Why can’t most men take “no” for an answer without being hurt?

[lala_candy]

[DaveJord]

Honestly, because we get no like 90% of the time for some rather arbitrary and petty reasons. And women as a whole act like they are so entitled and that mens opinion don't matter any more in the least.

Womem make it all about themselves and feel entitled to do so, and society reinforces women's belief in doing so. And men have no say, and society has created such an imbalance between the sexes for political means, that it has undermined the very fabric of relationships.

So men get pissed because there's literally nothing we can do but endure the bull shit.

[Pyrofox]

For guys they only ask out like 0.0001% of women realistically and they only ask out the ones that seem "approachable." So hence why getting shot down is a lot more intense than if guys were shooting their shot with every girl. And its kinda this reason that so many guys are just kinda giving up the whole sterotypical ask the girl first. Guys are getting tired of the constant drama stories they hear girls talk about guys who do ask them out. And guys are catching onto the fact that girls and women love calling guys who ask them out adj's like "creep, weirdo and freak." So its kinda just going now full circle and now its actually affecting women who normally are use to being the ones who just have to dress cutely or sexy to get attention are now the ones who are realizing guys aren't interested in chasing. And its starting to reverse societal norms.

[fonduegirl]

I don't like being approached tbh. So as a guy, I feel like they should just wait for me to approach them.

[Pyrofox]

@anon1903 Well maybe you should learn to be okay with just Yolo'ing it you might be passing up on the one ya know but either way best of luck.

[fonduegirl]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

They build up all these expectations about us and this whole little world of being in love with us before we even know they like us.

[fonduegirl]

I know right! Then they complain about "brutal rejections".

[FilmGuy93]

There's usually a build up of frustration that happens over the course of years. So the problem isn't your rejection specifically, it's all the other rejections he's had, and your's just becomes the latest in a long line.

[SnowedIn]

Rejection hurts. Getting told "no" hurts. That part is actually okay: we are humans and we have emotions. The real issue, I think, is why do some (not sure it's most, but maybe it is) wallow in it or get angry that you told them no or not move on from the hurt. And that is an answer I cannot provide.

[FunnyGiy]

Well. Rejection hurts man or woman. Most men can take it for a answer though. Some can’t. Some feel entitled. But there is women like this too.

If you work up the courage to ask a guy out and he says no…. How would you feel? Especially if you really liked and cared for him?

Hopefully you could take no for a answer but it will still suck

[TroyDT2]

I don't. but I use a shotgun not a sniper rifle. What I mean is that when I'm on the hunt I'll ask 25 or more different women in the same random establishment. A lot of guys seem to be "all eggs in one basket" types who will spend weeks or months working on a girl, so when they get shot down they have a lot of hopes and energy expended on her already. I invest a minute, sometimes less, deciding if she's worth a shot so when 90%, often more, decline, it is not big deal.

[fonduegirl]

Oh my god 😂

[BJP21]

No means no. It dont hurt me.

Some guys get emotionally attached before they even get to meet you, and this is because guys are very visual and that visual comes with emotion sight on scene.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Same reason women can't, dissapointment hurts.

Life is not pain free.

But you can ease the pain a bit by being nice/polite/descrete about it when you reject someone.

[Guy13]

They have no damn backbone and women can not even Test and Sport with that type of Momma’s Boy ‼️

[Grubhub]

Well there’s a girl at work who told me I’ll think about it after I asked her out. The next day I saw her she was looking at the floor and couldn’t look me in the face. She continues yo speak and constantly waves at me. 🤷‍♂️

[exitseven]

It is a scary thing to reveal your feelings to a girl and it is very embarrassing if she turns you down.

[Fireguy17]

no clue, once I get a no I would move on.
More out there that might say yes, so no time to lose.
Their loss, not mine.

[UniquelyBasic]

Its okay to be hurt in certain circumstances. Depends in what context though, i guess.

[Vegasrunner]

What gives you the impression that they are "hurt"?

[TheFlak38]

Said the entitled woman who thinks the entire world owes her something.

[Anonymous]

Most men have entitlement issues.

[Brando10222]

Depends on the topic.

[nawtee_me]

ego is a terrible thing to loose... lol

[KrakenAttackin]

Most men don't deal well with cock teases.

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women can't.

[Anonymous]

Same reason women can’t take criticism