Guys what do you think about older women who aren't very educated but who are smart and self aware?

[Anonymous]

My education was only uptill the 6th grade and my life and environment wasn't exactly for kids. The only skill I have is painting and drawing and was told I'm talented and can make serious money by it so I started to do freelance work by this and earned some money it wasn't a lot of money but more money than from working from fast food restaurant. Anyways I still live with my parents cause I can't afford my own roof over my head.

I'm 31 but people guess me for being 21, my look are average but I'm decent and people have given me compliments calling me beautiful\pretty, I'm not fat or skinny but I look athletic and active.

Now I know there are younger women who are much smarter and have real jobs and have there own roof over there heads and I'm sure men who are my age or older would totally prefer them especially for marriage. But what do you think about women my age and my type?

And my wishes as a female is that I would love to get married but don't want to have any children and I know the majority of men probly don't like that but that's just me so...

[MrOracle]

Most men don't care about a woman's education or career, because other things are our priority. We also realize that you can educate yourself as long as you can read - if you have a smartphone or a computer with an internet connection, you have access to the world of information. Formal instruction isn't strictly necessary - you can learn what you like and what you need on your own.

What most men want is a woman who will support him at home while he does the primary earning. And they want a woman who is feminine and who will let him lead, and appreciates that he takes care of her.

Having said that, time works against women moreso than it does men, so the sooner you get out and find a man, the better the man you'll have access to. Youth is a woman's greatest value, so use what you've got while you still can.

[Asker]

So basically he cares about the way she looks? So once I hit 40 no guy is gonna want me at all?

[MrOracle]

Read my post again - most of it talks about all of the OTHER things men want from a woman. But, yes, your looks play a role - that can't be a surprise. How many working 40 year old actresses are there, compared to how many 20 year old actresses? (There are almost 10 times as many 20-year-old actresses.) How many 40 year old supermodels? YES, looks expire, and looks ARE important, ESPECIALLY in the initial acquisition phase.

But, as I said in my first post, that's only a part of the equation, and other things are important too. You seem to be shocked to learn that men actually expect to get things THEY want in a relationship, and that it's not 100% about what the woman wants. In reality, BOTH people have to provide things to the other, and BOTH people have to make sacrifices, and NEITHER are going to get every single thing they want. You can't have it all.

[Asker]

I can't find a suitable guy and its taking time.. Iv had relationships in the past but one guy was an impotent and the other was gay. I just wanted to know that is it safe if a woman ages? I mean I don't want kids so aging in that area doesn't scare me like that...

[MrOracle]

The reality is that YOUTH is your most valuable currency in the relationship market, and your value is declining and will continue to decline.



Women begin their adulthood at the top - having massive value just because they exist. Men start virtually at the bottom, and must build their value themselves. Women's value is massively front-loaded age-wise, because men STRONGLY value youth, while men's value comes later, because women value status, resources, and security, and it takes a man a while to build those things. And the man's value will never reach the heights that a woman's value reached, but men's value will be sustained for much longer. Looking at the graph, both men and women have the same total value (the area under the curve is identical) - it's just that it's distributed differently over time.

Because of this, it's in a woman's best interest to find her life-long relationship partner as early as possible - definitely in her 20s and ideally in the first half of her 20s. While it doesn't mean you can't find a relationship partner later in life, it DOES mean that you won't be able to attract and especially KEEP a man that's as highly valued as you could have when you were in your 20s - and the longer you wait, the less "value" you have to spend on a man, meaning you will only be able to "afford" more average men.

[MrOracle]

This is the way that the world has always worked, and I realize that Feminism has lied to women and told them this no longer applies, but that is and always has been a lie. Just as men cannot tell you what you should desire, you cannot tell men what they should desire, and men have always valued women in their youth.

Most importantly, you need to realize that, while money and status and career and education are things that women value in men - and thus raise a man's value on the relationship market, men do not and have never placed significant value on those things, and they won't help you much if at all on that market as a woman. Your career and salary won't make up for a lack of youth. Thus, if you want a serious relationship/marriage, it's always in your best interest to find a partner as soon as possible as a woman, because every day that goes by, your prospects get worse once you pass 24. The sooner, the better.

[boggboss]

Thats pretty much fine not really a issue with anything although I want kids so it wouldn't be a good match for that part vut everything else seems fine

[Luckycharms12]

Just because someone doesn't go to college doesn't mean there not smart. Lost of people I know haven't gone far in education but worked hard and went places. Also they loads of storys.

[CloudMassacre]

I would date you if we vibed, and I don’t want kids either so that’s a plus

[Anonymous]

Why was you education only up till the 6th grade if you don't mind me asking.

[Asker]

Because it wasn't important to my family and believed education doesn't have to be everything...

[Asker]

And my parents were just abusive and didn't care much about my needs while growing up

[Wise4myage]

I don't see that bothering me much.