Why don't guys approach me if they stare that much?

[lemonette]

I notice a lot of guys staring at me but I've only been asked out by two guys my entire life. Why don't guys approach me if they stare that much?

[fisher]

The behavior of staring at someone but not approaching them can be attributed to various psychological and social factors, and it's not limited to men. Here are some reasons why this might occur:

Many people, regardless of gender, fear the possibility of being rejected. Approaching someone requires courage and a willingness to put oneself in a vulnerable position. Paralysis by analysis can happen. Some men may overthink the situation to the point where they talk themselves out of approaching someone.

Also, sometimes it's hard to read signals. A guy might stare because he's interested, but he might not be sure if the feeling is mutual. He may be trying to gauge the other person's reactions before making a move.

Cultural and societal norms can also play a role. In some settings, it might be considered inappropriate to approach someone directly.

Staring doesn't necessarily imply romantic or sexual interest. Sometimes people stare absentmindedly or because they find something intriguing, not because they're interested in a relationship or encounter.

While staring might indicate interest, it's far from a surefire sign that someone will approach you. If you find the staring mutual and are curious about the possibility of a relationship or interaction, sometimes taking the initiative yourself is the best course of action.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

For myself, it's like when smelling tasty food, you just have to take a few big whiffs, even if you don't plan on eating it. Who doesn't do it? Similarly staring at you can be natural without ever intending to meet you again. But I'm not saying this is the case for all guys.

These guys are so horny and captivated by your unbelievable looks, they just can't help but stare. However, they're too afraid to approach you, fearing rejection and embarrassment. They're paralyzed by their insecurities and overwhelmed by the thought of taking that first step.

But you, my dear, are a woman of many mysteries. You have a hidden dark side, where you enjoy seeing these men suffer in silence, never daring to approach you. The thought of them staring and wanting you without having the courage to do anything about it, turns you on in ways you never thought possible.

In this world, these poor men are doomed to a life of unfulfilled desires, staring longingly at you from afar, while you revel in their torment. The ultimate consequence? They continue to suffer from the paralyzing fear of rejection, while you live a life of sexual empowerment, surrounded by the phantoms of your desires, always in control and in charge of their desires.

The end result? A never-ending cycle of unfulfilled lust, a world where the only solace comes from the knowledge that they will never truly possess you, while you remain a tantalizing and unattainable prize.

[BoobSlayer]

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[RoοstеrBrеаst]

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[Keyboardkat]

It may be that some guys see you and think you're really beautiful and nice and feel intimidated, like, "I wouldn't stand a chance with her! She can probably have any guy she wants. Why would she give me the time of day?" It's actually a matter of a guy having low self-esteem. As for why someone would have low self-esteem, that's a psychological problem which is beyond our scope here. Personally, I've asked out girls whom I was sure would say no, and some did, but some surprised me and said yes. I found most of them to be much nicer as people than I thought they would be. So, guys out there, realize that, 1: Girls are just people, just like us, and, 2: Nothing ventured, nothing gained! You might not have a chance with her, but you DEFINITELY won't if you don't even try! Don't sell yourself short!

[passenger]

The reasons men might stare at a woman but not approach her can vary from person to person and situation to situation.

Many people fear rejection, and this fear can outweigh the desire to approach someone. They may worry about embarrassing themselves or ruining any chance of a future interaction.

Sometimes men are unsure if their feelings are reciprocated. They may be trying to gauge interest and are uncertain how to read signals coming from the woman they are staring at. Men may also be waiting for some sort of "green light" that indicates it's okay to approach. This could be a smile, eye contact, or some other subtle body language.

Paralysis by analysis can be a real thing. Men may overthink the situation, pondering the perfect thing to say, when to approach, or other scenarios, and end up not approaching at all.

Understanding human behavior, especially in dating and attraction, is complex. If you find the situation confusing and the context is appropriate, consider making the first move yourself. Sometimes that can help clear up any misunderstandings or hesitations.

[AllGoodNamesRGone]

Hey have we texted?
I don't know why I got sucha strong instinct saying yess

[Jazzy54]

They either lack confidence or you’re not approachable.

[Bilboes]

They probably find you threatening..

[OlderAndWiser]

Are they staring because you have something hanging out of your nose? :) :) :)

Maybe they stare because you are attractive but don't approach because you are intimidating.

[Leapfrog00]

Shyness and social anxiety. Guys will often stare at girls and check them out but when it comes time to talk to them, they want to run in the other direction! Lol.

I'm so shy, I wait for the girl to ask me out, which come to think of it, that's probably how I got stuck some of the psychos I've dated, lol. But no, seriously there's nothing wrong with asking out a guy. It will make it easier on him.

