If he does not initiate contact and only answer my texts he is not interested right?

[Anonymous]

I had a feeling the feeling was mutual I just felt it a gut feeling. He has me on Instagram I texted him a couple times all joking around he does answer but he’s dry. That’s why I am asking I just wanna get things cleared off and out of my head. Don’t really have anyone to ask these questions to. So cold someone please help me?

[Anonymous]

The only way to get a definite answer would be to ask him directly in your own way. Sure it’s scary but you’ve already tried conversing so why not just be bold? If that’s not something you’re willing to do and would rather judge off his actions alone then I’d say that maybe he isn’t interested in pursuing anything with you or even anyone else right now. Remember when shooting your shot that just because you are open and available doesn’t mean the person will be.

[Asker]

Yes I agree. I don’t think I’m going to do anything about imma just take peoples words for it. For some reason I can’t shake off the feeling but it might be ego. I probably am trying to feel good about myself with the thought that he likes me. Reality is tough. But thank you so much for your advice! I appreciate you answering. Have a good night sleep well❤️

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever works best for you, and who knows maybe by not initiating conversation it gives the opportunity to see if he reaches out then you’ll have a better idea of if there’s mutual interest☺️ and no worries, good luck with this situation whichever route you take!

[Asker]

One last question

[Asker]

Please 😚. You mentioned don’t reach out how long should I wait for him to reach out? A month 2? Couple of days?

[Opinion Owner]

By not reaching out, I mean like at all lol because the ball needs to be in his court since you’ve already been the one initiating conversations and he’s hardly even engaging. You don’t want to keep being the one to dive in first, there should be mutual effort. So by not saying anything then it gives him the opportunity to make a move, but if he doesn’t then I’d say leave it alone because you have your answer as to his interest level.

[Asker]

But for how long should I wait for him to reach out. I won’t text him at all imma take your advice but until when should I wait for him to make a move? A month?

[Opinion Owner]

I’d say within the week/next 7 days, only because a guy who’s really interested in you should not let days to pass between when he talks to you. So if you don’t hear from him in that time then cut it off. However if you do hear from him and the conversation is still very dry, it could be a sign that either you’re not compatible, or he isn’t much of a texter in general and prefers in-person conversation. That shouldn’t keep him from at least reaching out though!

[Ryfyle]

Or he has nothing to say at the moment.

[Asker]

Maybe…… did your gut feeling ever fail you? I just wanna shake off the feeling and get back into track falling in love is so draining😔

[3etars]

i agree! and i too am going through this

[Ryfyle]

dudes get tired

[Asker]

What does that mean can you explain.

[Ryfyle]

They are physically exhausted. Probably has a lot of shit to do and not much energy to go around. The mere cost of survival as a man has grown significantly. And perhaps he doesn't want to appear clingy.
Your best bet is to talk to the man.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it sounds like its time for you to move on.

[Asker]

Thank you maybe it is time already

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome and good luck.