Mixed signals with a guy, does he like me?

[Anonymous]

I work with this guy, I was pretty sure he liked me until very recently. I know that he's shy, doesn't date much, doesn't like texting, doesn't socialise much and took a couple of months to talk to me. We started spending a lot more time together at work, going to break together, having inside jokes and messaging although infrequently, enough. Always with the eye contact, smiling, lots of questions about myself and remembering things I've said months later. We'd bring eachother in little gifts and do little favours for eachother. All going really well... he even started initiating hugs and arm touching. People at work were making comments but he didn't back off. His friend even spoke to my friend about it, smiling and said well we will see what happens won't we. Until the last couple of weeks, he started being a little off with me (also has made a few comments about me and another guy at work, who is just a friend. He asked me if something was going on with him months ago and I said I see him like a brother) So I messaged him and I asked him for coffee outside work. He left my message unread and now is acting distant. Didn't go for break with me. I broke the ice and starting chatting ignoring the elephant in the room and he was into conversation, asking questions, carrying it on. Easily could have given one word answers until I went away. But still hasn't replied to the original message or read the follow up one I sent. Should I take this as a rejection? It certainly feels like one. Or is there another explanation. I would just ask but I don't want things to be awkward at work.

[Angryfrog]

Need to check the timeline. You mentioned calling chap B "like a brother" months ago but change in guy A was only weeks ago.

Everything at the start is what guys into a girl do, it sounds like he had feelings. Is he definitely single? May have backed off when it got too real.

Does guy B know his just a friend like a brother, and how playful banterish are you with guy B- has Mr B said something?

How is his mannerisms tone, body language? Exactly the same or different? - does he know his being different? - does he have the same phone? You never know.

[Asker]

Thank you for this. Yes he is definitely single. Said in the past he doesn't really date as he's too shy.

Yes, me and guy B have had playful banter for years, he does with everyone though. Its our friendship. He knows we are just friends and he always talks to me about girls he likes. My friendship with him hasn't changed. Possibly could be misinterpreted by outside parties but I'm not sure why that would be all of a sudden. I wouldn't even think that was the case however whenever me and guy A have spoken the past couple of weeks he's like are you going with guy B to this? Or I can't help you with this maybe you should go to guy B.

Guy A stopped talking to me and wouldn't look me in the eyes for about a week. Now will talk to me, smile and hold eye contact and conversation but I have a feeling something is different. Maybe I could put it down to a bad couple of weeks because it's not just me he's quiet with, but he's never been like this before around me.

He has the same phone but won't read my messages (only sent 2 over the last 3 weeks). When I asked him for coffee, it could easily of been a friend thing as I regularly meet people from work for coffee. I'm not sure why he would ignore it completely. He did it once before and after 4 days messaged something completely unrelated and said I'm bringing you a gift into work.

It was just all going so well and progressing slowly but nicely but I feel like we've gone 10 steps back and I'm struggling to understand why. Not sure whether to back off or carry on like nothing has changed.

[Vikkrram]

So you said that you see him as a brother , so you made very clear that you don't have feelings for him. This message was conveyed to him and he have stopped putting efforts now and started to Ignore you

[Asker]

Sorry I think I misworded it, I meant I see the other guy as a brother. The one he keeps mentioning.

[Vikkrram]

I don't know why he is behaving like that if everything was going fine , it's weird

[Anonymous]

It's a rejection. You should just leave this behind.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it

[In_Trance]

I don't think so