trust me, if you're a 45 yr old man chasing my daughter who is under 25, I would have my husband beat the shit out of him. My daughter is not marrying some perverted old creep who only preys on women over 20 years younger than him. We're looking for a decent boy for her to marry.
Who says the old man is a perverted creep who preys on women? If You’re really 30, I guess Your daughter is quite young; I was six and a half when my mum turned 30.
I need a man with better values. Not some old creep who only dates girls as young as his daughter or grandchild. Thats what i call a shallow sex digger in comparison to gild diggers
Only perverted old guys go after dating little girls they have absolutely nothing in common with. Everyone knows you're after nothing else but just a nice body and hot sex
Firstly, Old people don't tend to have much in common with kids. Secondly, you can't grow old with someone who is already old. And thirdly, young girls don't tend to be interested in old men. Fourthly, any old man who insists on only dating women at least 20 years younger is a pervert.
Sorry to say it but its true. Quit trying to dating kids and stick to women around your age. There must be something more important on your mind other than a hot body and sex right? I'm looking for a man with decent values, not some pervert.
why do you think fathers are so protective of their daughters when it comes to her boyfriends? because he is aware of the number of perverts out there in the world. And certainly and old man who only dates girls as young as his daughter or granddaughter is the biggest culprit.
I don’t try to date kids. I’ve found some decent people, all of which are older than 20. Your first paragraph is usually true, but in some rare cases, not exactly. As the Greek saying goes, a loving heart is always young. I’ve dated, hung out with romantically, and kissed women over 20 years older than me. They didn’t seem to be perverted, and what’s the difference between men and women, apart their sex? I agree that there are loads of perverts of any kind, but I don’t 100% agree with your last statement; do you assume Hugh Hefner, Muhammad ibn Abdullah, Joseph husband of Mary, etc were perverts? I agree that raping is a huge wrong; don’t get me wrong. If a 41-year-old man marries/dates a 21-year-old woman, it’s pretty much like any other aged man marrying/dating the woman.
So what a 60 yr old retiree marrying a girl who turned 18 an hour ago is still an adult dating another adult. But is it wrong? Hell yes. Are they likely in love? Hell no. Because reality is there is no reason why an old man would still be dating kids who just turned 18 a few hours ago.
You can try to justify being a perv all you want. It only makes you look bad at the end.
If both people love each other, the marriage is just. Old men do love. Love one another is one of Yeshua’s mitzvot and Muhammad’s hadiths. If the old man really didn’t love the 18-year-old, and/or vice versa, then the reason of dating/marriage is messed-up.
what would a 18 yr old have in common with a 40 yr old or a 60 yr old? 18 yr olds are immature, do not know anything, never seen the real world, have absolutely no knowledge or life experience. they're just kids.
Vast majority of the time when men date significantly younger women is because he wants a hot body, or someone he can manipulate due to her lack of life experience. Power imbalances happen a lot in these relationships because a young lady usually no money, no dating experience, no life experience. It makes her really vulnerable. And usually, these relationships are all about sex and infatuation.
Even if she does marry him, she eventually won't be happy because eventually she will find herself being married to a senior citizen at a very young age of 40. You can't grow old with someone who is already old.
A 21 yr old dating a 31 yr old would be reasonable. But not a 21 yr old dating a 41 yr old. The differences are far too vast. By the time he is 60 and she is 40, she would be looking for a new husband.
trust me, my husband would agree with me and say the same thing. no parent would be happy to see their daughter being taken advantage of by an old pervert who just wants to get into her pants. we are looking for a nice boy with a decent morals and values. Not some old creep who just wants her just cuz she is young.
I wouldn’t encourage anyone to date anyone, but I wouldn’t encourage anyone otherwise. Are you saying old men with decent morals and values don’t exist? Taking advantage whilst giving bad things in return (parasitism) is not love. That kind of symbiosis exists in many different age groups: young-young, young-old, old-old. A child’s brain becomes an adult’s brain at the age of puberty, from any age from nine to 15. If someone ‘just wants to get into her pants,’ that’s not love. Old men can have wishes other than getting into her pants. Tell me, were Katyusha, Shannon, and Dawn Marie, all of which are +20 years older than I and had romantic feelings for me, all perverts? If so, they all were able to love. If not, what’s the difference between them and old men we rapped about? True men (and women and non-binaries) who love want to date because of personality, and care not about age gaps, NOT the contrariwise.
do you realize that perverted old men as old as 60 used to buy 16 yr olds as brides 200 years ago?
we all know there is no romance involved. you just want sex.
I'm looking for a decent man with the right values as a son in law. Not some pervert whose biggest priority is young pussy. I'm looking for someone who my daughter can actually grow old with. You can't grow old with someone who is already old.
