I “fake” accidentally sent my ex trainer who has a heavily pregnant girlfriend a boob pic. Am I a bad person?

[Anonymous]

I mean I do know I have to change gyms now I am aware

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I FEEL AWFUL. I just found out she had the baby a day before I sent that picture !!! I now realise what I did was pretty sick…. And now I think I have to get over the infatuation cause ain’t gonna happen and even if it did I don’t want someone else’s baby dad. Thank you for your patience with me everyone & to those who judged me. Men do worse everyday …?

[Mansearching]

Why send a boob pic? They're no "fake accidents". To boyfriend fine. To trainer, no. A pic of how your body is turning out as an update, "FULLY CLOTHED!!!", ok.

We can tell a nip slip. The girl is usually embarrassed if someone notices esp in a public gym like "PF". (not wanting to advertise) I was there working out. We both were there for awhile already. She walked in when I did, by the way. We both ended up at lat machine. While on her third set as she was on her up stroke, her sports bra and half shirt lifted and her boobs fell out. As suprised as I was, I covered her with my towel as she let go of bar and fell forward to cover herself. When we both stopped laughing, I asked if she needed escorted to locker room door so she can readjust. She said no hold on a min she can get it there. That tells me it happened before and thanks for towel bc gym was full. Don't think anyone else got a view as I did.

Now that is an accident. WonderBell is right. You're in lust or obsessed. Delete his number b4 you cause problems between him and his girlfriend. You might have already with that pic. If he was smart he should block you. If he hasn't after that pic.

[Asker]

Why do you think I’m obsessed? Your right I am in lust. He’s an ex trainer and I was drunk he didn’t block me he still follows me on social media (I don’t follow him) but he has ignored the pic. I guess I find it hard to feel guilty when so many men cheat and disrespect woman anyway so why is me sending a sexy pic to a guy I really like so bad when men act like pricks all the time

[Asker]

by the way I did delete the pic and message so it apppears as message unsent but of course I don’t know if he already seen it and tbh it’s not my business the gym is about to get real awkward

[Mansearching]

Not every man cheats. You should feel guilty about sending him one. He has a prego girlfriend. If he is faithful to her then leave him alone.

[Mansearching]

You're right on awkwardness. Esp if y'all both go to same gym. For my instance about seeing that other girls boobs, 1st time seeing her in gym after there was faces turning red bc of embarrassment and laughter. But since none.

[Asker]

Genuine question: do you truly think he is faithful to her if he called me pretty said I look good checks me out and gets jealous when I talk about other guys? I don’t know I thought he likes me he even bought her a Tshirt because he thought I looked good in it it’s weird af

[Mansearching]

I don't know the man. And I also said, "if". I've even called other girls pretty in front of my girlfriend. Its an opinion. Don't confuse jealousy with trying to keep you focused on workout. Plus looking or checking you out doesn't mean that. He maybe making sure that you're lifting or doing the exercise correctly.
I'm just being honest. Not trying to offend.

[Asker]

He used to just check I was lifting correctly or look at what I was doing in a nosey way like a protective dad would when you ride a bike for one of the first times but lately it’s like looking at me as a piece of meat vibes ever since I said I like him

[Mansearching]

Maybe that's why he's an extrainer. You told him you like him. Maybe move on to another gym. He wasn't being a nosey dad, he wanted you to concentrate. I think your looking for something thats not there. The vibes might be there, I think its your imagination. If you're that uncomfortable then move to another gym. Jbh...

[Asker]

Looking for something that isn’t there? I am 98% sure if I could do it without leaving proof I’d be able to seduce him. If he truly loved his girlfriend and was 100% loyal he wouldn’t be telling me we can still be friends knowing I like him he wouldn’t keep following my Instagram knowing I don’t even follow him. Maybe he wasn’t being a nosey dad but even my gym friend said he stares at me. Who knows.. he did say I’m a pretty girl and he’s sure plenty of guys would want me but it means nothing because I really want him. Maybe I should try to take his and all my friend advice and find one or those guys who “want me”

[Mansearching]

There you go. Find who wants you. Leave the couple alone. If he follows you on gram then block him. To protect you and him. Don't destroy her life over something that could be there or not.

[Asker]

I don’t even know her so why should I care about her feelings though

[Asker]

You think I’m a bad person? Guys have taken advantage of me so many times when I’ve had the purest intentions I wasn’t the girl that was looked out for so why should I look out for others

[Mansearching]

You're not a bad person. Miss guided probably. 2 wrongs don't make a right. Don't be the person, "I was wronged all my life and I'm going to treat ev1 else wrong too." That will make you a bad person. Jesus said turn the other cheek and keep turning.

