Why is my guy friend cold towards me and nice to others?

[Anonymous]

So like my guy friend and I used to be super close, he told me everything he was doing, feeling and thinking during the day. I also helped him with his anxiety. But since over a year he became cold and distant. He takes a long time to respond, almost tells me nothing no more and his answers are short and unemotional. I did ask him what is going on, but never received an answer. The weird thing is, he is the complete opposite to others. He send me a screenshot of conversations he had with others a few times (because he needed my advice in something) and he was a completely different person there. Nice, talkative, interested, emotional, explaining in detail (while he only says what's necessary when talking to me) and so on. He also responds to them fast. What could be the reason, he turned cold on me?

[OfMiceandMen]

If you've never given him a reason to give you the cold-shoulder, I would go out on a limb and say he has a crush, and doesn't want to let-on.

A bit of a childish way to tell someone you like them, but it's no uncommon.

[Asker]

But wouldn't that make him nicer and wanting to see me often?

[OfMiceandMen]

You would think so, not sure why some people prefer to go the opposite way. Maybe he thinks, the more I ignore her the more she'll like me. Kind of back-asswards to me.🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

But I already confessed to him a long time ago and he rejected me..., so it would be easy for him to get with me now if he wanted to, he would just have to tell me

[OfMiceandMen]

For some reason, he does not appear to be interested... some guys are all about the chase!

[Asker]

So you mean he's interested and hides it or that he is not interested and just became cold?

[OfMiceandMen]

I would say the latter, if you confessed you liked him long ago. Originally, I thought he was playing hard to get and he was doing the whole, look at me I am cool and ignoring you thing.

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

No such thing as "guy friends". Especially because if he was a "guy friend" JUST, a friend, you wouldn't be asking about him

[Asker]

For me he is not just a friend cause I am into him, but officially we are friends, since there is nothing going on. We just talk, and in the past talked a lot. I used to always be the person to go to to help with his anxiety.

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

Then MAKE IT OFFICIAL. TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM

[Asker]

I can't... he rejected me about 3 and a half years ago, and harshly.