I"m not looking for my son in law to be someone around my age or older than me. The likelihood of someone like me at 45 or 50 having something in common with a teenager is almost non existent.
you can talk about having feelings for someone 20 years younger all you want, but reality is... its unlikely to happen with someone under the age of 25. Because the brain isn't even fully formed until mid 20s, kids at that age are typically not mature, have little to no knowledge / life experience. It would end up feeling like dating a big child. And plus, the chances of a lasting marriage with such a huge age gap is very slim. You can't grow old with someone who is already old. Its only a matter of time she gets unhappy and starts looking for a new husband.
why would any grown man insist on dating a " big child"?
because your biggest priority is not romance, its not love, its not emotional connection. Its a hot body and sex. Young women are extremely sexualized in our society. We don't need more perverts, especially not for a son in law.
Most of these relationships where big kids date old men are usually just made up of infatuation and sex. Or it is men who can't get along with grown women so they look for someone young , naive and experience inexperienced to manipulate. It just has "bad men" written all over it.
And the reason why you're so adamant on dating big kids is because you just want their bodies and sex. You're just a pervert who is looking for any excuse under the sun to justify dating a big kid.
Statistics show that the age range where females are most likely to experience sexual violence and rape are teenage girls and college aged girls 18-24. why? It is because girls at this age is most frequently targeted by perverts. This along with the lack of dating / life experience makes them extremely vulnerable to being taken advantage of, getting into the relationships with the wrong men, not knowing how to spot the wrong men.
I will teach my daughter from a young age how to recognize a bad men. And certainly a decent man is not a 45 - 60 yr old who only dates 18-22 yr old girls.
When it comes to marriage, we're looking for a decent man whose biggest priority is not looks, sex or a hot body. When you're well into middle age maturity and you're desperate to date big kids, it already shows a lot about your character.
There are many happy marriages with such a big age difference. "Pervert" is a word people use to meaning "other people doing something that doesn't appeal to me." If both people are happy with romantic love to one another, that’s all good. Any sort of raping or sexual assault is a bloody crime. Marriage/dating due to anything but love ain’t decent.
actually according to divorce lawyers, the larger the age gap, the more likely a couple will divorce. sure happy marriages of huge age gaps do exist. but you don't see the ones that are divorced.
All age gaps were compared against couples who were the same age. The study results showed that couples with a one year age difference have a three percent greater chance of divorce compared to individuals of the same age. Couples who have a five year age difference have an 18% chance of divorcing, and the likelihood of divorce increases by 39% for couples who have an age difference of ten years. Alarmingly, divorce is 95% more likely for couples with a 20 year age difference, and when there is a 30 year age difference this increases to a 172 % chance of divorce.
There are many early indications of what might cause a marriage to crumble before a couple walks down the aisle — and the age gap between partners is one of them. And according to data in a recent study of 3,000 people by Andrew Francis and Hugo Mialon, professors in the Department of Economics at Emory University in Atlanta, it could be a considerable factor. Randal Olson, a fourth-year computer science graduate research assistant at Michigan State University, crunched the raw data from Emory and found that a larger age gap is related to a higher divorce rate.
A five-year age gap statistically means you’re 18% more likely to divorce (versus just 3% with a 1-year age difference), and that rate rises to 39% for a 10-year age difference and 95% for a 20-year age gap. Partners from different generations may have different cultural reference points and values, and polar opposite tastes in music and film, and even friends, and also have different approaches to their sex life, says Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills psychotherapist and panelist on “Sex Box,” a forthcoming We TV relationship therapy show. “Sex drive goes up for women in middle age, but sexual function decreases for men.”
It appears that the change happens slowly and has a lot to do with a lack of marital satisfaction. It declines over time. At first, both people feel satisfied. As they grow older, the older person still expresses satisfaction, but the younger person tends not to get as much from the union anymore. This eventually pushes the couple to seek a divorce when the relationship stops working.
Part of the issue could be that people find themselves in different places in life. One person is thinking about their career while the other is considering retirement. One person is in good health while the other has steadily declining health as old age sets in. They may have felt similar, despite their age difference, when they were both younger. Getting older shows them just how different they are, which is why larger gaps prove more problematic.
Stop lying. I’m just defending rhinos, trouts, and manthers. I would marry any G-d-fearing vegan woman whose personality is agreeable, whatever the age is, as long as it’s mature enough. A big child ain’t mature enough. Personality has nothing to do with sex, but romance goes in it. Katyusha is 37 years older than I, and Dawn Marie is 22 years older. Shannon is a similar age as Dawn Marie. I’d date either of them, and marry if their personality would fit.
Who says I ONLY want to date 18-year-old women? I said nothing of the sort. If you let society and your peers define who you are, you’re the less for it. IF a relatively old man finds a relatively young lass, and she loves him romantically, then they can date and marry. The world is full of women, but not so of women that are like that lass.
The fact that you're willing to date a big kid just so you can lick a hot hody , makes you a pervert. There is nothing to your brain other than sex.
Trust me , if she were 12 years older, you wouldn't marry her.
