Question for men who dumped their Ex-gfs even though the girl was good to you and loved you so much. What did you feel after the breakup?

[Anonymous]

Relief

Regret

Happy

Sad

[Passing_by]

Even though we loved each other a lot, tried saving the relationship in the best ways we could, I realised that we grew apart from each other and weren't compatible anymore. The best we could do is part ways lest we'd end up sabotaging each other's mental health badly.

Considering that the break up was good for us both in the long run, although I was sad for a couple of months, I got over it after a while.

[Asker]

at least both of you tried to save the relationship and it was hard for both of you to part ways. I hope the outcome was positive for the both of you. I was sad for years and afraid to fall in love after my first heartbreak. Then when I started to love again I picked the wrong guy and got hurt once again. But this time I know how to deal with the pain. It is painful, it fucked up my mental health but there will be a day I will get through this once again.

[TroyDT2]

I felt like I was doing her a favor, because I was not into her like she was into me and she deserved better. And she found it, and I'm happy for her.

[Asker]

Very nice of you 👏 at least you gave her a chance to find a guy that will love her equally. I hope you also got a positive outcome and became happier after letting her go.

[William7489]

About as horrible as I could ever feel. It was when I was so much younger, this was a while ago, before they had made advances in knowing what they know about anxiety disorders and things like that. I was so close with this person and to this day she was the one that got away. But I was dealing with so many issues concerning anxiety/panic attacks and alcohol use secretly because of it that I knew I could not do right by her and get myself better at the same time. To this day it’s one of the most awful decisions I’ve ever had to make. Particularly because I really couldn’t tell her why. It was almost 10 years later that I told her everything. And it had nothing to do with me not caring for her or cheating or anything like that. She was so gracious and understanding. That’s the kind of person she was. It really goes to show that in some cases it really is not about you, and that we don’t know what’s going on in the other person‘s head. I think it’s so good that people are encouraged to talk more openly about it now. I’ll say this much if you ever meet a girl who is good to you and loves you , catch her and clone her PLEASE!!!

[Asker]

You are exactly like my ex. We broke up because of all issues he have. He said that even though we're happy and he loves me, there's still emptiness inside. He couldnt stop his alcohol addiction, on Fridays he always go to see his therapist but he's still a broken man. He completely cut me off his life now. He said it is the easiest way for me to move on. He said that I deserve better. He told me bunch of reasons but I know what's the bottom line of it. He always self destruct. I thought I could help him. But I was wrong...

[Asker]

I miss him so much. He was my bestfriend. We've been through a lot. He decided to tell me that he loves me and after 3 months he said he wasn't ready to be in a relationship and that I deserve better. I lost my bestfriend and the person I love. The hardest part is being left out after falling deeply inlove with him. And I couldnt believe he can bear it that he really cut me off completely.

[William7489]

I doubt I am exactly like your ex to be quite honest & Oh I’m a little bit concerned about some of the language she used. It’s pretty loaded bottom line, when somebody tells you who they are, believe them. Yes quite a bit going for you, live your life and improve yourself while he does the same. If that’s the case. And if it’s meant to be somehow someway the universe will bring you all together again. Just let it work except magic and take care of you and don’t wait. Grieve and move on. I know how hard it is.

[Asker]

It's impossible in our case. Anywa, life goes on.

[Asker]

*Anyway

[Guy13]

Dumb is all I have to say, He will regret it. A boy-man.

[Asker]

Yeah, super dumb! 😅

[Guy13]

Maybe best to happen on the front end rather than dumb later…. Sucks though‼️

[Asker]

Maybe. Life goes on 🙂

[Guy13]

👍👍

[Anonymous]

Depends on the relationship truthfully and probably all of them at some stage or another. Before I finally move on and find someone better.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing! So, Have you found her?

[Opinion Owner]

Found who?

[Opinion Owner]

lol. I see what you mean. Not yet.

[Asker]

Yeah 😂 well someday!!!

[Opinion Owner]

lol. Thanks

[Asker2022]

Relief because they tend to be clingy and insecure.

[Asker]

Yes, that's correct. This can be suffocating.

[Asker2022]

You can also check out my new question, If you don’t mind.

[Asker]

Sure.

[User3191989]

I've never done this but, chances are, it was because he was already cheating

[Asker]

Yeah, maybe. that's a horrible thing.

[peedy]

Yeah she treated me good and loved me but she was a basket case with issues that needed professional help

[Anonymous]

I didn't dump her she just hurt me really bad

[Asker]

I understand this a lot. Hope you're ok now. 🙏

[Opinion Owner]

No I'm not I'm still hurting and i never left her

[Asker]

You're still in a relationship with her?

[Shamalien]

lonely and sad, but relieved

[Anonymous]

Very sad

[Asker]

Did you try to win her back?

[Opinion Owner]

I did, but she wouldn’t take me back

[Asker]

Maybe it was the best for the both of you. Some people are just not meant for each other. I know it is a hard pill to swallow but acceptance is the key to move on.