What does that mean? How do I let him know I’m mad at him?

[Anonymous]

I am talking to a guy everyday, he always texts me first and he acts like he is very interested. But sometimes his answers become dry and he replies with one message every five hours. I see he's online, but he doesn't text back. A few days later, he texts me first (a lot of messages) and says he missed me :) and acts like nothing happened :) . It happens pretty often. What does that mean? How do I let him know I’m mad at him? I tried to do the same thing (ignoring him after he ignores me). I thought he will stop doing it, but it doesn't help.

[Anonymous]

well let's see do you message him first? do you make an attempt to reach out when you haven't heard from him. do you talk to him like an actual person or do you indirect message him? did you screw him over in the past by being with another guy or other guys? do you make any effort at all to pick up the phone and call him or text him to see how his day is? do you make any effort at all to wish him a good night or a good morning? or are you the type to make a general broad post which is pretty much a slap in the face at times if you can't just message him like he's a real person

[Asker]

Yes, I message him first. The thing is, we haven’t met in real life. Since we live in different countries, moreover on different continents, it’s the only way to communicate. He rarely sends voice messages, he probably doesn't really like doing it. It’s weird - he wants to “text”everyday, but not to “talk”. Maybe he texts me to get some positive emotions and doesn’t want anything more than quite basic small talks. The same small talk every day.. I just don’t understand why he continues this all if he doesn’t even want to talk using voice. I know that it’s not possible to build something out of texting every day and I overthink a lot. But I don’t understand why he keeps coming back after we cut off communication if he isn’t interested that much. I don’t understand why he keeps texting me if he disappears after a few messages. He still tells me “I like you”. I like him a lot too, but I don’t know where this is going and why he acts like this. I made a lot of effort earlier tried to send voice messages, cute photos, giving him positive emotions, I never told him I was mad that he didn’t respond. I used to text him good night every day when I was going to sleep and good morning waking up (he never does the same thing). I just noticed that he doesn’t make as much effort as I do and I stopped texting first and sending him gm/gn texts.
Well, catching feelings over text messages is childish, I know.

[Opinion Owner]

it's not childish. and as for the voice messages maybe he doesn't like the way his voice sounds and if it's a voice message over the phone maybe the costs would be pricey

[Asker]

No, voice messages are free since we talk on social media. And if I say that I want to hear his voice he immediately sends one short voice message and that’s all. He just doesn’t want anything more than basic talks which start with “what’s up” even though he’s a smart and intelligent guy. And we have a lot of things to talk about. He just doesn’t want to make any effort I guess and maybe just texts me when he’s bored. But why is our communication so important to him then and why he’s always trying to get it back when we stop texting for a few days? Soo... What do you think his intentions are?

[Opinion Owner]

maybe there hasn't been much to talk about the past few days. maybe he doesn't like the sound of his voice

[anylolone]

Why are you mad at him? He text you first you put very little effort, he takes that as evidence you aren't that interested in talking at the time.

Imagine yourself at his place. Actually don't, be at his place, text him first.

Like seriosuly, why you fetishises being chassed and worshiped so badily?
Have some self awareness for christ sake.

[Asker]

We haven’t met in real life. Since we live in different countries, moreover on different continents, it’s the only way to communicate. He rarely sends voice messages, he probably doesn't really like doing it. It’s weird - he wants to “text”everyday, but not to “talk”. Maybe he texts me to get some positive emotions and doesn’t want anything more than quite basic small talks. The same small talk every day.. I just don’t understand why he continues this all if he doesn’t even want to talk using voice. I know that it’s not possible to build something out of texting every day and I overthink a lot. But I don’t understand why he keeps coming back after we cut off communication if he isn’t interested that much. I don’t understand why he keeps texting me if he disappears after a few messages. He still tells me “I like you”. I like him a lot too, but I don’t know where this is going and why he acts like this. I made a lot of effort earlier tried to send voice messages, cute photos, giving him positive emotions, I never told him I was mad that he didn’t respond. I used to text him good night every day when I was going to sleep and good morning waking up (he never does the same thing). I just noticed that he doesn’t make as much effort as I do and I stopped texting first and sending him gm/gn texts.
Well, catching feelings over text messages is childish, I know.

[anylolone]

I get your point because I've been there complaining about using only text.

And I'm gonna tell you that you are being what I was, a little bitch over nothing.
I also prefer by voice, way more dinamic, some people aren't as dinamic.

