I was 16 when I hooked up with this guy in high school and from then until now we’ve always been each others “go to” I guess for no strings attached incredible sex. There’s been times where we’ve both been in relationships and took time away from each other, but both of our relationships failed in the past & when they do we find ourselves back doing our thing. I’ve never had a emotional connection to him because we never let it get to that. We talk and catch each other up on life & laugh/ joke just like you would any other friend. Recently for the first time in 10 years he spent the night at my house. It was for sure an amazing time and we spent that morning together too getting breakfast. After he left we both continued to do our own thing, never texting (we only communicate on IG) but we’ll give attention through basic social media likes and comments. He’s referred to me as his wife before in the last couple weeks when asking to see me. I don't know if he’s just playing or is hinting something but keeping it g. I recently moved states but he talk about coming to see me. Do you think our relationship is and always will be just spontaneous sex or could this evolve in to something? Also I’m 25 not 29.
Remove sex and ''oh the moon and the stars, daydreaming'' passion. Now besides that what else is there, what are his goals in the near future, what are the living arrangements, what does he think about marriage and kids?
If you can't answer any of that, then nope there is no future. I learned the hard way that if a man gives you ''one day'' answers and there is too much passion but no real goals and no engagement ring, there is 0% future. You're wasting your time and your years on nothing but sex. Any man can make you his girlfriend and gives you sex and pleasure. So what, big deal. Very few will take take the plunge and actually invest and spend money on a marriage, actually buy the product instead of just going for the worthless fee stuff.
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I doubt it. Seems like you’re just his designated rebound. He probably knows you won’t turn him down which is why he comes back when his relationships fizzle out. Just cause a man sleeps with you and spends time with you doesn’t mean he sees potential in you and having something more. A lot of men are comfortable wasting their time and others if the situation benefits them
Why the hell would you only communicate on Instagram after this long? That's so fucking juvenile. You both need to grow the fuck up and stop being in denial, stop fighting it. After all this time, this is the first time he spent the night? You need to let him into your life and he needs to do the same, and stop putting up walls between each other. Time to act like adults. Why don't the two of you actually go out and do something romantic together and give tech other a chance. If you can't bring yourself to let somebody into your life, you will curse yourself with shallow relationships.
It does not sound like it. There should have been a wedding 💍 long time ago. This is just me…you are intimately involved snd know more than me. What’s your heart ❤️ tell you ⁉️
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I just remember the Movie Titled: Friend with Benefit.
Anyway, communication is the key. You should asked about what is your real score. It is really hard to assume unless the other party stated it.
Even for a clothes it need to be branded to verify its legit.
What an absolute fucking waste of life!
For fucks sake Grow Up and get a fucking life before it's too fucking late. smh
If he saw a future with you, you would have heard something about it about 9 years ago.
It doesn't sound like it to me.
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