🤔🤔 How do you guys decide who you are just pursuing for sex and who you're pursuing for a relationship? ?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I don’t just have sex with girls for the hell of it , My intentions is to have her coming back for more and more , It’s a 50/50 chance if she feels the same , I pursue a girl that I find beautiful and has a heart , a girl that pretty Much knows what it means to be in a relationship , pretty much values the same things I do again whether she is telling me the truth or not that’s up to her but I am attracted to , a girl that is honest and caring and makes me her priority , When she values me I value her , the problem with most girls today is they really don’t know what they want , they say they want a man that is loyal and loving and a hard worker that is nice and only has eyes for her but when she receives that she gets bored , Most girls today in my eyes are very selfish and only really think about themselves , They don’t wear their partners shoes like she expects him to wear his , and then she plays a victim cuz she feels she is always right and he is wrong , if a girl can exclude me in a relationship then she isn’t the girl for me , I can’t remove selfishness for someone that can’t remove selfishness for me , If she wants love to grow between us then she needs to sacrifice as well , and most girls don’t grasp that concept , and wonder why their relationships don’t last , Not saying you have to hold each other’s hands at all times but you should both make each other your number 1 priority whether you agree or disagree on things , Most girls can’t admit that they are wrong , Why so many guys today do not want to get married , Intimacy and affection is very important to a man, that’s how we were made , If he feels intimacy and affection is only initiated when she is in the mood then be prepared for fire to enter that relationship, One sided relationships do not work , You can only receive what you give , you can only give what you receive , things won’t always be perfect but when you have someone that stands by your side like they stand by yours and work things out that’s what matters

Sixgunsound · Accepted Answer

I honestly believe that I don’t play any role in deciding whether a woman is in a position to be a relationship for tonight or forever. I am content to let the choices they make decide that for me.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

I never pursued anyone just for sex, and I would have never pursued anyone who ever did.

Jennz6 · Accepted Answer

I think that guys want to taste the milk 🥛 before they buy the cow?

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Well... for sex is just if "we men" are hungry for a while now, and if the "signals" we receive are the "sexual ones", then that what we go for..."only"... but if the whole sex situation leads to more, then we turn it in to a relationship. With the Proper Relationship is different, if we had enough of "fooling around", and we feel like we want to settle down, then the "person" that makes the most of us, if they take us for how we are, and not for our wealth seeing us as a " piggy bank", if she see's the half empty side of the glass, if she is enjoying the "little things" in life "our life", if she gets butterflies in her tummy same way that she makes our heart beating like a speeding train... then THAT is a... Girl, Woman, Lady to cherish and become a Wife, and a Mother to my children... at the end of the day hope this phrase makes sense... a woman, a good woman can/needs to be..."a Lady in the Society, and a Slut in bed"... but the "slut in bed" needs to be just for US, not for the Best friend/Neighbour/Stranger too... 😉🤷‍♂️

This is my perspective only, Cannot Speak for all the Men out there.. 🤷‍♂️

Oigit · Answer

My relationship with physical contact is complicated. So things like one night stands or a fling are not even options for me. I have even pissed off a couple women due to being unwilling to have sex without some kind of relationship in place. Be it close friends or a romantic relationship. So in general I do pursue women just for sex. It's not that I hate physical contact or don't want to have sex. It's more about getting to the point where I'm ok with taking some walls down and that does take getting close to people.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If she is a 304, tattoos, piercings, loud, obnoxious, goes clubbing a lot, lots of "guy friends", constantly on her phone, alcoholic, drug user, has ever said "it's complicated" when asked about relationship status (i. e. fuck buddy), addicted to social media; than she is just for sex.

dolemite89 · Answer

if i find a girl attractive i want to have sex with her, if her personality is shitty and i don’t like hanging out with her then i’d only want sex from her. If she has a good personality and is fun to hang out with then that’s who i’d want to be my girlfriend. simple.

NathanDavis · Answer

to me, it is very simple... I just don't hook up and sleep around just for the sex, that's just not my thing, lol

I've only been in relationships with four girlfriends, each lasting a few years... exclusive and committed to each other, so at least for now and so far... I do not pursue just sex, lol

Yotth · Answer

To be honest, I have never considered any girl as sex material. I always respect those whom I love and I respect all the girls other than them. The relation ship is good. But there should also be a girl who sees our heart, not our dick or money.

OpenClose · Answer

I would think he would just sleep with a hot girl he has less interest in overall, and be in a relationship with a girl he could see himself with long-term.

But I think most of the time he's just not looking for a relationship in general but still wants to satisfy his sex drive.

I can't say from personal experience, because I've never had no-strings-attached sex. I prefer the whole relationship before that kind of vulnerability.

MrCommodore · Answer

I never pursued a girl just for sex, it's more a case of dating and having sex and then within a few weeks or months realising we aren't compatible or she isn't for me.

I think people in long-term relationships sometimes are sexually frustrated, and they can need someone just for sex over a short period, no strings attached, just providing some relief. In those cases the people might be relationship material, but not available.

MrTaboo · Answer

Physically and personality they're the same standard. The only difference is that at first I'm having fun, just sex. If she meets my kinkiness standard then I start to consider longer term and marriage. But right now. It doesn't look like I'll find one.