And if you don't think this is enough, regardless if he does (and he's right about himself and you are right about yourself) just break it up.
It's that easy.

Specially when it's different continents and you don't even see each other.

[Asker]

I think you are absolutely right!! I’ve been overthinking this thing for a long time.. I just thought I wasn’t interesting enough (although I usually send long messages and try to start a conversation on interesting topics. Maybe he really doesn't need as much dynamic as I need. Me and him are not on the same wavelength I guess. However when it comes to flirting, he’s becoming more active and very interested.

Do you think he really likes me and just doesn’t need as much texting (and all these gm/gn and voice message things as I do?

[anylolone]

Some people need less interaction to maintain the relationship.

Actually some people need nothing to maintain the relationship, we call them obsessive stalkers.
Lol.

But by what you say he's always been somewhat like that and he doesn't like talking in the phone.
And I've seen it a lot of people who don't really like talking in the phone including with their boyfriends, which they say it's because they are shy about it but I suspect that shyness needs a reason and the reason is the increased dinamism of speach.

[anylolone]

Well, that's long distance relationships.

Maybe date a guy next to you, next time.

[anylolone]

Oh no, by the looks of our conversation you definetely aren't interesting enough.
Clearly enough for him, but he must have way too low standards in that aspec at least.

[Browneye57]

Silly girl, you cannot forge a relationship by texting. PERIOD.
Do the chatty-cathy thing with your girlfriends - this is not what your man is for or about. My guess is you're really not quite ready for all this, and certainly not a man.

[Asker]

I think you are right. It’s not possible to build something out of texting every day. Since we live in different countries, moreover on different continents, it’s the only way to communicate. He rarely sends voice messages, he probably doesn't really like doing it. It’s weird - he wants to “text”everyday, but not to “talk”. Maybe he texts me to get some positive emotions and doesn’t want anything more than quite basic small talk. The same small talk every day.. I just don’t understand why he continues this all if he doesn’t even want to talk using voice. But still tells me “I like you”. I like him a lot too, but I don’t know where this is going and why he acts like this. Well, catching feelings over text messages is childish, I know.

[Browneye57]

LDR's are a waste of time. Stats are within 90 days one or the other will find someone else.
Why don't you date someone you can actually SEE and BE WITH? You'll get WAY more out of it, I guarantee it.

[Asker]

It’s been five months since we started texting. I guess me and him both understand that we’ll probably never meet. Maybe he has someone in real life I don't know. It’s like an addiction, I can’t imagine my life without talking to him (even though we are just texting). When we don't text for a few days, I always want to text him. Yet I stop myself with the thought that maybe it’s time to end this all. Then he texts me first and I feel sooo happy. It really feels like an addiction for me, but I have no idea what it is for him.

I just asked him “Do you text me because you like me or because I'm always available for you?“ and he answered “I like talking to you a lot. I also like that your available”
Now I don’t know how to answer that, I have no idea what to say now

[boggboss]

The reason ignoring him won't matter is because he is not doing it intentionally he is simply doing other stuff and not got back to you where as u are waiting in his every message

[TheSpaceGnome]

Everyone does this, it's called being busy, just spam text him in a silly or affectionate way, it will let him know you want attention but also that you aren't mad that he has stuff to do.

[Anonymous]

He acts like nothing happened... because nothing happened. This is in your head, and the fact that you are mad about this is a big red flag.

[Asker]

We haven’t met in real life. Since we live in different countries, moreover on different continents, it’s the only way to communicate. He rarely sends voice messages, he probably doesn't really like doing it. It’s weird - he wants to “text”everyday, but not to “talk”. Maybe he texts me to get some positive emotions and doesn’t want anything more than quite basic small talks. The same small talk every day.. I just don’t understand why he continues this all if he doesn’t even want to talk using voice. I know that it’s not possible to build something out of texting every day and I overthink a lot. But I don’t understand why he keeps coming back after we cut off communication if he isn’t interested that much. I don’t understand why he keeps texting me if he disappears after a few messages. He still tells me “I like you”. I like him a lot too, but I don’t know where this is going and why he acts like this. I made a lot of effort earlier tried to send voice messages, cute photos, giving him positive emotions, I never told him I was mad that he didn’t respond. I used to text him good night every day when I was going to sleep and good morning waking up (he never does the same thing). I just noticed that he doesn’t make as much effort as I do and I stopped texting first and sending him gm/gn texts.
Well, catching feelings over text messages is childish, I know.