What does it mean when a guy wants you to sleep over and give you a key to his apartment?

[Anonymous]

• So I’ve been seeing this guy for a while and we haven’t really had the talk yet. At the beginning we just mentioned that we were going to keep it casual but things have changed at least from my perspective. We’re talking a lot more and having coffee and breakfast together when we never did that before. He recently asked me to spend the night & even mentioned that he’d give me a key to his apartment so I could take care of his pets when he’s at work. I’m going to talk to him about it but I just thought asking on here wouldn’t hurt. Are these things that people do In casual relationships? Or is this a sign of him wanting something more?

[CarrieNC]

The fact that he's asking you to spend the night and even offering to give you a key to his apartment is a pretty big deal. I mean, not many people just casually hand out keys to their place, ya know? It's definitely a sign that he's comfortable with you and wants you to be able to come and go as you please.

Another thing that stands out to me is the fact that you're having coffee and breakfast together. That's a pretty big deal too, because it's not something that most people do if they don't like someone emotionally. It's a sign that you're spending more time together and that he's interested in getting to know you better.

And let's not forget about the whole taking care of his pets thing. I mean, that's pretty much the ultimate sign of trust and commitment. He's entrusting you with something that's important to him, which is a pretty big deal.

All of these things taken together definitely point to him wanting something more. But don't just take my word for it, talk to him about it. Communication is key in any relationship, casual or not.

But let me tell you, I've had guys do similar things before and it turned out to be just a casual thing, so don't get too excited just yet. One guy I was seeing, he always wanted me to come over in the morning and even made me coffee sometimes, but it turned out he just wanted a morning fuck buddy. So, it's not always a sign of something more.

It's important to keep in mind that everyone's different and every relationship is different. So, don't assume anything, just talk to him and see where it goes. But, don't be afraid to call him out if he's leading you on. Don't let him play with your feelings, though.

In the end, it's all about being open and honest with each other. If you're both on the same page, then great. But if not, then it's better to know upfront so you can move on and find someone who's on the same wavelength as you.

[Anonymous]

He wants a pet sitter or he wants to get closer with you. That’s big trust from someone. Keys are serious to a lot of men.

[JPresidente]

Sounds like he wants to take your relationship to the next level. Some people move fast these days.

[spartan55]

I wouldn't get your hopes up.