I hooked up with an engaged guy. He says his girlfriend doesn’t care and he tells her. What does this mean to me? What am I to him? He calls me babe…?

[Anonymous]

the first time we hooked up he said he tells his girlfriend everything, but the second time he said he won’t tell her. I’m just trying to understand him. It seems like they are truly in an open relationship bec he was even willing to call her when we were tog. Why would he be engaged to her though and then be with me?

[SueShe]

You are a substitute and nothing else.

Only believe what he is saying once you can witness the actual conversation he has with his girlfriend about an affair. If you cannot witness it, consider it as a scheme to silence you and to make you feel better.

Most guys will say that but in fact will not waste a single word to their girlfriend by fear of the consequences.

Once the novelty has stopped, he will drop you just like the others he most likely had before you. That is a scheme that is as old as civilization is. Attempting to make the victim believe that he will tell his girlfriend is as old as humankind is.

If you doubt him, ask for her number and tell him you will call her to ensure that she is aware of the affair and that you will not continue unless she is fully informed AND that she agrees or consents to it.

[FallonSamuels]

He’s definitely lying. Men will legit say anything just so they can bed you. He’s cheating on his fiancée with you and he is telling you what he things you want to hear so he can continue sleeping with you - calling you babe doesn’t signify anything

[Avicenna]

Yeah, well, whatever the parameters of their relationship may be, you are still the side piece and he's most likely lying to you. At any rate, you don't want to be the side piece in this arrangement or any other- tell him to get lost.

[spartan55]

It's called cheating honey. Oh... he calls you Babe? It must be love...🙄

[spartan55]

Trying to understand him? He is a selfish piece of shit cheater who will drop you as soon as he sees another chick.

[FilmGuy93]

If they are truly in an open relationship, you're just a sex toy to him. He's marrying her because she lets him have sex toys on the side. Otherwise, he's just lying to you and her, and he's just using you for sex.

[jug09]

if you don't have any feelings for him and love hookups then carry on.
don't get too much into that though. i guess from what you've said, he probably wants you for all the sexual stuff only, so it's like an option.
you need to treat him as an option too!

[happyfoetus]

If you like to hookup , do it. It doesn't matter as long as you involve emotions. His part... It is upto him to tell her or not.

Maybe it is an open relation. Maybe he is cheating.

[888theGreat]

1) He is lying to bang you

2) He is scum

3) You are scum knowing he is engaged.

4) I am sure I will see you get your Ass whooped by her on Cheaters

[Anonymous]

Don't know I never had sex with other women while I been in love with mine for 5 years

[Jenny-Marie]

You are hooked up to a cheat. Walk away... fast.

[Guy13]

Side piece

[Anonymous]

He's a liar who just used you for pleasure.

[Batmanismydaddy]

You're a dumb girl