I’m so sick of men asking me out and then when I tell them no, they think that means ‘not right now’ or ignore and disregard my feelings and keep trying to ask me out later on a date.
I was asked out on a date on Instagram by a guy who is 10 years older than me. I said no and that he’s too old for me and I’m not dating right now. He said that’s fine, yet weeks later is still harassing me and saying things like ‘we should be dating’ and ‘I’d buy you flowers and chocolates and treat you right’. The pushiness seems very narcissistic.
Another guy asked me out on Instagram to go to an ice hockey match. I kept making excuses and eventually just told him no and that I was not ready to date, even though my reason was I just wasn’t into him. He then got back to me and said ‘that’s fine I only meant we’d go together as friends’ even though we’ve never met and we aren’t friends.
This other guy from my old college has been trying to date me for years but I’m just not interested in him romantically. He’s delusional because he still thinks we are dating even though I’ve never met him and says ‘I know you are way out of my league and I’ve always known that but just let me take you out I’ll treat you right and not like your ex boyfriend treated you’.
I’m so sick of these men thinking me saying no means they still have a chance with me. It feels like harassment now
What makes men think that when a woman says no it means keep pursuing her?
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You do realize that women do that as well, yes?
Moving right along, I have a two-ask rule. You ask once, if I say no, then if you ask again I'm done with you. Now that said, I don't do wishy washy "no"... so there's truly no reason to think that it'll ever turn to a "yes", and 90% of people GET that, and they don't ask again. Now if it's a caveated "no" like "not right now because I'm not dating" then I can't get mad when they ask again because maybe then I AM dating again.
Its a mix u always seem to say no but followed by somthing that could change over time instead of saying no im not intrested in you or going out and equally to that many men are told that persistence is somthing thats attractive
People that don't take no for an answer don't respect you.