What does it mean if a guy invites you to study and then invites you to sleep over in his bed?

[kyuuchan]

This guy and I have a bit of a past. 3 years ago, we were quite close & I’d always hang out with him - we’d play video games, go to the movies, cook together, etc. I was interested in him but couldn’t commit because I had just gotten out of a bad relationship. we were only barely physical (no sex or kissing) & after a bit he tried to move things forward a bit too fast so I got triggered & stopped talking to him. He tried apologizing, but my mental health was at an all time low. A bit later, he starts dating a mutual friend. he is still dating her

I reflected a lot during the pandemic & wanted to resolve some of my past regrets so I could move on. I apologized to him for not talking it out & accepted his apology. I offered to be friends again & he accepted; he was a really cool dude I just wasn’t in a good place when he made his first move.

The 1st night I started texting him, we spoke for 6 hours straight until we both fell asleep, even tho both of us worked all day and drove 3 hrs to get home. The 2nd day, we texted for a few hrs & then decided to call & play video games together. The 4th day, he asked if I wanted to study with him at his house. I agreed & he told me i smelled nice when i got there. We just chatted the whole time. He would complain about his girlfriend & how she just sleeps whenever he visits her (they’re long distance), how she’d refuse to go on dates with him, & he even received some calls from her while i was there but all i heard was her yelling at him. then he’d try to reassure me that he was happy with her.

The next day, he asked if I wanted to study again. This time we actually studied. suddenly it’s 2am. he offers to let me sleepover in his bed. I hesitate, but I accepted. He didn’t do anything; we just talked until we fell asleep. In the morning he asked if I wanted to get brunch. It feels like we continued right where we left off. What does this mean? Is he still interested in me? He seems unhappy in his relationship. what should i do?

[SlipperyStinker]

The guy seems to be in a confused place and is going through a difficult time. I don't think he sees you as an option but very much appreciates your company. If you are interested in him then I suggest supporting him and waiting it out. His relationship will most likely fail and it will crush him, but be patient and give him the help you can. He'll come around.

[kyuuchan]

Thank you for your reply! I was thinking of doing exactly that actually. I wasn’t sure if I was overthinking it because of our past. But when he opened up to me about how much his current relationship was hurting him, I wanted to give him some support. I don’t think he has many friends to confide in about relationships or deeper topics because they’re mostly the toxic gamer type (ik bc I’m in a discord server w/ all of them bc we game together). So as a person that is very emotionally charged, I feel like the reason why he’s doing all this is bc he might be because he wants help.

[SlipperyStinker]

Remember he isn't your responsibility and if things become toxic towards you then you have every right to speak up and say what makes you uncomfortable, upset, etc. Its good to be there, but its bad to be used. I am happy I could help though!

[kyuuchan]

**might be because he wants help

[Tunasub]

It means you'll be studying

[Espresso-Grande]

It seems like he wants to have his cake eat it too.

You're also giving him the green light too.

[Dannymadness]

It sounds like he’s really interested and wants to get closer

[Dinklex3]

It means that he isn't a trust worthy partner.

[Turtleneck22]

I means you need to study a lot more.

[Anonymous]

It means that he wants you to be his side chick.

[Anonymous]

let's fuck?