Are certain young guys just not meant to be players?

[Anonymous]

For instance my brother doesn't sound like those types. He's like the male counterpart of the girl that has no malice to lie nor lead people on; the male version of the Ms Goody two Shoes basically; literally doesn't smoke and only drinks (little though, not much) on family gatherings. Lastly, he seems to have patience with children.

He's only 20 though. Do other young guys like him (apparently lacking the player instinct, trying to get into the girl's pants) actually exist? Are certain just not meant to be players?

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I even picture he would be blushing and kind of stuttering if he tried lying and leading on. He would be terrible at lying. No malice in him. I'm still quite shocked. Do his types actually exist? Or is he a rare breed?

[Aerolyn]

I'm probably one of those young duds you're talking about.

I've always noticed I lack the drive to really approach women.

Any women I ever been with approached me first.

There are even been occasions when people that I was gay due to my lack of intrests to (in my own words) fuck every pretty girl I lay my damn eyes on.

I feel like getting involved with someone intimately takes time for me and with the way everyone just fucks around, I'm not intrested in running the risk of catching an std, I low-key get paranoid about that whenever I am sexuallly involved with someone.

I feel like your question makes it seem like a guy should be a player by default, which is something I disagree with.

I never understood why so many fucking dudes care about sex as much as they do.

Yeah, I get it, sex is great, but holy shit you got some dudes that don't talk about shit but pussy damn near all the time.

I always find myself the odd one out in certain groups because of that.

It sounds exhausting and boring to constantly be a "player".

[Aerolyn]

To add, I'm also pretty bad at lying too, but I don't really like lying to begin with.

I don't have conscious to lie and not feel bad about it.

I don't consider myself shy tho, bit I just won't talk to you if I don't feel like I have a reason to.

I feel like people constantly mistake that for shyness.

I remember when this one girl kept trying to tease me asking why I'm so quiet.

It's not that I'm quiet, I just won't say shit to you if I ain't got nothing to say to you and to that particular annoying ass girl, I didn't.

[Lionman95]

I would say yes because there are guys that simply lack the confidence to be a player.
There are guys that don´t have the confidence to not care about a woman´s opinion on them.
That has it´s pros and it´s cons because the "wrong" female could just date them to use them and many young girls seem not to be attracted to them and call them therefore boring.
But there are pros also hence they have their own mind and know what they want and they are more likely to start a family and have a settled life.

[Blackcosmo]

Um players suck and any good person ISN'T a player. Of course there are more people out there like him.

[GallopAcrossEurope]

Where I grew up (Russia), what you call "girly" attributes are a lot of times considered by us as signs of an intelligent and patient gentleman, not just a man seeking to get into a woman's pants but a true symbol of strength - basically THE model man. He is not a "player", and that is probably better for the best.

[Asker]

Yet in this sad society, his types are sometimes ignored

[GallopAcrossEurope]

Sad societies that need to be improved are everywhere, but some are just better at noticing certain aspects and vice versa.

[FilmGuy93]

It seems like you've answered your own question. Some guys are players because they're assholes. Some guys are players because they are exceptional human beings. Some guys are miserable sods who can't get laid, and still others are great people who just have no luck with women.

I've always thought the way people treated InCels was a huge mistake. It's a mistake to pretend that scoring with women is the easiest thing in the world.

[Sandeeppingping]

Being a player is overrated af, why the fuck would you put all that effort for meaningless bs, makes no sense to me

[Guy13]

Yes and they often fall under shy or nerdy classification

[Asker]

Interesting. He likes reading books and historical materials a lot too. We never seen him with a date yet. Yeah he's shy. There was a girl he was interest in dating but he got shy.

[Guy13]

Too bad for him...

[Lynx122]

There's tons of guys like that, me included ^^

[Fryday_Knight]

Young guys, old guys, guys. We are all different people with different standards, morals and goals.

[Luckycharms12]

Loads guys don't want be players or have any interest in that

[Anonymous]

And in other breaking news water is wet. 🤣🤣🤣

[Sixgunsound]

I could never be a player.