Has an ex ever come back to you after THEY dumped you? How long did it take? No "Move on" answers. That's not what I'm asking. Thanks!?

[Anonymous]

Did you have a freak out period? Like, calling them nonstop, and texting, and emailing? Were they giving you the silent treatment? Details are helpful!

They came back, I didn't have a freak out period.

They came back during a freak out period.

They came back after I stopped having a freak out period.

They never came back.

[Anonymous]

They did come back, about two months after we split. We had an argument one night, and I asked him if I was a rebound (I was, he ended up going back to her). He didn't like that question and basically quit talking to me. We had been dating for 5 months. I apologized for freaking out the very next morning, but he did not respond. 4 days later I still hadn't heard from him so I assumed his silence was him breaking up with me. I sent him a message saying that I could see we were done dating and that I enjoyed getting to know him and wished him well. He responded with a similar sentiment and we went our separate ways. I started dating another guy (whom I'm marrying this summer!) and 2 months after we had been dating, guess who calls? The ex! He thinks he made a hasty decision and wants to try it again. Well, it was too late, as I was already seeing someone else. :) He ended up going back to the ex AGAIN, they now have a 2 year old daughter. Life is weird like that. I'm so glad he dumped me, my partner now is a way better match for me :)

[Asker]

Thank you! I'm very happy for you!

[Anonymous]

I am between A & C

For all my exs.. they have always come back.. Some, I never had a freak out period. Only two I had those.. and they came back as well. But, only one, I took back.

I had a freak out period because he just randomly stopped talking to me. It was more out of, him being a dick and knowing he wasn't good enough for me I guess. But, he came back.. I took him back in.. but a year later it ended due to the same reasons. I am actually going through it right now! And, all I have to say.. is this time.. I am not taking him back. Clearly it didn't work the last time :/

[Asker]

Thank you! Mine also gave me the silent treatment out of no where. It is very cruel. I hope you feel better! I've been doing things for me and I'm starting to feel better! :)

[Opinion Owner]

aww well that is good to know! I am still going through depression but, I am getting through it as well! I wish I could follow you haha

[Asker]

Yea, I'm depressed but I just fight to ignore it. I actually keep telling myself " Better yourself and he'll come back." None of us are perfect so I just try to work on the non perfect areas. Since I don't know what split us up, that's all I can do!

[Opinion Owner]

well, mine was because he couldn't treat me good and he knew it. It was a constant battle to be with him and be happy. He will be back. Yours and mine. they always do come back. It is just.. when they do come back.. if you will let them back into your heart

[Asker]

I'm still debating on that. One thing is for sure, he can't pull the silent treatment again, because if he does that I'm OUT.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah.. I said that! last year! then.. he did it again twice! once for a month.. and once for a week.. it is mainly his issues.. he has a few.. and I work with him on them.. but, yeah.. I don't know. I said I was out.. but, we have been together for a long time. It is hard when you have been with someone for so long :/

[Opinion Owner]

but, I think, this time, I am done. Because I cannot stand the pain.

[Asker]

The silent treatment is TORTURE. I would seriously rather have him punch me in the face then go through this again.

[Opinion Owner]

I completely agree with that. It is the worst.

[willshere]

I've come back to an ex but we didn't date. I just missed her a lot and realized that I wanted her back, but it didn't happen. It took me getting out of a four month period of being really stressed and busy

[Asker]

Meaning a 4 month period after you came back and she said no?

[willshere]

We broke up and four months later I called her and told her how I felt, she wasn't interested and I don't blame her

[Asker]

Oh ok, now I understand! Thank you!

[Asker]

When you broke up with her, did she call, and text, and email a lot?

[willshere]

No she never contacted me, I wish we kept in better contact but she was hurt and I was really busy and distracted

[Asker]

Yea, us girls are emotional things and we're either going to be hurt in silence, or totally freak out for a while. :/

[madhatters4]

I've had two ex's come back. one after being dumped by her and the other after a rather mutual breakup after she cheated on me (maybe I was more of the dumper).

neither scenario was I freaking out

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

They always do that. I don't even have a freak out and I don't stalk guys by texting them and bugging them during a break up that is so needy. Lots of exes just come back to me , The first time he like annoyed me on an off about hooking up two weeks after our break up and annoyed me about hooking up again after I kept saying no for like 2 years, One came back after a shitty break up of his, another one decided to annoy me about getting back together after one of my break ups ( but I dumped him), and the last one wanted to be friends with benefits after our break up ( I said no) then after 2 years he like says he is interested in me again -__- .

