyPriya]

That is really difficult to say for sure why without knowing you. Perhaps you are not coming off as inviting. Also, guys don't often approach women in public at random because it is kinda off-putting to do so for a lot of us.

I would just smile and be more friendly looking if you aren't doing that already. Maybe approach a guy too. Nothing wrong with that at all.

[PrettyPriya]

@asker Thank you very much for MHO 😊

[Asker]

ofc! <33

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Well, if you’re homeschooled… Where do you expect to be approached? Guys do not want to risk approaching someone underage in public… And most teen boys don’t have the confidence to approach girls.

[Zolly99999]

A lot of teenage boys are very insecure and don't know how to approach women especially attractive ones. It probably has nothing to do with you.. relax and don't Bevin a rush... You have lots of time a head of you..

[UniquelyBasic]

Maybe your too hot making men feel they dont have a chance with you. People seem to think a gorgeous person is going to be stuck up but I've learned thats far from the truth sometimes. Maybe you should approach them

[Zolly99999]

I know a lot of guys like this...

[Avicenna]

Shy girls appear less approachable, so that is the most likely explanation

[Asker]

that's true

[Zolly99999]

I disagree... If i like a girl I will approach her whether she is shy or out going..

[Avicenna]

@Zolly99999: It's not that no one will approach them, just that fewer guys will. And not all guys approach to begin with, so it's enough to create the illusion that no one is interested.

[Avicenna]

Remember that we are talking about teenage guys, not men our age

[Zolly99999]

Good point... Sometimes i forget that...

[historectomy]

most guys your age are really shy so even if they do like you building up the courage to go talk is hard, not you, just teenage stuff

[Paul09]

Why don't you approach men? 2 way road. Maybe those guys feel they way you do? Maybe some of it shows? I think the same about women , with me. Why don't they ever approach me?

[1amcurious]

Maybe coz you're under 18, yeah one can surely approach and be a friend, or have a nice casual talk.

You're beautiful the way you are, dont hold those insecurities, cheers!

[Asker]

thank you <33

[1amcurious]

No worries 😊

[Zolly99999]

I agree with this

[TheFlak38]

women call that rape today.

[Dchrls78104]

... especially if you're a minor.