I've been volunteering with this guy with whom I really hit it off, I could tell we both liked each other but I didn't make it too obvious because you never know if people have someone -- and I learned he did (an other volunteer asked if he had a girlfriend).
Ever since I decided I should act with him the way I do with everyone (so friendly and smiley but no particular focus on him the way I used to) because I certainly do not want to flirt with a guy already in a relationship.
Ever since, he's been acting seriously ice cold and angry with me, like he is super drawn back, touchy and for instance in our group chat, answers to everyone but me even if I talk directly to him. I mean I think it is insane he is acting like he got "rejected" and needs to forget about me when it's obvious that if you say you have a partner (most) people will put you on the friendlist, had he been single I'd have not forgotten about it. So yes what's up with this guy, huge ego or did he genuinely think I would just ignore he is taken?
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You know the answer you put it at the end of the comment.
Huge ego= thinks you would ignore him having a g/f.
Wanted some volunteer fun.
His in a mood because he feels rejected that you dont want him so much to try to steal him from his girlfriend. He may have thought about swapping g/f for you (i doubt it though) but now knows he can't, but you still made the right choice anyway.
Another volunteer asked him out bet the guys good looking - fancy himself a player?
He is good looking indeed, but I am also --good looking-- Not trying to be arrogant here but what I mean is that, I enjoy beauty like everybody else, still do not get swayed by this to the point I'd act unnaturally and in any case I would never ever get dejected if an attractive guy moved on to something else if I already had someone, it's just the decent thing to do. But I suppose some good looking guys can be very arrogant if they've only ever been told they're amazing etc, still, I think you're right there 'His in a mood because he feels rejected that you dont want him so much to try to steal him from his girlfriend. ' and no matter how arrogant you are I wonder how you can see the situation like this, not everyone is uncaring about morals or wants to act as the other woman/guy, seemingly he can't stand his "worth" doesn't trumpt that. I also wondered if he was a player because he looked quite traditional but still acted this way, he's in a 2 year relationship though with a (no shade just for info sake) homely looking girl which doesn't scream playboy to me but you never know maybe he's not faithful, maybe he's overall open to swap shall he have the occasion but judging from his reaction I bet in his mind he'd flirt until he finally makes up his mind while in a relationship which I find awful, flirting is different from talking and I bet he'd go crazy if his girlfriend did that to some guy.
Plenty of girls don't gaf if a guy has a girlfriend or not. I call them gross skanks. You, are refreshing to read about because you have a functioning moral compass. As for that clown? I'd just laugh at him... he's a joke.
Well, thank you very much, this type of reacting is frustrating because many people will tell you "it's what people do, it's how you change of partners" They make you feel like the anormal one because you follow what is right but say no one is so what you're doing appears wrong. "As for that clown? I'd just laugh at him... he's a joke. " ahahaah well you made me a smile! Yes I think I was hurt because I think it was totally undeserved and I did nothing to warrant such passive aggressiveness, I thought we could be - friends - as in friendly and enjoy a good mood, never thought I'd get frozen because I don't want to help him emotionally two time or god forbid worse