[Asker]

I can't tell if men are confusing creatures, or stupid ones. lol

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

It is probably a situation that is unique to me. People also make me the manic pixie dream girl.

[summernite]

I usually freak out haha. But it doesn't last forever. The one that truly cared for me stood by me until I got married. (my highschool sweet heart).

Others came back but after the freak out period, the "magic" seems to be gone.

I'm going now through something like a break up. It's happened with this man many many times. He usually returns asking to reconnect. And I have been so silly I always fall for him again.

Hopefully this time I'll just leave it. OMG I sound so pathetic!

[Asker]

You're not not pathetic. You loved him and got hurt for it. HE's the pathetic one. Taking someone for granted.

[Clarkie27]

Don't freak out it'll push him away more. Believe me

[Asker]

I already did freak out for about a month and half. ( He gave me the silent treatment, which always makes us freak out more.) I've stopped for about 2 weeks now. My friend said after I stopped he started posting things on Facebook , like "checking out the girls at the gym". He'll also tell his friends and family "I'm done with her." So I don't know if those are good signs or not.

[Clarkie27]

Yeah I went throu this too so I understand. And I know to want him back but freaking out is a bad idea. My ex ignored me when I did that cuz they don't want to deal with it and it's annoying to them. But say you lost feelings for someone and want to move on but they kept blowing up your phone you'd get annoyed too. And those don't sound like good signs honestly. If he's checking out girls and posts it on FB then he wants people to know he's single. If he's telling people he's done with you he probably is. But if you really want him back (which isn't a good idea) then just let him be, when some guys realize the girl stopped trying they start to wonder why they stopped and they end up hitting you up (But don't get you're hopes up, doesn't always happen) but honestly you don't want a guy like that. Been there done that and I'm much happier now that I moved on but I know you don't want to hear that. Good luck.

[Asker]

He has a very bad habit of saying things he doesn't mean. One thing another guy told me is if he really did move on, he wouldn't even bring me up to his friends and he would talk to me and not act so angry, so I don't know. One thing I do know that's working in my favor is I'm one of those girls that is often referred to as a "bombshell" or really, really hot. I'm not conceited, I'm really not, I'm just very aware that I am not average. He is average, and kind of on the chubby side. I think he's adorable, but most other girls don't. So I'm kind of hoping that once he realizes he can't get a girl as "hot", he's going to rethink a bit. Men are visual creatures whether we like it or not.

[Clarkie27]

Yeah that makes sense but do you really want a guy that goes back to you cuz he can't get any hot girls. I wouldn't like that personally cuz then he'd only like you for your looks. you should want a guy to like you for you. You should want a guy to still like you and stay with you even if you became unattractive. Not like that would happen I'm just saying haha

[Asker]

Lol, I get what you're saying. In honestly the way he's been behaving is very odd for him. I know he loves me, yet I have no idea why we broke up, so it makes me think something is wrong, or something is miscommunicated. I've been banging my head against the wall trying to figure that part out. So I guess the most I can do is just wait it out. I was curious though if ex's ever come back after they dump you. I'm usually one the doing the dumping and every single one has come back. This is the first time I'm on the opposite end.

[Clarkie27]

They don't always come back but a lot of times they do. It's weird how guys work but it always seems like months later they finally realize what they lost and come running back

[Asker]

Well, I'm crossing my fingers that he does and gives us a real chance to work out whatever the problem is. If not, he can take a hike.

[Clarkie27]

Well I wish you the best. Good luck :)

[Dandeus]

First girl I dated dumped me, I was crushed and got over it. Years later, 5 or 6, she tried to get back with me and said it was a huge regret of hers, but I wouldn't bite.

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