Why would a guy you just started talking to turn every conversation sexual and borderline inappropriate? Do they not know how to talk to women?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

That kind of guy is only looking for casual sex. Either he's only looking for that overall, or he's only looking for that from you (because he doesn't see you as "relationship material" for whatever reason). Obviously you would be able to answer THAT question far better than I could, but it's one or the other.

He's making his intentions clear, so now the choice is yours whether you continue or you end things with him.

[Asker]

I never see him with a girl ever, he's been on the apps for a long time, he’s like 47 and hasn’t been married and no kids. So my guess is it’s probably not personal and he just doesn’t want a relationship with anyone.

[MrOracle]

Fair enough. And some women are perfectly okay with just casual sex, and he's got every right to want that - just as you have every right not to give it to him if you want something different.

[Asker]

Yeah totally understand. I actually have my eye on someone else right now and he’s nice so 🫶

[DryGermanGuy]

Everyone knows at least one such idiot... ugh.

[Lupe12345]

He’s basically telling you he’s only interest in getting sexual with you

[Asker]

Well it’s weird cuz before we talked about like engineering stuff. I’m an engineer so we kinda talked about those things.
Now it’s like all sexual and I’m put off what the shift was.

[Lupe12345]

Thats a big shift. I would not beat around the bush and ask why the conversation is turning out that way

[Asker]

Maybe he was always a creep and was gonna turn it that way regardless

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Not gonna lie, if I met a girl who I was attracted to and could keep up with my nerdy ass interests, I'd have a hard time taking things slow too.

[Asker]

@Telekinetic-Potato lol yeah he’s a doctor and I’m an engineer who builds quantitative risk systems. He seemed into it and now he’s like turning convos sexual and saying how I turn him on.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

When I was in college, I used to do a version of that because I wanted to sort of feel out if the relationship was something that could turn sexual or not.

It sounds like he just might be a nervous guy or isn't very experienced with women yet.

If you want to keep things platonic, I would immediately switch the subject to something extremely dry for a couple minutes. After a couple times he should get the picture.

If you're open to ateast entertaining the idea, I would acknowledge his intended advancement in some way that is clear and then move on.

For anything to build there needs to be some amount of sexual tension, as the woman it's up to you to decide how much you're going to allow there to be.

[Asker]

@Telekinetic-Potato could he still have feelings for me? Yeah I’ve tried turning convos away from flirty things and he told me I’m so fun to flirt with (lol) and whenever convos went away from sex he got less interested in talking.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

As a guy, I don't see anything wrong with things starting off purely sexual. Especially when you're both under 30. But becoming disinterested after a little flirting isn't exactly a great sign if longevity is what you're after.

[Asker]

@Telekinetic-Potato lol he’s 48 😂 I’m only 27.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Nahhh 😂 😂 😂

[Asker]

@Telekinetic-Potato bro he is so strange 😂 I literally don’t know what he wants from me. I know he’s never been married and doesn’t have kids tho. Prob doesn’t want that.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

He definitely just wants to smash. Up to you, but that's a little strange that he's 48 and his flirting skills are more like he's 20

[Asker]

@Telekinetic-Potato yeah I don’t get why he just wants sex though. I am a really cute girl so I don’t get why that’s all I’m seen as.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

A lot of guys who don't gat a lot of attention from women become addicted to porn because more than half what they know about women is from that and the internet. Add on the insecurity that goes with it and you get a 48 year old who looks at you like a addict looks at a crack pipe

[Asker]

@Telekinetic-Potato do you think he might be a porn addict?
He never really looked at my face just my body. and never mentions kissing me, just doing things with my body parts.

[OddBeMe]

Depends on who is in the convo. If I’m talking to uptight religious gals, I keep it down. If it’s proven funny chicks I have good relations with, I let it pour out.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he wants to do that. And you haven’t rejected him

[ChicoFromThe305]

Obviously not, sounds like some pervert shit

[Asker]

Seriously. I haven’t had a guy talk to me like this ever so I am BAFFLED. I’ll say how I went to Pilates or something or gained some weight and I’m going on a diet and he’ll immediately start talking about my body and send the 😈 emoji and tell me I have sexy tits.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If he's gonna have the lack of manners to talk about your breasts, he could've at least brought some flowers first lol (joking)

The dude just seems to lack manners, that's surely not a successful route that's for sure 🤣

[Asker]

I’m taking it so personally. I’m a classy but sexy type of girl with red hair. I rarely deal with this though from men.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well Ms classy redhead you got a small glimpse of the shitty men you hear women complain about, but there's good men out there, you'll get one, this is just an experience you can learn from, I'm sure you learned something from it 💯

[slatyb]

Some definitely do not.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Cumbrain is a hell of a disease.

[Asker]

Seriously! I’ll just say I went to Pilates or pole fitness or just anything not even related to my body and he’ll still turn it sexual immediately and then ghost me for days. I’m not interested in him but I don’t know why I’m being spoken to this way and it’s just baffling.

[Zestyassmf1997]

I’d just ignore him.

[jahaims]

That means they just want sex

[Anonymous]

Guys who do that are very desperate.

[Guido]

He is horny!