Guys, Actively on tinder?

[Sebby84]

Iv been seeing a guy for 4 months thought it was going really well until i seen he was still actively on tinder…. my accounts been paused for ages i just wanted to see if he still was!

What should i make of this things between him and i have been going really really well i seen a relationship on the cards.

[Vegasrunner]

@Sebby84 You should realize that you simply dont understand the difference between men and womens dating strategies. Men need to constantly stay active and keep their options open. Women can afford to stop and start. Its a hige difference but I can understand why you wouldn't understand it.

[Sebby84]

Is it cause for me to step away or after 4 months should i pretend i didn't see it and continue on with him as things are good

[Vegasrunner]

@Sebby84 can't answer that question w/out the appropriate info but I do know that any man w/ basic dating experience and common sense is probably going to do the same thing

[Sebby84]

We see each other once twice a week he calls me babe he’s affectionate iv never felt i was being used he's never blown hot and cold we text all the time as much as we did in the beginning we get on really really great its all been going as far as i can see really really well

[Sebby84]

How he kisses me goodbye has even changed recently its a lot more loving n passionate

[Vegasrunner]

@Sebby84 If that is true what is the issue?

[Sebby84]

That he's clearly still looking elsewhere with a recent tinder update

[Vegasrunner]

@Sebby84 I realize this is difficult for you to understand but a guy is going to always keep his options open. As a woman you have the luxury of starting and stopping dating anytime you feel like it men dont have that option so we have to kerp are options open just in case. You may not like it but the fact that you're asking about it and that he's smart enough to know that he has to do this tells me he is a guy that understands his worth which is the kind women ultimately fall for.

[Sebby84]

How do woman have the luxury to stop and start dating?

[Vegasrunner]

@Sebby84 Women are generally approached while men generally approach. Once you enter in a relationship the man is expected to stop approach while the women continues to get approached by other men. if you guys break up all you really need to do is choose the next guy while he will be forced to work to get the next girl. its much easier for you then him, to lower this disadvantage he's keeping his options open so if you guys break up he doesn't have to go so long b4 finding his next partner. Women dont like it but its an intelligent sexual strategy for a man.