He took my virginity, played with my feelings and then left me saying I am ugly and he just did not say not to lower my self esteem. How to recover?

[Deimy]

[abc3643]

You will recover in three parts...

1. He took your V-card. That does suck losing it to a douche like that. Well, misery loves company and realize that many women (and men too) have lost their virginity in a similar fashion. With time, this will not be a big deal and no man worthy of you will care.

2. You realize he WAS a douche! He did a "Wham, Bam, thank you Ma'am" throwing salt in the wound. You did make a mistake in falling for him, but be thankful God let you dodge a bullet. This guy IS a douche and the sooner you find that out, the better. Can you imagine who much suffering and waste you would have gone through he stayed with you but was a douche all this time and then dumped you? Yeah, consider this a blessing in disguise.

3. Believe me, you aren't ugly. If you were, he wouldn't have been with you. You will definitely find another guy... and soon. Let's just keep our fingers crossed that the next guy is also not a douche.
>>>> Make a man EARN his way into your bedroom. And part of that is that he is willing to wait so you can get to know the real him better. Trust me, this will pay off taking this approach because a guy worthy of you will do just that - wait and let you get to know him (and because he wants to get to know you too).

[abc3643]

I can find your other question which I think you asked anonymously yesterday but you are not ugly in the least. You are a lovely young lady and will definitely find another young man who will appreciate your distinctive beauty and who you are. Don't worry; one day, you will be happy.

You can always PM me if you want to talk.
Je parle Français... un peu.

[Deimy]

Thank you ❤

[Deimy]

He is really cruel, I found out he was dating his ex at the same time, even taking her to my recommended places to visit in my country ( she lives in Israel, he lives in my country)

[abc3643]

You are always welcome. and you are most definitely not ugly and rather attractive.

[Deimy]

Have you seen my photos?

[abc3643]

Yes, I have. I would have been happy to date you when I was your age.

[abc3643]

And you live in Lithuania, right?

[Deimy]

Yes :)

[abc3643]

Do you have any questions for me? You can always PM me, if you wish.

[abc3643]

You wrote this over a year ago as an opinion to a question. This opinion of yours is very good and you should re-read it to remind yourself of your worth...
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I should say that I when I was about 18 years old, I hated myself and saw myself like the ugliest girl in the world who has no future, no talent. I met my first love ( he was a player) , he wanted to use me for sex and leaved me when I refused to do it. He disrespected me. I had a guy friend , he used to joke about fucking me, but on the other hand he was protective of me, wanted to spend time with me, but in the end he disrespected me, bullied me while acting so kindly with other female and male friends. He said that I am ugly, not normal, that I will never have a boyfriend and I am stupid. I did nothing to him but he acted like he hated/ loved me. So , I had a trauma after these experiences

>>>>>>

but after all somehow I understood that I am beautiful, I am talented and these guys saw me like better, like a girl that they will never have, so, I live now just for myself and do everything I can to make my life better. For me.

[abc3643]

Honestly, do you really love yourself for who you are? ↗

[Deimy]

I actually love myself and I see myself as beautiful but it is not about the words they say but dissapointment. They dissapoint me...

[abc3643]

Ah... you need to become a Buddhist and learn about "Impermanence".

Basically, disappointment comes from having expectations that aren't met. If you don't have expectations, then you don't get disappointed.

Anyway, yes, I think you are distinctively beautiful.

[SnowedIn]

One foot in front of the other; one step at a time. Do those things that make you feel good and that make you happy. Little things. Pet the cat. Buy a flower. Make a fresh cup of coffee. Little things, a lot of them, and one day at a time.

[BJP21]

He had a small dick anyway, keep your head up, you will always find better than what you are looking for. Hang out with friends that can make you smile and laugh.

[Deimy]

No he had a big one xd

[BJP21]

Then he's just a Douchebag with a sex driven ego. &*&^ him you can find way better, and when you do make out with him in front of your ex.

[AmeerX]

Deimy please have some self respect. Stop men from using you for fun. Seen a lot of posts like this.

If you want someone you can date them but stop giving them your body to use and discard.

It's going to take some time to recover

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know where you’re meeting these guys at but that’s bad to treat you like that. You have to find better people like at church

[Deimy]

I am religious but after what he did I started to hate my body

[Iron_Man]

No, there’s nothing wrong with you you’ll be OK

[Deimy]

Why he treated me so badly? Why having no morality?:(

[Iron_Man]

It’s really bad I don’t know why somebody would be so cruel to use somebody like that and cut them down later

[Iron_Man]

You are going to have to move on maybe try to get counseling

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

Hope that the next guy doesn't do the same. But, please, do not start accusing every man of being the same. That's how you turn off a man

[misogynistic_pig]

Damn, that's the gigachad.

[es20490446e]

Find a good quality dick, not a jackass.