Why do men get upset when we grab your butts?

[Anonymous]

Because you guys slap our asses whenever you want lol so why can't we do it?

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Since this is causing confusion in the comment section. Let me clarify. I mean in terms of a relationship, not sne random mf o the street... okay?

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*not some random mf on the street

[normalice]

Butts are a "submission zone," much like the throat is to dogs.

This is because every man has taken a shit and noticed it feels real good in a pretty much entirely sexual way. However, we are "maxmizers" when it comes to pleasure and as good as it would feel to get our butts penetrated, the thing that feels orders of magnitude better than that is cumming into a butthole.

And so, there is a hierarchy established. The man taking it in the ass is experiencing less pleasure than the man putting it in his ass, thus the man putting it the other man's ass is "better."

To a guy, having his ass touched or played with stirs all these instincts in a fraction of a moment, before he even gets a chance to consider them consciously, and he takes it (again subconsciously) as someone showing interest in fucking his butthole. But it is also our instinct to not be the lowest on the totem pole. And by the time these two instincts are done doing their thing with our brain chemicals, our conscious thought catches up to realize violence isn't the solution here, which upsets us.

[Domanihatu]

Please don’t say “every man” because I certainly don’t share this viewpoint. While I don’t mind my wife grabbing or even smacking my ass, I can 100% guarantee you that I have never felt sexual pleasure from taking a shit. My ass is ‘exit only’ and I definitely don’t want anything to ever be entering my ass. I can’t imagine it feeling good in any way, shape or form. So, feel free to speak for yourself and your own personal experiences, but don’t lump “every man” into any level of homosexual behavior.

[normalice]

@TheeTrybrid See? I didn't even try to touch his butt. I just projected the thought of pleasure into it and that was enough for him to get hostile.

[Domanihatu]

Nothing hostile about it. I kindly and respectfully asked you not to make such broad assumptions. Not everyone thinks as you do and humans in general don’t like being lumped into categories we do not fit into.

[normalice]

@Domanihatu yeah, I meant to say "upset" as per the language of the asker. My bad.

[Asker]

@normalice yeah those type if men aren't secure in their sexuality nor do they know they're own bodies lol. They just follow what every other insecure ma says about sexuality

[Domanihatu]

I have not said anything that could be considered being ‘upset’ either. I just have a problem when people make assumptions about anything at all. Back in 1991 when I was in 6th grade, I had a science teacher who said it this way: “NEVER ASSUME because all assuming does is make an ASS (out of) U (and) ME.” And, those are words I have lived by my whole life. Making the assumption that “every man” has found sexual pleasure from taking a shit or having something inserted into his ass is just irresponsible. And, unequivocally false.

[Domanihatu]

@TheeTrybrid Once again, you are making some pretty big assumptions for knowing absolutely nothing about me. At 41 years old, I can assure you that know my body VERY well, I know what I like and I know what I don’t like. I don’t follow anyone else when it comes to that. I am a straight white man who is happily married to a gorgeous straight black woman. We enjoy a very healthy sex life together. And, I can tell you that she doesn’t like things going into her ass either. It simply isn’t enjoyable to us and I m fairly sure that there are plenty of other people (male and female) that agree with me.

[normalice]

@TheeTrybrid Oh, I did mean to mention before he reminded me, not that it's relevant (well, I suppose it is now) but it's interesting to know: Occasionally, some time back in our more primitive days, a guy might have >thought< he had his butt touched, but turns around to see he brushed against something while the guy he suspected only stood next to the thing. When that happens he must insist that he very much was not upset because if there was to be any of that going on he would certainly not be the one taking it in the ass - we all knew that already, right? So it just wouldn't make any sense for him to get upset.

[Asker]

@Domanihatu no one's making assumptions but u. I was speaking in general not directly to u , so u assumed I was talking directly to u and made an ASS out of yourself. But okay

[John196854]

I don't mind if some girl slaps or grabs my ass, it's sexy to me. Just know I'm going after her ass to lol

[Aperson32]

Same thing in a past relationship he said if I would slap his butt but I guess i didn't understand if it was public he was asking or not because when i did in public he got mad but he said (by text) if you let me touch your but you can touch mine🤷🏽‍♀️

[Pinay_ako]

I like grabbing my man’s 🍑. It’s so squishy and sexy. 😍

[Brad951]

I like mine grabbed

[Pinay_ako]

@Brad951 really? 🥰

[Brad951]

Yes and my🍆

[Pinay_ako]

Thanks for the MHG 💕

[Brad951]

Mhg?

