Guys, if you saw this on a woman's dating profile what would you think?

[Anonymous]

People describe me as calm, empathic, and nurturing with an excellent sense of humor. Busy in healthcare, I enjoy my downtime to relax with family and friends.

I am curious and like to learn. I am always up for an adventure. Be it going on a hike in the backwoods, traveling, or trying something new (e. g. I'd try unique food even if once). I enjoy reading, the arts, astrology, and more.

Not interested in anything casual. Never have been, not about to start

[DoctorSex]

Here's what my male brain read.

First paragraph:
{I think a lot of myself, and I use indirect methods to get what I want, I spend time with family and friends so I really don't need you}

Second paragraph:
{She's curious and likes to learn, that's good. But uh oh, here comes her indirect manipulative nature again, and now it's dipped it the need for control. Who says they're up for an adventure and then tells the person what adventure to surprise them with? Self defeating much? She clearly doesn't understand how bonding works and I doubt she truly has the time. This smells of desperation. She loves reading, that's cool, astrology is also cool.}

Third paragraph:
{This chick has too much baggage and pent up anger. Maybe I wouldn't have minded her saying this in person, infact I certainly would have preferred she did, but we haven't even spoke and she's showing major control/masculine energy vibes... NEXT}

I hope you can respect my honesty, I don't know you, I'm just going off your words and your asked for feedback.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Asker]

That is an interesting summary & how do you think I improve it.

[DoctorSex]

Do you have children?

[Asker]

No, I do not.

[DoctorSex]

Ok. Here's some further questions that are important before I can give you the type of answer to increase your dating potential for the ideal guy.

1) do you want kids?
2) do you spend any time with kids?
3) do you cook?
4) do you have a cook book?
5) what is the purpose that you're looking for a man to serve in your life?

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Asker]

1) do you want kids? - yes
2) do you spend any time with kids? - yes
3) do you cook? - damn good cook
4) do you have a cook book? - No good/natural cook does. I wing in & I'm good at it.
5) what is the purpose that you're looking for a man to serve in your life? - partner.

[DoctorSex]

Now Im going to keep talking to you as long as you genuinely want support in this matter and I can guarantee you better success with men in forming a deeper, longer lasting connection.
Remember, I do not know you nor how you look and both these aspects also play an important role. What I would like to do, in a rather omnipotent fasion, is give you some homework to reflect on?

Now I've asked you some direct questions and you've given me some direct answers, you aren't fighting me, you're cooperating with me and that's deeply attractive to 98% of men.
I gave you 5 questions to answer and in those 5 questions you answered, makes you further more attractive to men than your initial daring profile! That is to say, they haven't switched off reading nor see you in a negative light... And that's an improvement.
So the homework would be for you to simply reflect on our interaction thus far and your replies to the questions I gave you.

That might be all you need in all honesty, but if you'd like to go further I suggest you quickly and succinctly explain what you mean by Partner. This is because Men are always sniffing out for where the TERMS OF CONTRACT is, what the duties and obligations are. Do not skip over this part willy-nilly. It's deeply important to guys that you are specific. What do you mean by "partner"?

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Asker]

Okay sure ask questions. What do I mean by partner? Jeez. Thought self explaining. Someone to rely on.

[DoctorSex]

You'd be wrong in thinking it's self explanatory, there's many different types of businesses with different different partnership structures, ownership rights, profit, dividend splits. Etc.

Now I told you I'd help so long as you appeared to be cooperative. I need you to explain what you mean by partner/someone to rely on. Financially? Emotionally? Do you have anyone dependant on you? Can you see how a vague approach only leads to further ambiguity, that to the make brain flashes warning signs. Like a man with horns who tells you to sign a contract without reading it.

Do not underestimate how important these questions are to men.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Asker]

Oh good god. Partner - someone that'll take out the trash without me having to nag his ear off and say get off your lazy ass & do something, someone who will help raise any children, help around the house like doing repairs, etc. Essentially be what a man is expected to be. Don't cheat, etc.

[Asker]

The question of partner would be ANSWERED when ADULTS speak to one another. Figure out what each other wants, etc. Quite obviously, you don't have much experience in that regard.

[DoctorSex]

Lol...
That wasn't so hard was it?
I've found In my experience with helping women that, women tend to hate the mundane questions that men lean into. They believe it takes away the "magic", and they may be right... But hopefully we've grown out of Disney fantasies.