If you're shy, it might make it harder but the only thing you can really do is remember the guy I tried too, so you're both in the same boat. My ex-girlfriend Anna knew I was shy, and she had some shyness herself, and she used to think it was so cute how we were both shy. But yeah, it's most likely shyness after staring at you but aren't approaching you.

[Hulk_kitty]

It's important to remember that while staring might indicate interest, it doesn't always translate into immediate action. If you're interested in getting to know someone who's been giving you these signs, there's no harm in taking a proactive role yourself. Initiating a conversation or expressing your own interest can create a welcoming environment for others to open up as well.

Ultimately, every individual is unique, and there could be a myriad of reasons behind why some guys don't approach you even if they seem interested. The best approach is to stay open, be approachable, and take initiative if you're interested in someone..

[Truthbombs4u]

Many men fear rejection. If a man approaches you, he has confidence.

I can talk to anyone because I have the "gift of gab" and my intentions aren't to court you. So for me to approach beautiful woman isn't held back by a fear of not attaining a goal. Men are typically the same, but some of us aren't different. I'm not out to bang everyone. I love conversation. I love stories.

So, many men see you, and think you have ultra high standards. 90% (made up percentage) of men are not fit, or have the model look they think you want. They immediately see you as snobby, without even knowing you. They envision hordes of better men throwing themselves at you, and they can't compete. Many men have insecurities. Just looking at you, and theythink of those insecurities.

Sorry, it's the world we live in.

[spartan55]

How much guys stare at you isn't correlated to how often you are asked out.
My guess is you either: don't look approachable/have serious rbf OR you don't show any interest towards the guy yet expect them to do all the work. Guys need to know you are interested too.

[OfMiceandMen]

Based on your photo, you are a good looking women (staring part), that toppled with your abundance of swagger (giving the bird to everyone and lots of attitude), may make it difficult for some shyer guys to approach you. Nothing wrong with those qualities, I just expect most guys likely figure your taken.

[Reichmann75]

Because feminist societies consider men approaching as harassement. That + I don't want to make efforts for girls who don't.

[RedInnocent68]

Lots of good answers here! It comes down to a lot of nice guys get intimidated and are often shy. A lot of girls also have esteem issues, and sometimes the hottest girls are the ones that don’t know that they’re hot. I’ve often heard, ‘I don’t know why they're staring at me?’ where the answer should be, ‘have you looked in a mirror lately? You’re smoking and they want to smash you!’ If you’re interested, don’t be afraid to make the first move. You’ve got a lot more power than you think.

[Pacquet]

I catch myself staring every now and then, I’m mostly trying to figure out what’s the most natural way to approach and greet them without it feeling forced. If I’m a bit more socially lubricated I don’t think about this as much. Some women are so alluring you can’t help but stare and reptile brain takes over and when you snap out of it you realize you’re in the middle of a cross walk. That acutely happened to me recently.

[boobliker]

we men don't like being turned down, so sometimes it is better not to ask that way you did not say NO!
I would say I am not one of them I asked tens of thousands of girls to dance 6 out of ten would walk away
after I asked do you on first dates one or two even slapped me hard but later they were the ones who came home with me. so much fun in the youth of mine! and I love it all.

[Marcuslrh]

They probably dont feel worthy or have the balls to actually say something so they just admire the view and probably hoping you say something to show your open to communication.

[DAtharealest]

If you both make eye contact, and he still doesn’t at least spark up a conversation with you, he may be attracted to you, but in a relationship. He could also be intimidated, or recuperating from a long term relationship, and feeling out of touch.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

Do you give them a sign your open to their approach? If you don't, they are way less likely to try. If you do, they are oblivious, shy, or taken most likely.

[zato1abuser]

I personally don't do it, because I don't want to bother anyone, don't want to make women feel uneasy and if you truly want to talk to me, you can approach me as well. I want to get some attention too, not just women.

[MrOracle]

This isn't the whole story/entire reason, but it's a big part of it:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Ck37MZh_teQ

[Unit1]

This should become a real awareness and even then it'll fall on deaf ears and nothing will change.
Getting girls in Asia is increasingly getting more and more an attractive and doable alternative.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Guys will be guys & we like eye candy & if you catch us staring feel free to approach & introduce yourself unless we are with our girlfriends.

[purplepoppy]

A guy staring is looking to RAPE you not date you. He's weighing up his odds of tackling you.
Real men don't stare.

[Alex8736]

Better yet how about approaching them to embarrass them by asking them if they are reporters, if they ask why you just give the reply of "instead of staring at me, just take a picture cuz it lasts longer " lol

[slatyb]

They are intimidated, thinking you wouldn't be interested.

[HiveBee]

Just come to the hood and you'll have dudes hollering at you all day!