This is what is so wrong and socially unacceptable about you
And if you think parents or other older experiences people can't see that, you're delusional. I've been around the block and have seen plenty of indecent guys like you
Hugh Hefner and Crystal Harris never divorced. Neither did Muhammad ibn Abdullah and A’isha bint Abu Bakr. Both couples had relatively large age gaps. However, I can name several couples that DID divorce and have similar ages, like my parents.
[IF a relatively old man finds a relatively young lass, and she loves him romantically, then they can date and marry. The world is full of women, but not so of women that are like that lass.]
Most young women under 25 aren't romantically interested in 40 yr old men. Its just the truth. Perverts like you would date 16 yr old girls just for the sex
If the 12-year-old is as perfect of a woman as Mary, yes. You know me not, so stop fucking lying to yourself. From what I said, you can tell I would marry for love, and I’m antinatalist who would rather adopt than bear. It’s possible to stay in abstinence with one’s spouse/partner. Just because MAJORITY don’t fancy old men doesn’t mean ALL of them don’t. Good day and have a nice one.
Im gonna tell you vast majority of marriages have less than a 10 yr age gap. Because people tend to have more in common with those closer to their own age. Not everyone wants to date children.
Like I said you're a pervert who likes disguising himself as a lover. Everyone knows you ain't in love with a 12 yr old
Joseph was in love with Mary, not I. I am in love with a few lasses in the 20s. I don’t know any 12-year-olds I’m enamoured with. Stop using labels. I prefer to be addressed by my name, Abdullah Isa Goldstein. As I said, majority doesn’t mean all, so stop judging. Couples can have none to many things in common in any age. Are you gonna call Shannon, Katyusha, and Dawn Marie perverts, or not? It’s the same with them as with me. Not everyone wants to date children, but a few do. I found no children with whom I’m in love. If two people are compatible, whichever age they are, they have a full right to date. Usually, their age gap is small, but it’s possible to be big. I’ve three examples that you’re too stubborn to realise. All in all, you’re just another brick in The Wall.
My friend Alexandra, in Her 40s-50s, is in love with Jesus of Nazareth, 2024-2026. There’s a perfect counterexample to your lame argument. In some rare cases, women DO love men +20 years older than they.
listen if you like dating children because of their bodies, then you can say so. Don't go around saying you're dating kids cuz you're in love with them.
because at the end of the day, nobody is gonna believe you. you can't trick folks who've been around the block.
What about the other 2%? Your second statement is more or less true because many men and women and even non-binaries are gold-diggers or similar. Do you really think I dated 11-year-old Shayna because of Her sex (We didn’t have sex), or because I found Her personality groovy? It was Shayna Who had a crush on me, not vice versa.
I'm pretty sure you don't have other lasses. Lasses under 25 don't tend to want someone 40+. Even if such "pretend play" relationships do occur , vast majority never lasts due to problems from the huge age gap. There are a lot of problems with big age gaps.
Don’t tend, but possible. You shouldn’t assume. You shouldn’t jump to conclusions. I met a high schooler who said she dated a +40-year-old. I had a 37-year age gap, and nothing that bad happened. We broke up when I accidentally refused to propose. I had another 22-year age gap that fell apart when I told the truth about my beliefs on polygyny.
data and statistics show that the larger the age gap, the more likely a divorce. its not up to you to say what lasts and what does not last. The numbers show.
you're not a lover. you're just a pervert disguised as a lover. lets see if you would still be dating her if you're not able to touch her. you wouldn't.
@Haha456 if Y’all have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. I went on many dates without sex, actually all the dates I’ve been on had no sex. Sex is not a date. Never say wouldn’t because that w-word goes up to your brain and you’d get yourself delusional. I would definitely. I love one another how Yeshua and Muhammad (peace and blessings upon Them) commanded.
And while I wouldn't date someone young enough to be my granddaughter, if they are over 18, the one dating them is NOT a pedophile. End of story. It cheapens the word and seriousness to use in such petty context as this.
@misogynistic_pig Semantics. You still go to prison for sleeping with a minor in most countries in the world, even if they're 14 to 17 (and likely should be executed). Either way, if they're 18 or older, they're an adult and it's lame to shame people who are dating legal adults, even if they're half the person's age.
Pedophiles are attracted to CHILDREN. Not MINORS. If she's eighteen, she's biologically an adult; being attracted to her means you are most assuredly NOT a pedophile. Being attracted to her when she's in her prime reproductive years means you are in fact normal; that's what you're *supposed* to be.
Pedophilia (alternatively spelt paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children. Although girls typically begin the process of puberty at age 10 or 11, and boys at age 11 or 12, criteria for pedophilia extend the cut-off point for prepubescence to age 13.
Uhmmm.. Girls mature faster than boys? What can I say! XDD Seriously though I just read it somewhere on Reddit. A guy had been unfortunately raped in jail and posted a thread regarding it and his life afterwards. Found it in its seemingly infinite comments.
So it can mean Someone who solicits customers for prostitution and acts as manager for a group of prostitutes; a pander; (African-American Vernacular, slang) A man who can easily attract women. None mentions about age, but I reckon this definition is too slang for dictionaries to define.
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