[GreenLanternI0I]

Your act will tell you exactly what type of person he is. If he truly cares about his pregnant G. F., he will stop talking to you ones and for all, But if he is faking his feeling towards his pregnant G. F. he would be Heavily invested in keeping a contact with you. Ohh and if something happens between him and his pregnant G. F. and you be able to get him for yourself, do not expect him to be loyal to you either (obviously).

[Asker]

I don’t want a relationship with him cause I wouldn’t trust him because he’s already flirted with me whilst in that relationship but I do want to sleep with him because I really like him and if I can do that I’d like a friendship maybe. He has not unfollowed or blocked me but I unfollowed him he simply ignored me. Somehow I’m not ashamed and even feel fine to go to the gym where he works still after this maybe I am crazy. But I just feel like it isn’t so bad

[GreenLanternI0I]

Do not be a culprit in a destruction of his family or whatever messed up relationship he has with his pregnant G. F. It will backfire on you and there will be heavy repercussions. It seems like he started to dig a hole for himself already. If I were you, I would walk away, do not be attached to a person who will fall into that hole, because he will drag you down with him.

[WonderBell99]

Girl, you need to stop obsessing over your ex-trainer. Yes, you are a bad person. I've been seeing your questions for a while now and it is only getting worse. You are so very clouded by lust that you refuse to realize that he has a pregnant GIRLFRIEND. They are starting a new chapter of their lives together, but you are keen on sabotaging their relationship. Is this really worth it? Don't be the other girl. You don't even feel remorseful for your actions and that is a cause for concern.

[Asker]

How am I obsessed with him and I mean I don’t feel remorse I feel like unless they are married he he fair game I don’t want a relationship with him because if he can be unloyal to her he can do the same to me I just find him super interesting and I’m not a bad person I’m a great girl a lot of people tell me how kind and selfless I am, in fact I’ve been a doormat so many times in life maybe that’s why being bad for once kind of feels good? I’ve been walked over a lot so maybe not being selfless for once makes me happy it just sucks it’s in the worst way

[spartan55]

I have no words...

[Asker]

@spartan55 if you have been mislead lied to and sexually assaulted as many times as I have after saving your virginity for 20 years maybe you’d understand why I just don’t care anymore

[Asker]

@spartan55 I’m selfish yes I am jealous and bitter and angry and I probably do need help your right

[spartan55]

@asker I am sorry those things happened to you, but they in no way justify your actions.

[Asker]

@spartan55 I didn’t say they justify my actions but it might provide context as to why my ability to rationalise the situation is skewed and to why it’s been difficult for users on here to have me understand when they explain to me why I shouldn’t pursue certain things? I know it’s wrong but because of everything I’ve faced when I’ve been pure and nice and innocent I almost feel anger toward situations like his knowing he will never want me and she’s the “pure one” and because I’m so down lately I don’t plan on living long I assume I won’t be on earth to serve the karma anyways. It’s dark but it’s where I’m at. Maybe I’m an awful person but I wasn’t always like that for a long time I was admired for being too kind and nicer than most and even right now people at the gym I met this trainer call me the girl who has a smile that would light up a room. Little do they know that smile is fake as fuck and if I was really that girl I’d have way higher morals

[Asker]

Do you mean my questions regarding the situation or just in general are getting worse

[spartan55]

@asker
Your recent questions have been about this situation so...

[7Phoenix7]

He's going to know that it wasn't an accident.

[Asker]

What makes you think that

[spartan55]

We know a nip slip when see one.

[Anonymous]

yes. why not just ask him if he is interested in the first place? you don't even know if he has a girlfriend, or a wife, and you just carelessly send a nude pic. and in this case, since he does have a life and a relationship, you should feel awful. not sure what your intentions were. to just have sex? next time check before doing this nonsense.

[Asker]

I already knew he did when I did I I became really interested in him and wanted him to see me behind her back

[Anonymous]

Bekaaaaaaaahhhh! You NAUGHTY girl you! You cheeky monkey! lol! Well done sending a boob pic though! I hope you got both the girls in the frame for maximum effect! I'll be he THOROUGHLY enjoyed that! You've got a phenomenal pair!

[Asker]

I don’t know if he seen it I deleted the message when I sobered Up

[Opinion Owner]

How good a shot was it? :D

[Opinion Owner]

Hey--I'm sure he appreciated seeing some high quality boobage during such a stressful time!

