I love this guy but he has told me he’s feeling down and just needs to clear his mind that’s all. What should I do or say to that?

[Anonymous]

We’ve had a rough patch, we have unfortunately both have hurt each other but we talked and we said well at least we’re even (so we both can forgive and forget kinda thing) and no we didn’t cheat on each other. We have a very good thing when we’re good, he even has said he has never had a connection with anyone else like he has with me. I really love him and don’t want to push him away but i don’t know what to say or do since we’re long distance and when he’s feeling down he closes up and doesn’t like to talk until he feels better which I’ve said I understand but I just feel helpless and confused

[quaranta]

First of all this thing where you are "even" doesn't work like that. You won't fix a problem by adding another fault to the counterpart. At most you fixed the "justice" between you two, but you didn't fix the trust, rather you ruined even more. Trust is not something that you can really "fix" once is broken, you can rebuild it after a long time made of positive feedbacks with no mistakes that during months or years can erase the memory of what you learnt your partner is capable of (or viceversa). Unfortunately when you see how your partner works under some situations, that is it, you can't cancel the memory that easily and you know what you could expect when you walk on eggshells or when a similar situation repeats. This is where you don't just "forgive", to fix things, and all the negative feedbacks regarding trust accumulate over time.
I'm not happy to tell you that most of the work behind a path to rebuild trust is made through communication and that your partner looks far away from communicating in any mature way, as you said, he just disappears and comes back leaving you in despair, maybe you make you feel guilty or punish you, which is called passive aggression and is the most childish way to communicate any issue within a couple. I don't know which other issues you have in your couple but for sure the way he deals with communication (and the way you "allow" him, because it might be you're too difficult to deal with and he has no choice), is a urgency in the priorities of what you should start working on, first. With this communication issue you're not going anywhere...

[boobliker]

then wait and don't be too pussy and who knows you may have a boyfriend

[Guy13]

Check-in with him prior to weekend to see what’s up ⁉️

[Avicenna]

Just be supportive and keep in touch

[In_Trance]

Tell him to let you know when he's good