How do you handle a pretty girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend’s really pretty. But

i am not special in any way. How do you handle that? I ask because

My girlfriend could easily say there’s a trillion guys that would want To be with me. In a future argument and I’d be left speechless. It’s true and no one wants me.

Only way Is to become really successful / develop a good physique

Not so sure

Just break up with her (it’s mentally not good for me)

Other

[WonderBell99]

It seems like you have got some severe insecurities here. This will ultimately kill your relationship with your partner.

Reread your own paragraphs again, and notice what you’ve written: ”My girlfriend could easily say there’s a trillion guys that would want To be with me.” And yet she chose YOU. So you must have something that those trillion guys may not have. This needs to be addressed immediately and you have to consider going to a therapist. Your self esteem is incredibly low and this will only affect your interpersonal relationships, both romantic and platonic even more.

Relationshops are not always about looks. Yes, your appearance does matter, but only to an extent. Not all of us want Paul Walker as our partners.

Why are you so very fixated on the future when you have so many moments to enjoy in the present? Concentrate on what you have now, instead of worrying about the future. The future is just an illusion. She finds you both physically and emotionally attractive, or why would she be with you?

You should focus on building your confidence first.

[WonderBell99]

Relationships*

[Asker]

I’m not special. Girls don’t look at me. I’m an idiot and a failure. I was never even liked my anybody. I sometimes have felt rejected by everyone

[WonderBell99]

Why do you need other looking at you when you have a girlfriend? Isn’t she enough?

I’ve been rejected twice… and that’s how many times I have approached guys and asked them out. Rejections happen all the time, you have to take it as a motivation and build your self confidence.

Why do you feel like you’re a failure?

[AmandaYVR]

Wow are you a defeatist. You're on the verge of self-sabotage here. You've got a relationship, got a girl who likes/loves you, yet you only see a future ending. You should really think about why you think that way.

Don't worry that you think she is really pretty, better looking than you. RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT ALL ABOUT THE EXTERIOR. There is much, much, much, more to people, and why people choose the people they do. Young people need to learn this. It seems especially common, this thinking, in today's media-fixated/obsessed world. You are more than what you look like on the outside. Everyone is. Give yourself more credit than that, and give your girlfriend more credit for her judgment, and for choosing you.

[Asker]

I’m not special. Girls don’t look at me. I’m not handsome. I’m an idiot and a failure. I was never even liked my anybody. I sometimes have felt rejected by everyone. She shouldn’t like me.

[JamesDiaz11]

Be careful, if you think and communicate that you are below her it's only a matter of time before she believes that too- and leaves

Exude confidence, show her appreciation, but take her for granted once in a while, and definitely put her in her place if she disrespects you. If you let her walk all over you, or worship the ground she walks on, she's going to feel she's better than you, and she'll move on to someone at/ above her league.

I don't know how you landed a very pretty girl, be thankful, but treat her as if she's below you and she'll be faithful/ stay with you. Women don't date down- for long.

[ShadezMcgee]

If you keep this up your mindset will become your reality. You need to carry yourself confidently and understand that if she is investing with you, she wants to be with you. Beautiful women will have orbiters and guys will come up and interact with her. You will know the kind of woman she is straight up if she tells them she is with you or asks them to leave.

Bottom line, you need to understand that she is with you because she likes you. Whatever attracted her to you is what you need to be consistent with along with making her laugh, leading her and listening to her when she wants to talk.

[Xasildo]

Yeah but she chose you. Your looks matter when grabbing the initial attention of a person, but getting to know them, treating with respect, and sharing good moments with each other is what makes a relationship last in the long-term. You're clearly giving her something that is irreplaceable and you should believe in yourself and show more of your goodness. Your looks don't matter anymore, it's your kind and loving spirit that she fell in love with.

[J2ohhhhh]

Relationships have two possible ways to end. Marriage or break up. 90 % of relationships end with breakup. So chances are that you're relationship will end anyways.

If you think you got lucky once, you can get lucky again, so just enjoy the time. Or if she has an attitude try to fuck her as many times as you can so you won't have midlife crisis later.

[KittyBox]

Just be yourself, if being yourself got you into this situation, then she'd appreciate you being yourself from now onwards, changing yourself could jeopardise your relationship.

However improving yourself is always a good thing, being considerate (leaving the toilet seat down), odd bit of cleaning, maybe cooking breakfast from time to time, could help earn some brownie points.

[FilmGuy93]

Just gotta work on your confidence, man. Pretty women always have orbiters. They don't care about the orbiters, so neither should you. Just make sure that you're as good as you can be.

[Guy13]

With gentle firmness. Lead in activities. Make her laugh in creative way. Communicate. Most insecure women I know were/are drop dead gorgeous

[Ironic_Method]

I feel like I'm pretty average, but almost everyone I've dated has been really attractive. I'm not worried about the relationship ending over something like that.

[AviatorTom]

With both hands... and maybe some other body parts. 😎

[exitseven]

Be yourself but be the best version of yourself. There is more to life than looks.

[Snedger____]

There are trillion guys and she chose you. Because you have something special. Just take care of her and love her.

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't sweat it bruh, it's just your turn with her.

[Elter]

Dude you have a pretty girlfriend, stop complaining, accept the fact that she wants to be with you, if she's still with you then she still likes you.

[Zygum]

My girlfriend is very pretty but I love her whole heartedly, I am very sincere with her

[Anonymous]

Just be yourself, that’s why she is going out with you but treat her good like a boyfriend should

[Anonymous]

Damn, you are doomed before you even start.

[TroyDT]

She is with you, not Chad. Just enjoy it.

[jongreat46]

treat her like a person, not your property.

[Twalli]

She picked you. There's a reason.

[msc545]

You are both lucky and cursed by this.

[maximumpower]

Work on your self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Gently, unless I know she likes it rough.

[Anonymous]

I assume you had to ask her out, hit on her

[Apologies456]

I don't know man