Guys, what is your impression of this dating profile bio?

[Anonymous]

does it come off as too direct or like a woman who knows what she wants in a good way? is it attractive or off putting in any way? just curious as I’ve never gotten any feedback on it before …

[TheSpaceGnome]

The picture looks trans, if thats the case, it shouldn't say "straight" or "woman" on the profile, if it's not the case, then your gym/weightlifting hobby and your lip injections aren't doing you any favors.

The occupation is a red flag.

The bio is bad because it doesn't really say anything about you other than the bottom sentence (and I don't even know what that is..)
It's also very vague about what you're looking for. Emotional intelligence is highly subjective, "open-minded" is code for "indecisive", and "mature" is code for "I think adults should be boring".

You should also be sure about whether or not you want kids before dating (one of many reasons being indecisive is bad for relationships).

Drinking alcohol, weed use, and being a gym rat are offputting.

I'd personally hit pass.

[Asker]

I’m not trans; however if I was I’m pretty sure I’d find your commentary about it quite transphobic and hurtful. I’d consider your impact on how that kind of insensitivity would affect someone had I reason to be offended, which some
might think I would anyway on account of the fact that what you are suggesting is I look like a man. But having known many beautiful trans women, I’m not personally impacted by that kind of bigotry.

insofar as the career being a red flag, I’d say the same for anyone so off put by it.

I’ll take the critique about it not saying a lot about me personally. That was intentional though as men swipe right on so many women, most women can’t ever get through sorting all the people who swipe right and my hope was that it might help my audience know who I am and am not interested in so they don’t waste their time nor mine to the extent possible.

Open-minded is in reference to being Kink-friendly and not overly conventional, and mature and emotionally intelligent accordingly speaks to the sort of person who would have the appropriate interpersonal skill set to partake in such activities and relationship dynamics with respect, thoughtfulness and an ability to be safe in what otherwise could be both emotionally and physically dangerous practices. It may be a lot of things that are undesirable to many, certainly. boring however is definitely not one of them lol.

I appreciate being able to have thjs glimpse at how diverse the range of responses has been in even just the few folks that have chimed in so far though. So thank you for your insights, albeit not likely super relevant to the crown I’m trying to attract.

[Asker]

Crowd*

[TheSpaceGnome]

You asked what impression your profile gave, what I said is the impression it gives (and regardless of your intent or whether or not it bothers you, that was my honest answer).

If you wish to come across differently, then make changes accordingly (or keep it the same, it makes no difference to me), but I'm not going to bother debating how I should or shouldn't interprete your profile. It is a waste of time to debate that, as it won't effect any of the random men who swipe left or right on you (and I'm certainly not interested).

I will however point out, that any guy who knows what he wants, swipes left a lot more often than you seem to think.

When a profile says very little about a woman, even if she's absolutely gorgeous, I'll hit pass on her. Because the only reason to have such an empty profile, is because she's boring or indecisive, or simply has no clue what she wants (a lot of men think this way).

[Asker]

Thank you this was actually helpful :)

[ProbablyClueless]

Your profile is generally good, but I might consider a friendlier looking photo (not necessary). Your profile is very direct and clear. I do want to give you a heads up though; EVERY (and I do mean every) woman I've ever met who has made a point of saying she wants direct communication has been an atrocious communicator herself. It was like my words would go in one ear and out the other. I would tell her things that she would misinterpret in ways that a creative writer couldn't come up with.

[MementoMori777]

It's a good dating profile very open about what you want and what you seek in a person, you aren't being extremely picky or anything, a woman with boundaries and limits, is what it comes off as and thats good and perfectly normal, you also got the dog there, which looks like a tough as dog, body guard dog lol

[Asker]

She is pretty protective, but most guys have fun playing rough with her ;)

[MementoMori777]

You should've said playing wroof with her

Get it cause it's a dog ha

But it's good to know, you have protection 🙂💯

[spartan55]

I would remove your occupation and where you went to college. Ivy League is very impressive, don't get me wrong, just my opinion.

(Love the not trashy pic showing plenty of leg 👍)

[Asker]

You mean for privacy and safety reasons? or because there is something about it that would be discouraging to people? Thanks (for the advice as well as the compliment!)

[Lliam]

How many guys within a mile away are going to enjoy discussing Foucault?

[Asker]

Haha …not many. but surprisingly more than you might think, at least here in LA. But there’s an endless supply of people in a place this big and “progressive”-minded

[Asker]

It’s such a hugely relevant topic to my interests and professional life though that it’s worth it to try and find someone who is interested in things belonging to at least the general academic discipline/s you’d find Foucault’s work being applied to.

[Anonymous]

Quite boring...
I definitely ignore n move to next girl

[DryGermanGuy]

Stop your idiotic trolling with these pictures!

[Guardian45]

Looks fine to me. Is that you?

[In_Trance]

pass