So here's what I suggest you do,
You take the answers you gave to the first 5 questions and you expand lightly on them, giving context (how those points look like on a day to day basis) example: "I love looking after my niece, we usually spend Thursdays going to a museum and she loves vanilla ice cream"

I'd then suggest you end with what you require in a partner, the terms and conditions you outlined... (But try not to be such a brat about it!)

If you'd like me to look over any draft, feel free to inbox me.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Jamie05rhs]

Omg. 😄 @Asker I don't know this dude @DoctorSex personally -- never seen him before -- but I can tell you right now that he was SPOT ON regarding the "partner" question! Dude is 100% right about that! We want to know what your expectations are of us as a man in the relationship!

[Asker]

ROFL. @DoctorSex - you're a troll. You haven't even asked 5 questions. You asked one, what's a partner because you're too daft to know what women want.

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs What do you think partner means, troll? What do you think of when you think partner for a woman.

[Asker]

@DoctorSex
example: "I love looking after my niece, we usually spend Thursdays going to a museum and she loves vanilla ice cream"

My niece flies airplanes. Museums were something we did when she was 6. She's 17. Can't help it you & guys like @jamie05rhs think in simple terms. I mean your summary is quite honestly pathetic. Who wants a douchebag who does nothing but lay about the house? As for hiking, etc. I'm active - you must be rather lazy.

[DoctorSex]

@Jamie05rhs I tried lol some people are stuck on stupid 🤷

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker Wowww. Really? So I'm a troll now?

@DoctorSex Yes; you did.
And I guess you're right.
(At first I thought you were talking down to her a bit too much. But now I see that it was the correct approach. Because she has the brain of a child.)

[MrCommodore]

I don't know, I mean I'd probably think that you are a normal respectable person.
I think men are initially more visual, so guys will probably look at pictures and see if there is physical attraction first, then explore if there are things that make you compatible.

[Asker]

That's often why boys end up with dimbos and men end up with wives.

[MrCommodore]

I don't think so, like I'm not talking about attraction to Instagram models or that type of fake looking thing, I'm talking basic attraction to a normal average girl. When selecting a long-term relationship partner, we look for basic physical attraction and the personality is equally as important.

[Asker]

Well then it's a good thing I am attractive then isn't it. I just don't dress like the revealing tramps most "men" expect.

[MrCommodore]

Most men don't go for women who dress in revealing outfits when selecting a potential wife, just a more basic or natural attraction

[Asker]

If you listen to the fools on this site they do. I posted a poll where asked between twin sisters who is more attractive and it was the one dressed revealing that was.

[MrCommodore]

Yes because this can be Vanity Fair, where people repeatedly post the same pictures of themselves or someone they are obsessed with. Some are genuine, most are weird and likely posting pictures of other people without consent.

[Asker]

@mrcommodore - very true.

[HighValue]

It seems good, except I would want to know more details about "busy in healthcare." I'd want to know if the kind of healthcare job she has requires her to be on call so it could ruin planned time together, or if it requires travel.
The other stuff seems good. I like the part of never having been into casual stuff. I also like the included interest of hiking.

[xtremesmok]

It feels a bit job-interview-ish but then again it is online dating. I would prefer to meet someone and evolve a serious relationship organically; swiping through a catalog of potential partners is too impersonal for anything but finding a hook-up IMHO.

[Asker]

Then how would you reword it? I just said that the area is undesirable. I only work here as a job - if the job wasn't well paying I wouldn't have bothered.

[DavidRaul]

I would consider you a genuine soul. And would right swipe reading this bio

[Jamie05rhs]

You were doing SO WELL until you mentioned astrology! 🤦🤦 ( 🚩 )

[Asker]

What's wrong with astrology

[Jamie05rhs]

It's gay. (No offense.)

[Asker]

You failed high school I take it.

[Jamie05rhs]

I actually did. And I actually understand real science. Not fake science.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's funny, though: I actually thought your profile was really good apart from that one thing. You may have even caught my attention enough to match with you if I had met you on the dating site.
Thankfully I got to meet you here instead (and find out your true character), so I have saved myself the trouble.

[Anonymous]

That all sounds perfect to me.

[Anonymous]

Meh.

[Asker]

Same to you.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

I would swipe right