[spartan55]

Wow, this whole situation just gets classier by the day. Funny there was no mention of a boob pic until now. Why is that?

[Asker]

Because I’m drunk right now and sent a boob pic to his WhatsApp his business account I think I have to accept that I need therapy because I am a person with a damaged thought process bc if I was his man I would be livid and I would absolutely never want this behaviour to be happening toward my future man or dad of my kid. My friends are disgusted I can’t even tell some of them. I need to work on my morals. I need to heal. I’ve never been in a relationship but been assaulted, dealt with cheating men, had men pursue me just for sex or cheat with me and lie to me that now I have no respect for actual relationships because my experience my entire dating life seems to prove to me that the game is skewed.

[Anonymous]

Lol well because I’m not your trainer yes it’s wrong. But if I was your trainer it would be perfectly fine

[Asker]

Do you think he’ll tell the other staff on me or would most guys keep it to themselves providing they just got a nude for no effort from a girl they have admitted is pretty

[spartan55]

I'd be more worried about him showing it to his pregnant fiance...'tell the other staff on you'... you are just oblivious.

[Asker]

@spartan55 I never plan to go to that gym again realistically his pregnant fiancé may confront me in social media or in person or may name and shame me to her friends. Maybe: but at the end of the day I already feel so much pain and loneliness everyday that a few people hating me and thinking I’m a disgusting home wrecker doesn't feel that bad when I realise the man I have been lusting over may even briefly lust back over my picture

[spartan55]

That makes it worth it for you. This is like watching a train wreck.

[Asker]

@spartan55 In conclusion I have a lot of unheald trauma and I’m out in the world with all this truama and a lack of self discipline in the triggers. This is the result of that, a jealous ass bitch that has no consideration for other peoples relationships and will do whatever to get her way even if her way is brief sexual atttaction from said guy to then be ditched like a ton of bricks whilst he pursues a more worth while girl or goes back to the one he belongs to not giving into my games. then I’m absolutely powerless. At least I know how it unfolds

[spartan55]

You seem much more self-aware than I originally thought. I think counseling is something that could help you.

[Asker]

@spartan55 maybe some months of therapy and focusing on healthy relationships and cutting off every man who wronged me may give me a 50/50 chance of healing I’m aware to really heal I need to face it on the head that my behaviour right now is game playing and will only attract unserious candidates. I am self aware it’s just sometimes in in denial because I know I’m a good personal with good traits but then I do this evil selfish horrible whoreish self centred bratty behaviour and then it makes me realise I might be a good person but there’s also bad in me, there’s negavitity and jealously there’s a dark cloud ruining things. But it doesn’t mean it can’t be fixed.

[spartan55]

I think it can be fixed for sure.

[Asker]

@spartan55 I sure do hope so

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t think he will tell other staff. He may show his friends, which could potentially be staff who are his friends. I doubt he will show his fiancé as one person said. For one if he does he’s done beta ass male. Like running to the principal to tell the principal a girl pulled his hair. If anything he will save it, use it for self pleasure. But to tell his fiancé if he has any sense will know that this is just going to give him toeiboe even if he didn’t ask for the pic. Yes he could still get in trouble if she found out. Either way he’s ducked cause women are like that.

[SlavicThor]

Ask yourself, How'd you feel if you were pregnant with the man of your life and a woman sent her nudes?

[Asker]

I would go crazy on her and go crazy on him incase at any point he made her feel comfortable enough to send something like that

[AmeerX]

No need to change gyms and no it's not bad if you like him

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Can't you just find a single man? 🙄

[Asker]

Definitely but I really really like this one

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Don't rely on your emotions. This infatuation you're feeling right now will eventually fade as years go by.. and there you'll realize you're pursuing the wrong guy. 😬

Go for the single men, sis. Choose wisely and take care of yourself. Don't torture yourself by pursuing a wrong man. Your future self will thank you. :)

[sheikalana]

You come out as thirsty and an attention seeker.

[Asker]

Do you know me?

[Anonymous]

You're a jerk.

Yes, you're horrible

[Opinion Owner]

Is this your UK or US account?

[Asker]

Why is it such a bad thing like men don’t lead on use and mistreat woman everyday? How does that make me so bad it’s my body and I don’t even know the girl so I don’t owe her loyalty

[Opinion Owner]

Guys can be jerks, women can be too.

[In_Trance]

Gnarly

[Asker]

What does that mean