What does this mean, I don’t want to annoy him?

[Anonymous]

So basically me and a guy have been talking everyday for about 1.5months, he’s had a rough life and has had a lot of stuff happen recently. I’ve noticed in the last week he hasn’t been messaging as much if at all (e. g. he was saying good morning/goodnight everyday before). I sent a message to check up on him and expressed that I think he’s great and would love to meet up/hang out when he’s ready and after he’s had the space he needs sorta thing. (Although I’m thinking now the hangout part was probably timed wrong)

he responded saying he thinks I’m amazing he just needs to clear his head for a few days as he isn’t in a very good head space.(because of something that happened recently not me).

I’m just wondering how to approach this without seeming annoying. I’m not going to message until he messages me because he needed the space and I’m assuming he will tell me when he’s ready sorta thing.

on the other hand if he sounds uninterested and like he’s letting me down slowly pls let me know.

[DaveJord]

I think you have done enough to express your interest and it is all on him now. I would wait for him to come back round to me personally. At the same time I would seek and pursue other interests. Honestly, this guy sounds complicated and when two people meet and are seriously interest in each other they tend to make it as less complicated as possible.

I would assume this guy is not Mr. Right and move one honestly. It should not be this complicate or hard and if it is then you honestly have to ask yourself if this is really worth it to you.

[PrettyPriya]

I don't think he is lying or letting you down slowly. Sounds like he genuinely has some issues in life going on and needs to sort that out. He is doing the right thing since he can't give you the attention you deserve right now due to these life circumstances.

Just be respectful and give him the space and time to get his head right and his life sorted so that he can give the relationship the attention it deserves with a clear mind. You don't want him distracted with these issues. You mention a lot of things have happened recently.

Maybe they are just so overwhelming that he doesn't have the desire to deal with anything else, like a relationship or dating, because he knows he just can't. My best advice is to message him in support and let him know that you will be there for him if he needs you and take the time he needs. I don't think he is trying to block you out of his life by any means.

[awkwardddgirl]

sometimes this happens to me. I get overwhelmed with communicating to a person and dealing with my personal life. That might be the case with him

[Guy13]

You are wearing him out with the daily communications that has now become responsibility. This is where the relationship crashes. Guys do not like all the talk and interruption. I am going to urge you to back off. Days of no contact so he can focus solely on his affairs, by the right guy, is appreciated and added to “she’s got a clue and highly Valued column”

[Avicenna]

It doesn't sound like he's ready right now for a relationship, and I don't think a few days will change that.

[20yearsolder]

I don't have a clue what he's thinking. He said He needed a few days to clear his head. Give him a week or so and then send a message saying just thinking about you and see where it goes from there

[qwert1234]

"Sure thing, but if you need someone to talk to, I'm available."

This reply passes the ball to him. If he's interested, he will reach out. If not, then you move on.

[In_Trance]

It means your conversation is lame, nobody is shooting their shot so he's going to rail another girl. He might message you when he's done

[Wise4myage]

Keep it simple, and just tell him you are here for him if he needs to chat.

[Bang5luts]

Sounds like something pretty serious gong on, abuse, drugs, homelessness, girlfriend, or he's not ready.. I don't know

[Straight2thepoint]

Dm. It's complicated