Stoner710 · Answer

They’re kind of the same the girls are going to have a relationship whether the ones we’ve find hot and want to have sex with. For me the relationship should come before sex as a matter fact marry should be before sex that’s why as soon as a girl says “I’m a liberal”. Or “I’m a Christian women”. I leave I don’t want anything to do with liberalism or religion

AviatorTom · Answer

Sometimes, you women give us guys too much credit. We don't overthink things.

There's really no difference. We pursue a woman to get to know her, have fun, enjoy life. That usually turns into sex, and sometimes, into a relationship.

msc545 · Answer

You have lots of sex, figure out you have feelings for the girl, and then you make a HUGE mistake and get trashed by her.

loveslongnails · Answer

Witty! It's been so long that I pursued anyone for a relationship, since I've been in one for so long, I can't remember! And since I've met you, no one else compares sexually! Sorry I can't be any more help :)

Guardian45 · Answer

I think its kinda a vibe thing. If we're HIGHLY compatible and complementary, then there's a STRONG reason to believe it could get serious and intense.

But if we're compatible ONLY, then that could be more playful, possibly sexytimes, if she plays her cards right! 😂

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Physically attractive = ONS

+ Easy going = friends with benefits

+ Low body count, submissive, cooks, cleans, doesn't have another man's kids, let's me have a side piece = Relationship

+ Virgin and would make a good mom = Marriage and Kids

Feelings have nothing to do with it. Whats available whether it's easy or hard to meet my requirements is irrelevant. It's just what I require to have further commitment in relationships.

Nik1hil · Answer

We pursue for Sex, but if she is the kind with whom relationship will be good!..  Than we pursue her for Relationship and sex..

Anonymous · Answer

Pursue them all for sex. If one comes along who's worth having a relationship with, then there you go.

So many women complain that men only want sex. What they don't realise is that they're tipping their hand. If you say every man you meet is only interested in a romp, then what I hear is that you're not relationship material.

JPresidente · Answer

Great personality, great looks, the type you bring home to mom, those you date. Great looks, no brains, no personality, wild side, those you have sex with and nothing else.

Twalli · Answer

I don't. If I am interested in you, it's for a relationship. One way I can notice the difference is if I fantasize about you. Funnily enough I haven't fantasized about any girl I seriously considered dating.

Dantezam · Answer

Chemistry, personality, morals would be the first thing that I can think of. Wbu?

normalice · Answer

I pursue sex and if it's good then I pursue a relatioship.

Part2603 · Answer

What do you mean? If the sex is good, I might consider a relationship.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't pursue anyone for just sex. If I wouldn't have a relationship with them, then they are automatically friendzoned.

TroyDT2 · Answer

I no longer pursue just for sex. Too empty. If I pursue her, it is for a possible relationship.

DavidRaul · Answer

I don't do casual sex. If i want sex , i wanna be in a relationship

MysticDevice · Answer

I always persue a relationship first. Sex isn't enjoyable otherwise.

nawtee_me · Answer

I am always looking for a relationship but without commitments it just turns to sex…. I would rather the relationship

CubaPirate · Answer

I never did one without wanting the other. I probably just old fashioned but at least I a gentleman

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Cause one stimulates you only physically the other stimulates your physically and mentally

slatyb · Answer

I don't pursue women for sex. I pursue them for a relationship and then have sex. Takes about three dates

Anonymous · Answer

Most things that end up as relationships start out as sex.

AimeeKyle · Answer

If we make a connection, sex turns into a relationship.

HaveNoName · Answer

I never pursued anyone. Just got engaged and then got married in a few months. Same for her.

Berethor · Answer

Slutty girls are not wife material, guys are likely to use them for only sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Easy they're one in the same. I don't want to sleep with any woman I'm not in a relationship with.

lazermazer · Answer

If my downstairs brain is doing most of the stuff, then it is just sex.

athelete_7 · Answer

If someone seeks understanding then its long term if they see ur body and not ur bad nature then its sex.

BJP21 · Answer

We will stick around even if its all sex or no sex. I pursue other endeavors with the SO of equal interest.

boobliker · Answer

I don't think we choose that sex is always good and you get better at it as you know what each of you likes

Kelly6 · Answer

That I think men judge by their personality

Fukaroo · Answer

Depends on what I'm looking for at the time. Not specifically anything I'm looking for.

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t pursue anyone for sex. I only want sex with my future wife.

Avatar74 · Answer

I only pursue women who I want a relationship with, if I'm that attracted. to a woman I want that woman to be part of my life not just for sex.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't pursue for sex nor relationships, MeToo ended any of that for the smart man

Sparkie460 · Answer

I never pursued a woman just for sex. I always wanted a relationship

Cubus · Answer

I don't pursue anyone just for sex. It's a waste of time.

Anonymous · Answer

If she married me I will pursue her for sex. If she dates me I will pursue her for a relationship.

Pirooozi · Answer

Actually it can't be separated for me, relationship without sex is meaningless for me

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I only persue for a relationship.

panamared1 · Answer

have to have a few dates to decide

Gooddaze · Answer

To me they are the same.

krin_m · Answer

To me, they are the same.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

I would rather a good relationship over great sex.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

I only pursue for a relationship

OddBeMe · Answer

Spending non sex time together.

Slim57 · Answer

Personality

Nominal · Answer

Mood.

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