Guys what does this mean? Is he just not into me?

[Anonymous]

I’m 22F and I’m talking to a 23M he reaches out to me and initiates always conversation with a good morning beautiful text and whatever. We will have a little small talk and boom I don’t hear from him for the rest of the day. He legit takes forever to respond it’s been 11hrs now and I’m like? But then he has the nerve to text again with a good morning beautiful text. This has been the longest he’s went without texting me usually he would take 5 hrs which is still a lot. My thing is why is he taking so long to reply, is he just not interested? If he’s not interested why does he keep texting me like I don’t understand why you initiate conversation constantly if you are a shitty responder 😏 what do y’all think? Does he like me, does he have a busy schedule, but 11 hrs is still so much time. What should I do? I like this guy but man it irritates me, like if you’re busy just let me know that. He had told me in the beginning of when we first met that he hates being on the whole the whole day but then for me it’s like why not just ask me on a date and we keep things formal. Why flirt with me? I’m so confused

[DavidRaul]

You two need to discuss this between yourselves. Just ask him what the problem is and if he feels the same way as you do. If no, you both should move on and you shouldn't waste your time on him waiting for his replies

[Asker]

How should I bring it up? I’m not sure how to word it

[Asker]

What if he gets all defensive and says he’s busy and isn’t stuck to his phone all day

[DavidRaul]

Well then let it be if he can't respect your opinion and justify the late texts. Just say to him that "you have been waiting for his texts and sometimes you reply too late. So , you wanted to know if you are even interested in me". Just frame it something like that. If he gets all angry. He isn't worth the wait and you should move on.

[Asker]

Should I say this “You reply really late and I understand people being busy but damn not all day lol. If you’re not interested that’s cool just let it be known cause it’s confusing to me. I don’t like wasting my time and I’m not looking for a texting buddy.”

[DavidRaul]

Nah thats very offensive. Just a bit polite

[Asker]

Hey so I’m interested in you and I’d like to get to know you more hopefully one day in person cause I feel like our texts are very repetitive and you never get to know someone through text. I can tell you’re busy since you reply super late, or maybe you’re not interested. Not sure if I’m misreading it.

How about this since we’ve never met in person it’s hard to tell if we will even like each other but I feel like it’s too straight forward and I don’t want to be the one to ask him out on a first date lol

[DavidRaul]

Yeah thats sounds like a nice text. Not offensive, very polite. This is perfect

[FlaccidFish]

I don’t know enough to say. Does he just ignore what you said previously when he sends the good morning text? I will say this: If I’m interested in a girl I make it pretty obvious and invite her out on a date if want to get to know her. I wouldn’t want to get stuck just texting.

[Asker]

I mean this is the first time he’s taken that long but usually he will ask me how my day went or will yea ignore the response say good morning beautiful and then ask how my day went

[Asker]

I feel like I should just cut him off cause I don’t understand him

[FlaccidFish]

Yeah I was with a girl who was kind of like this and things didn’t work out. Lack of communication is a big red flag to me now. Maybe just straight up ask him what his deal is and if you don’t like his response or this continues then end things.

[kylee2437]

How about talk to him about it. Directly talking to someone and getting an explanation from them directly instead of just downright assuming, gives you better results. Tell him that you enjoy convo here and there.

[User3191989]

Why does he have to be the older one in the relationship. Why? WHY, I DO NOT FUCKING GET IT

[Asker]

Huh?

[User3191989]

He’s 23 you’re 22. Why does he HAVE to be the older one. I don’t fucking get it. I don’t think I ever will. But, I’m tired of it

[Asker]

What’s wrong with him being older than me

[User3191989]

Everything

[Asker]

Okay..

[User3191989]

Yeah