Should I text him or just let him reach out to me if he wants?

[nojokecarmichael]

This guy and I had been talking for over a year on and off and he wanted to be my friend, things happened. I said no but we ended up having sex.

It was so awkward but he's an awkward person. From what he's said it seems like he still likes me maybe. It was just the interaction that threw me off.

Afterwards I text him thanks and he said "thank you... we can do more next time" So I'm assuming that's good. He just hasn't text much. I was the one that initiated us talking again a few days ago.

Not to mention he talked about all these things he wanted to do sexually and it lacked. He hit my ass like twice softly 😂.

Updates

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Then again maybe he just wanted sex and nothing else after all

[HollyK21]

What do you want out of this situation? Since in your update you say you think he just wanted sex and nothing else, it makes me feel like you want more, and I’d that’s the case then you should tell him.

[nojokecarmichael]

I don't think I want anything more, it's just I expected him to want more

[HollyK21]

Honestly, if he had wanted something more then it would’ve happened at some point within the year you two have been on and off. Men know fairly quick when they see potential with a woman and want to get serious. For you two to get intimate, there has to have been events leading up to that, like a lot of flirting and dirty talk, etc, and once it gets to that point and there’s no other efforts on his part like dates and stuff, then that says a lot about his true intentions. Anyway, I wouldn’t advise texting him. For one, you’ve already been the initiator and two, it’s better to create some distance if nothing will come of these interactions besides sex.

[nojokecarmichael]

He tried. It was just I talked to him, blocked him because I started dating someone then unblocked him months later. That was the "things happened" that I was talking about. Then when he found out, he was pissed because he felt like i played him/with his feelings. Then after, we talked about it and he asked if I wanted to be friends... Just the other day, he brought up how he didn't like that I was playing with his feelings before and that he was surprised I wanted to sleep with him, especially after I said I didn't want to be friends

[nojokecarmichael]

And you're right, I'll leave it alone.

[HollyK21]

Oh okay. Well I’m sure you had your reasons for not wanting a relationship with him then or now, but if that’s the case then yeah, I’d leave it alone. You don’t want him to get the impression that you’re engaging out of loneliness, boredom, or anything of that nature.

[WhitneySnow]

If you like him or you wanna hook up with him again you should text him. Otherwise I guess wait for him to text you.

[nojokecarmichael]

It's just the slight fear of rejection even though a part of me feels like he might be ok with it

[WhitneySnow]

It sounds to me like he’d be ok with it. Go for it girl.

[In_Trance]

Guys never want to be friends.
I don't know why you would consider hanging on or reaching out when it's already been a year and nothing has happened.

A year!!!

[nojokecarmichael]

I just stated some of what happened...