Why would a guy shut down sexual conversations with someone he’s attracted to?

[grapefruit11]

This guy hits me up every single day and keeps the conversation going constantly. He told me I’m beautiful and, in person, he stares at me when he thinks I don’t notice. But if I directly compliment him or send a sexy picture, he’s very platonic with his response. If I make a joke about sex, he pretends to not get the joke. And in person, if I’m showing cleavage, he will avoid looking in my direction to the point where it looks like he’s in physical pain 🤣. If I joke about it, he’ll literally build a wall between us 😂

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Okay people who are jumping to conclusions about my body type (wtf?), as I stated he has told me he thinks I’m very beautiful and it wasn’t because I asked for his opinion or talked bad about myself. I have my insecurities but my body is considered close to ideal by society’s standards. Flat stomach, round butt, big boobs. So, that can be taken out of the equation 🤦‍♀️. Maybe he doesn’t like me but I don’t know why you’d assume it must be my figure. You need to get out more.

[Dontaaaa]

I feel like in this particular case you can't really know without knowing what kind of person he is.

Which in thay case you know more about him than we do, of course.

If I had to guess then maybe its because he's not really seeking or wanting to do anything sexual with you and he's setting boundaries by not giving you the reaction you probably want.

Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the bond y'all have with sexual talk or something.

[silkjames]

Because he actually likes u he's trying too be serious with u he does not want too make a mistake in saying something wrong too you you got him stuck because u too dope poor guy 🤣🤣🤣!

[Jamie05rhs]

This.

[Gene9]

Exavtlyyyyy

[Gene9]

This is actually a good thing he might actually like like you? As in romantically

[Sam_25]

Maybe he don't like her physicaly?

[Gene9]

I meant maybe he respects her

[Sam_25]

I mean maybe he doesn't like her figure...

[Gene9]

Ohhh could be

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with @Gene9!

[Gene9]

Ikrrr

[Guardian45]

I remember being extremely shy around a woman who flirted with me constantly, boldly and directly, including cornering me alone in a room.

What I was uncomfortable with was being the Prey instead if the Hunter. Try backing off a bit. Let him come to you.

[serious]

Either you are not sexually attractive to him or he is very nervous and does not want to embarrass himself

[jhl_x]

There are different types of attraction. Maybe he likes your company, but dislikes more sexual stuff or doesn't know how to act around it.

[love_conquers_lust]

He sounds shy/scared/conservative. Is your laughter one of derision?

[grapefruit11]

No, I definitely don’t mean it that way. I laugh to ease the tension and make him feel comfortable. It’s my way of trying to show him I’m comfortable with flirting and with joking about risqué topics and that I won’t get offended if he does the same

[love_conquers_lust]

This is why phones, texting, and online dating suck dick. Context is lost without physical presence and it allows for ambiguity and imposters to pretend they’re something they’re not.

I mean, he’s gotta learn to speak up for himself. None of us here truly know what he’s thinking, including you. However, your opinion carries the most weight amongst us, you’ve spent time with him and have more data.

Maybe it’s a cart before the horse thing. Maybe there are some other topics you need to discuss first. Maybe he thinks he is shit in bed. Maybe he wants to know your experiences<-maybe he won’t like what he hears. We can’t say for certain, all we can offer you are possibilities and armchair quarterbacking. That’s all I ever do on here, but I try to be as honest an informative as I can.

[grapefruit11]

You make some really good points. He’s a pretty traditional guy. Meanwhile, I’m traditional in practice but very “out there” with the things I say.

It might have scared him a little bit when he found out I have a “kink.” He’s told me he doesn’t have any kinks so he might think I wouldn’t enjoy being with him. It’s nothing extreme lol. I just know I’d like a little bondage and blindfolding 😊.

He’s a very sweet and respectful guy who’s not just thirsty for sex. I’m not either (I’m a 25 year old virgin and I think sex is very sacred) but I enjoy the excitement of talking about it because I get horny sometimes!

[love_conquers_lust]

How do you KNOW you have a kink if you’re a virgin? That kind of talk is suspect to me.

You want to turn him into a woman hater of any political swing whether it’s a cuck who wants to see women whore themselves out or a wife beating traditionalist of James Dean mother fucker, lie to him or worse yet cheat on him. This I have experience with and boy does it test one’s convictions. I don’t care about double standards, a woman cheating on a guy is just worse. We know it. You can’t be the hornier gender and be expected to be the more responsible while the other gender cries about rights. It’s a load of bull shit.

You’re setting my bells off.

[love_conquers_lust]

*or James Dean

[Jamie05rhs]

@love_convers_lust Your last comment makes absolutely no sense at all. What are you even talking about?

[grapefruit11]

Yeah, I’m confused by your last comment, too 😂😂😂. I don’t know why you’re talking about politics and infidelity.

And even as a virgin, you can know what you like. That’s like saying you can’t know if you’re straight or not until you have sex.

[Jamie05rhs]

@grapefruit11 Right!

[love_conquers_lust]

It’s anger. Anger at how difficult it is to spot lying. This guy reminds me of myself years ago. I hate, and I mean HATE how other people have lied or I suspected they lied to get close to me in the past before.

It’s your business, none of mine.

[Anonymous]

I could tell you why but you’d probably just disagree with me and call me names.

[grapefruit11]

Why did you even take the time to comment if you weren’t going to answer the question?

[Opinion Owner]

To see if you’d take the time to comment.

🤷‍♂️

[grapefruit11]

Lol nice trolling. I have to give it to you

[Jamie05rhs]

@Agagagagaga What's your theory?

[LazerBean]

He may be more conservative and not into that.

[Jamie05rhs]

He probably IS into that. He's probably just trying to behave and not do anything naughty.

[Jamie05rhs]

He's probably a Christian.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe he’s super shy or not sexually experienced

[truthisthree]

making

a lot of assumptions

[grapefruit11]

What assumptions?

[Anonymous]

He's not into you sexually?