[_Aragorn]

@Brad951 she means 'most helpful girl'. she is saying that to @TheeTrybrid

[Domanihatu]

I grab my wife’s butt a lot more often than she grabs mine, but I don’t have any problem with her doing it… In fact, I find it a turn-on because when she does it, I know she wants to sneak off to the bedroom! And, when we are out in public, she will put her hand in my back pocket while I keep my arm around her waist. I don’t find it emasculating at all.

[petitedollbabee]

I always teasingly give my partners butt a squeeze or poke. He does it to me so it’s only fair. He doesn’t get upset.

[FinneasWilson]

My now ex used to do this, I’d tell her to stop but she never did until I got nasty with her I don’t like being touched at the best of times and her keep grabbing my ass just made me feel uncomfortable.


Some people don’t like it and some do I think it all depends on the person regardless of gender.

[Greergr]

Touching anyone without consent is sexual harassment. Though, if you are talking about a relationship, I don't see a problem for either party if they established that it was acceptable.

[Sour-rose]

I'm... I'm so tired

[Asker]

Lmao I'm so sick of mfs like this

[sage2021]

I don't grab my man's butt, but I do goose him whenever he bends over - like to pick up something on the floor. So now when he bends over, he puts the back of his hand there to block me. He's so funny to watch 👁️👁️😊

[JohnK123]

Goose? 🤣

[mandyfire98]

Consent consent consent, no person should be laying there hand on another person without consent.

[Asker]

This goes as far as relationships...

[mandyfire98]

A relationship is a bit different obviously but still both partners should know what the other is comfortable with.

[Asker]

Duh..

[mandyfire98]

Sorry but your question didn't state anything about a relationship. That's why I made the consent comment. Just a misunderstanding.

[Still-alive]

yeah @asker you should have specified this was about in relationships. it changes the whole context

[anon1903]

It's sexual harrasment.

If a guy slaps your ass and you feel violated, hit him. There's no need to harass him back for the sake of equality.

[BrookeAZ90]

I grab and spank my boyfriend's butt all the time, but he loves it

[Brad951]

I want to grab yours

[TheorionMage]

Apparently I'm in the minority but I find it flattering...
candidly, who DOESN'T like an unambiguous sign that
someone finds your physique desirable?
Especially as you enter your male mature years,
I'm turning 71 in October!~

[integrale77]

All them things that is guys get in trouble for and we get told not to do I have no problem being done to me though you might find yourself at the mercy of my girlfriend if you try it.

[AviatorTom]

I don't mind if a woman I know grabs my butt, but if a total stranger does it, that's a violation of my privacy and personal space... the same feeling you women have if an unknown guy grabs your butt.

[Sixgunsound]

Individuals do, and individuals don’t. If the ones that do it do you get angry when you do it to them, they gave you justification by doing it to you. If the ones who don’t do it do you get upset, that’s a different story.

[LilyoftheLake]

Apparently guys tend to think of butts as a "girl thing" or something. So it threatens their masculinity lol

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I don't mind my ass being grabbed by a girl Lol

[TheBootyChest]

You SHOULD be allowed to do it.

Maybe they used to have a guy slap their butt all the time, and now he is traumatized by it.

[Anonymous]

It depends. I love it when my boyfriend grabs/squeezes my ass (unless we're in public). If anyone else does it I'll slap them.

[HawkPerception]

I wouldn't mind it at all. If it's an attractive girl, I don't think I'd mind even if it's just to flirt lmao

[jahaims]

I have only ever slapped my wife's ass and she can touch mine whenever she wants idc.

[Phoenix98]

She can slap it or grab it all she wants but I’m gonna do the same to her. And we can spend our days playing grab ass lol 😂