I have been using dating sites for a long time. How to figure out if the guy is serious about me or is just looking for lust?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy in the past and we really liked each other's company but he always seems confused about our relationship. It was more than friends with benefits.

He never opened up & spoken about his thoughts

[Avicenna]

You need to bring up the difficult topics and make sure you’re both on thexsamw sheet of music. Most guys you meet on these apps are probably just interested in sex and that usually becomes evident fairly quickly- a number of women have told me that on first dates guys usually would talk about sex. It takes too much patience and acting to pretend you want a relationship for very long.

[boggboss]

Only time really answers that I would say a emphasis on sex primerly tho

[Asker]

But it was going on for more than 9months
I mean he did a few cute things for me but he was really confused too about his thoughts

[boggboss]

For me I would never date for 9 months before making things official relationship

[Asker]

It started all of a sudden & went really long. I tried communicating with him more than thrice but since he has plans to go to abroad.. he was somewhere down the lane and was afraid of long distance relation

[spartan55]

@asker
How was he 'confused about his thoughts'?

[boggboss]

So he was enjoying it for now

[Asker]

@spartan55 I don't know because everytime I used to ask him he was not sure.. not expressive maybe or what

[Asker]

Felt the same thou but he was not letting me go to

[boggboss]

at that point you was allowing yourself to be played hoping things would fix themself that's not how life works

[spartan55]

@asker
Why would he let you go when you fucked him for free?

[Asker]

@spartan55 yes, this is there makes sense

[spartan55]

Who said it was more than friends with benefits, you?

[Asker]

It felt more than friends with benefits it started eventually with a hookup but things fall into place... we went on a trip together for 2weeks... It was different the bond seems surreal

[Staffmember]

How did you go on a trip without even being in a relationship omg what is wrong with you girls?

[spartan55]

It's mind boggling right?

[Iron_Man]

Don’t give it up if he sticks around then he likes you a lot

[Asker]

I was pissed and removed him from my social media presence after we had a discussion & fight

[In_Trance]

Why don't you talk to him about it?

[Asker]

I tried to talk to him but he always has this one answer with him that I don't know I am not able to figure out... I mean he has nothing to say