Does this guy just want friendship or something more?

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I’ve known this guy at work a few months now and we get on really well. He knows I like him bc he asked my friend and his friend told mine that he likes me, but that was like 2 months ago and though we’ve gotten a lot closer in that time, no moves have been made.

We argue (mostly playfully) in almost every conversation, and have similar senses of humor. We’ve gotten a little closer in this time and my friend has told me when I’m not around he talks about me and asks questions about me.

He says things like “I’m trying to be a good friend” or mentions us being friends quite a bit so maybe he just wants friendship? But he has also been quite flirty at times and I’m definitely getting mixed signals. He opened up to me a little about his past relationship and how it didn’t go very well and told me that he wants to be good friends with a girl before jumping into a relationship. Some other examples are that we play fight physically occasionally, I’ll catch him looking at me, we stand pretty close to one another when talking, he says my name sooo much in conversation and uses nicknames as well, and always complains how “mean” I am to others after we are joking around. But he will also be cold and distant from me at times as well and it gets me really confused and caught off guard.

We’ve hung out a few times with others outside of work and have a trip planned next month. When we go out he usually talks to me most and stays at my side for the most part.

I really like him but don’t want to mess up our friendship if I say something first without knowing for sure. It definitely sounds/feels like he does, but is it possible guys treat their girl friends like this and that friendship is all he wants? I’ve never been in a relationship so I’m new to this. Thanks in advance!! (:

Does this guy just want friendship or something more?
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